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Feeling positive about the future after DH died

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Chasingsquirrels · 25/05/2018 16:07

Just starting off before we hit 1000 on the last thread...

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MrsJonesAndMe · 18/06/2018 21:37

Think we got the gist of it 😄 When do you go?

DD still wandering around moaning Ffs ... I'm ready for bed.

Willow2017 · 18/06/2018 22:02

Whats she moaning about?
We go 6th july cant wait (apart from the drive)

MrsJonesAndMe · 19/06/2018 06:23

Couldn't get to sleep Hmm

Ah, that's not long! We go on the 20th. How are you feeling?

Willow2017 · 19/06/2018 07:13

Morning.

Still feel it but taken meds so should be fine for a while. Got to get bloods taken for it this am.

Nicer morning fingers crossed it stays that way.

Chasingsquirrels · 19/06/2018 07:53

Fingers crossed for an okay day for you Willow x

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bookbook · 19/06/2018 10:57

Morning all
yesterday evening got away with me - late back from DDs , then watering greenhouse/folding washing etc - though a nice light evening at least.
Willow - thinking of you,carrying on - hope today eases the pain some more. I bet you are looking forward to the holiday :)
Ooh Horse - good week to have off - the weather is much nicer than they were saying - it s lovely here .
MrsJ - so you are away on holiday on the 20th? Where to ( in the distant reaches of my memory, I had it that you were going home towards the end of the year, but I'm probably wrong )
Chasing - hope work isn't building up too much again.
84 - hope all is well.
I've been a bit here and there this morning - l have already been to the Doctors ( just a routine appointment) , hung washing out , tidied the kitchen. Just about to go to the market , then allotment with DH this afternoon, and committee meeting tonight . And trying to fit in as much crochet in between times :)
Have a lovely day everyone .

Willow2017 · 19/06/2018 11:53

Pottering this morning after bloods done.
Have vacuum bagged the 2 double duvets and the all curtains.
Hoovered upstairs and done bathroom.
Tried on my 'dookers' (swimming costumes) and I have 3 that still fit (one even a bit loose!) yeah. Put out some stuff that I dont wear anyway and a spare duvet. Trip to skip and clothing bank required.

Got my 'removal pack' today, boy its heavy!

Book busy as usual Wink

Hope the weather stays good for you Horse.

Have a good one all.

Chasingsquirrels · 19/06/2018 12:01

Work seems okay thanks book, busy but managable.
I think I've got a touch of something, I am definately NOT operating at 100% today.
I'm also utterly emotionally reeling at everything that's going on regards C, but not comfortable sharing it on an open forum - which although theoretically anonymous, I have clearly signpointed myself to anyone who actually knows me.

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Willow2017 · 19/06/2018 12:08

Squirrels
((Hugs)) hope it comes to nothing, and you are just a bit under the weather with all the emotional upheaval and extra workload.

It must be such a lot to deal with finding yourself being happy with another man, needing to move on in your life yet still missing and loving the one you lost. I wouldnt want to imagin the conflict inside your head (whether you want it or not) which may sometimes overwhelm you. Just remember you deserve happiness too, wherever you find it. I dont have any answers but if you just want to get it all out/have a rant pm me.

Willow2017 · 19/06/2018 14:38

Oh well the bubble wrap wont go far very small piece! But have posted some ads on gumtree to try to get rid of my stuff and there is a huge bundle for free couple of miles away. Fingers crossed I will get it.

Chasingsquirrels · 19/06/2018 16:26

Thanks willow, fingers crossed on the bubble wrap. My dad had a huge roll (like carpet roll size) that we borrowed when I had my home birth with ds2, but we never actually used it so it will be somewhere in his heaving garage!

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MrsJonesAndMe · 19/06/2018 17:19

Hello, quick check in... survived the day. Going to hop in the shower soon - been so humid!

squirrels I hope you're feeling better physically and emotionally. It must be a rollercoaster.

willow packing without somewhere to go is a big leap of faith. Hope you get the bubblewrap and a house

sounds busy busy book We're off to Wales. My parents are coming this way in August.

Hope you're having a great few days of peace horse

Still no sign of Lottie?

84CharingCrossRoad · 19/06/2018 19:51

I'm here. Just not been online much. Have a very sad house here...
Have had to buy some tinned food to give Mr B as he isn't keen to eat. Mum is feeling sad too. We both are. He was a huge part of our family. Sad

Feeling positive about the future after DH died
MrsJonesAndMe · 19/06/2018 20:14

Aaaw, hugs to you all. Hope Bumble starts eating soon too x

Willow2017 · 19/06/2018 20:37

Hi all,
MrsJ just going to do the stuff we dont use day to day just to get ahead of the game.

I am getting the bubble wrap on Friday yeah! Its a huge pile so can keep till needed up in loft.

Hope Bumble is feeling better soon. Bless him he is missing his pal too. They leave a huge gap in your life.

Survived work, not busy at all and good co-workers which makes all the difference.

Chasingsquirrels · 20/06/2018 07:59

Woken up with a sore throat, blocked yet runny nose and streaming eyes. Lovely. So not such a 24 hour thing then.
Not sure if I mentioned I've been tired since Sunday (when I briefly fell asleep on C after we'd walked Charlie) and yesterday morning felt a bit wobbly when I got up and not firing on all cylinders at work.
Oh well, this too will pass.

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bookbook · 20/06/2018 08:24

Morning all
Chasing - hope you can shake it off quickly ( unless its proper hayfever? Its been a very high pollen count for the last few days). I'm with Willow btw - if you want to just chat to a virtual friend , pm me. No experience but I do have a fairly sturdy shoulder to lean on :)
Willow - you sound very organised - any news as yet on new housing ?
MrsJ hope you managed some sleep last night - Wales is lovely - we have visited Tenby and Llandudno for holidays in the past - I loved St Davids :)
84 - poor bumble - ( and you all) - its one of the few ways they can show how they are feeling .
Gosh had a busy committee meeting last night - we hd a lot to get through , so was a lot longer than normal.
Today is nice and gentle - am off to my craft club this morning. We are doing an extra DGS pick up today, so missing all day pretty much!
Have a good day everyone

Horsemad · 20/06/2018 08:25

Hope you feel better soon Chasing, summer colds are horrible. Well, ALL colds are, tbh!

84, hope you are all bearing up Flowers - these darn'd pets leave footprints on our hearts.🙁

Weather still reasonable, although I think we are forecast rain today. It's sunny & quite breezy at the moment. Nobody else up yet, so having a cuppa in the garden, just me & the cat 🙂

Hope everyone has a nice day, whatever you are up to!

Horsemad · 20/06/2018 08:27

Hmm, that ^^ should say 'pawprints on our hearts'...

Willow2017 · 20/06/2018 09:02

Morning all.
Raining here of course as school are doing sponsored walk! Only found out last night of course 😀 ds1 is doing a checkpoint with a friend and ds2 has to do the walk/run 5k.

Webt to bed with heat pads strapped to my back last night as damm sore and they are still toasty this morning. So was lazy and threw clothes over pjs to take kids to school so as not to waste them😀😀 will get shower after brekky. Beans on dry toast yum yum not life isnt right without butter its hard to find something without fats in it 😉

Squirrels hope the lergy goes pdq sounds awful. Hope you get time to rest up today and just take care of you.

Got hosp appoint late afternoon so pottering time today. Need to book car in for service before hols. Tell tax credits they have my hours wrong (no surprise there then).
Wonder if i get any better luck.on gumtree? Not a squeak on fb local ads.

Have a good day all.

MrsJonesAndMe · 20/06/2018 11:51

Hello, oh no... that sounds yucky squirrel hope you feel better soon.

horse that sounds like bliss!

Typical that the weather is poor for a sponsored walk willow What are they doing at the hospital?

book busy as always! Enjoy the extra DGS afternoon.

Willow2017 · 20/06/2018 12:29

MrsJ getting bloods checked again to see if they are still 'up' or I need more steroids (perish the thought!)

Been tidying up, ds1 apparently hoovered their room yesterday...just picked up a shed load of stuff off the floor and plonked it on their beds/put in the wash. I have left the hoover for him to try again today Wink Have not tidied up the surfaces, they can do that themselves. He thinks I am stupid!

Tidied out some drawers, did washing. GB being reasonably tolerable today, fingers crossed its settling down.

MrsJonesAndMe · 20/06/2018 19:16

Hope all have remained quiet on theGB front.

Been busy here, but just done my yoga and about to hit the shower and chill.

Want to start some more big squares for the Snug hugs tomorrow - though the deadline is early July, so can't see much getting done.

No other news to report here. Just very humid. Watered the garden hoping that Sod's law means it will rain and clear it a bit.

Have a good evening all, catch up tomorrow x

bookbook · 21/06/2018 09:09

Morning all
A bit grey and cool here today and pretty breezy. DH and I were going out to the coast for the day, but due to wind we have put it off until tomorrow ( DH can't cope with the wind, however warm ).
So, had a lazy breakfast, but now need to get in the shower and on with the day. Need to water at the allotment, pick yet more strawberries and try and get rid of some weeds!
Willow - how did hospital and bloods go ?

MrsJ - yes please to rain !- Its as dry as a bone here . I'm plodding on with my snugs - just about to finish square 18 , so should have time to get the all done and joined by next week with a fair wind :)
Horse - another dry day for your holiday - hope you are enjoying and relaxing .
84 and Chasing - hope you are both okay
Have a good day everyone

Horsemad · 21/06/2018 09:14

Morning everyone! Blimey, it's blustery here - Beaufort Scale 6 apparently according to my neighbour Hmm - I just know it's bloody windy!!! Grin

Chasing, I hope you are feeling better today?

When do you get your blood results Willow? Fingers crossed they are all good.

I am SO enjoying my week off. Just treating myself kindly & chilling. I had trifle for breakfast today GrinGrin

Off to meet a friend for coffee this morning, so another nice day ahead hopefully.