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Would you ever marry a guy the same height as you

279 replies

Sergio4 · 30/05/2018 01:58

I wanted to know if most women would ever consider this. What is the minimum you would settle for? How many inches taller does he have to be?

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DaffoDeffo · 30/05/2018 07:29

There are a lot of women on this thread saying it would bother them. My (male) friend is 5'8'' and had a terrible time online dating. He is v good looking and lovely but after 3 months, he had not got one person to meet him. He had been honest about his height on his dating profile. He thought it might be something to do with his height. On a lot of dating sites the women put in a height range and he searched through the profiles and found the majority of women in his age group had specified 5'10'' as their lower height limit which meant they wouldn't date him.

I think it's incredibly sad that women are missing out on a decent, kind, good looking man because he's 2 inches too short! Ridiculous!

2 women who did speak to him (but never met him) spent the first messages asking him whether he was truthful about his height or whether he was even shorter as apparently a lot of men lie about their height (and make themselves taller) for this specific issue!

Vernazza · 30/05/2018 07:32

What a sad shallow little world we live in.

Herja · 30/05/2018 07:33

I did. Marriage failed, but not height related...

I'm fairly tall. 5,10 in shoes (proper flats with a sole, not heels). Ex was 5,8.5. I'm never going to look small and dainty! In any case, I like looking tall.

timmyitstimmy · 30/05/2018 07:34

I'm 6ft. I have dated men ranging in height from 5ft6 to 6ft7. Height doesn't bother me at all. Currently married to a lovely man who likes to claim to be same height as me, but I'd put him more at 5ft11... 😁

Herja · 30/05/2018 07:35

In fairness. I font think I'd want to ho more than a voiple of inches shorter. 5,7 would probably be my limit. I'm not sure why.

cakecakecheese · 30/05/2018 07:36

Why would it be a problem? The photos? Get the guy a box to stand on Grin

I'm actually baffled as to why, in 2018, the man is still expected to be taller than the woman in a relationship!

Eolian · 30/05/2018 07:37

I don't understand why any woman woupd be bothered by this. I mean, why? Why on earth would you need your partner to be taller than you? It doesn't make any sense at all.

VickieCherry · 30/05/2018 07:38
Hmm

I don't like tall men. I hate being loomed over, it makes me feel claustrophobic.

I have a lovely male friend who is quite short for a man (about 5'4) and is permanently single. He does all the right things - good job, own flat, very well travelled, v clever, etc. He says his height is a huge issue in the dating world.

FirstOfMyName · 30/05/2018 07:38

Well considering I’m not shallow then yes I would. Only an inch (in flats) between us.

MaudlinMews · 30/05/2018 07:39

DaffoDeffo That’s so sad, your poor friend. Its true though that most men who online date inflate their height purely for this reason. Life is harsh for short men.

Ive never been with anyone shorter than me but then I’m 5’ 6” so most are taller. If he was great in every other way though I would.

FirstOfMyName · 30/05/2018 07:39

I’m small breasted - imagine if he’d said not dating you because you’ve got small boobs. No different.

Olddear · 30/05/2018 07:40

You like what you like. I prefer taller men. I just wouldn't be attracted to a wee man. Just in the same way I wouldn't be attracted to a fat man. If that makes me shallow, fine, I can live with that

sendthecoffee · 30/05/2018 07:42

I'm 5ft 11 so most blokes are my height or only a tiny bit taller than me so didn't have too much choice if I looked at it that way!

Theducksarenotmyfriends · 30/05/2018 07:43

I tend to prefer shorter men, at least my dp and most of my exes were shorter than me! Can't believe people still care about the man being taller in this day and age, how ridiculous!

haverhill · 30/05/2018 07:44

I seem to be naturally attracted to men of about 6 foot for some reason, but would and have had relationships with men slightly shorter than me.
My friend is 6’2’ and painfully self conscious; I strongly doubt she would date someone shorter by more than an inch or so.

Bowlofbabelfish · 30/05/2018 07:46

I’m very short so it’s unlikely I’d even meet a man shorter than me. Exes have ranged from 6’4” to about 5’7”.

But it wouldn’t be an issue. If you love someone you love them. Looks, height, wealth etc are nice extras but they are not the core of a personality, and the personality is what you sign up to spend the rest of your life with. So height I don’t really care about, but decency, humour, kindness etc are non negotiable

I once overheard a flat mate’s sister bemoan how she couldn’t find a nice man then state she couldn’t possibly date a man who didn’t have a manicure... the mind boggles.

I would like to be taller myself though, although of course that’s impossible without major surgery, which I wouldn’t even consider. Being short can be a pita sometimes!

HawkinsIndiana · 30/05/2018 07:47

No. I'm five one and I don't find men under 6 feet attractive. I can't help it. I have never dated anyone under 6 feet.

You can't help who you are attracted to.

SnuggyBuggy · 30/05/2018 07:48

I prefer taller men and probably wouldn't be attracted to someone my height. I'm only 5'2 so haven't really met a lot of men my size so haven't really had to challenge this way of thinking.

For balance I would argue there are probably as many men who wouldn't want to date a taller woman. It goes both ways.

Pandora79 · 30/05/2018 07:51

Everyone has the right to have personal physical preferences about the partner they choose to be with - just be aware that putting it out there makes you look like a d

So you can have a preference. But you can't say it? Even on an anonymous forum?

I like tall men with broad shoulders. It's what I am attracted to. Just is. I married a man the opposite, who I loved but wasn't physically attracted to. That caused issues and is one of the reasons we split. When I was younger, I thought that didn't matter and that love was enough. But long term, it wasn't. The fact that he wasn't my type did impact the marriage. I want to be with someone I fancy as well as love.

If a man didn't want to date me because he prefers women with smaller boobs, or a smaller bum. That's fine. That's their preference. If we got on well, but not physically attracted to eachother then we would be friends.

It's not ok to be rude about someone's appearance. But it's ok to have preferences.

squagmire · 30/05/2018 07:54

I wouldn't, because I'm already married to an awesome guy who's 2 inches shorter than me.

Branleuse · 30/05/2018 07:56

my dp is roughly the same height as me. Its not an issue.

ShatnersWig · 30/05/2018 07:57

I have several friends who are 5ft 4 - 5ft 8 and point blank refuse to date men under 6ft tall. Just won't.

Unsurprisingly, they've been very long term single and moan about it a lot but they will not budge. Have to say, as a guy, when I did online dating, a very large number of female profiles said they would only date men over 6ft. So I think it is a "thing" for quite a lot of women that their man MUST be taller, let alone same height.

AliasGrape · 30/05/2018 07:57

I’m 5’7 ish, DP 6’2

Have previously dated men my height or shorter, wasn’t an issue.

I’d marry DP because he makes me laugh, shares my dreams, I trust him with my life, he would be a fantastic dad, and he feels like home. Pretty true that would still be the case whatever his height.

chronicallyawesome · 30/05/2018 07:58

*If a man wouldn’t marry a woman with small tits or who didn’t wear make-up we would be considering him shallow.

Same applies.*

^^This. I'd be with someone for who they are, not what they look like.
That said I am overweight and single and figure there's no point even trying online dating.

AliasGrape · 30/05/2018 07:58

*pretty sure