Dh sent me a photo by mistake.

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It’s really rattled me.

He sent a bunch of photos that all made sense in relation to a big purchase we’re considering- this other photo was completely random.

I sent a text back saying- I’m quite sure you didn’t mean to send this photo to me.

When he came back from work he was very defensive and said there was nothing inappropriate/sexual about the photo and that I was being unreasonable.

I have a very strange gut instinct that I cannot shake off. We almost split up 5 years ago when he was trying to persue someone on social media/sexting. We got over that and decided our marriage was worth saving on the proviso he did it again he was out-instantly.

Something’s not right.

Where do I go from here experts?

I agree. I suspect that's why she's not posting much - posts like this one. I'd be the same.

I was trying to keep an open mind with regard to the Invasion of the Huns. But seriously??? FfFS

Please only update if it helps Coats.

Another thinking of you , I hope you're feeling strong and empowered!

I think some posters need to realise this is someone's actual life and not just a juicy soap giving you your latest fix of drama

Seconding the pp who said please only update if you find it helps and lots and lots of

Maybe namechange and start a second thread if you're feeling drama-llamered (is that a word?). Thinking of you, Coats.

If it isn't a word it should be.

"I'm exhausted. Got Llamad by my sister this afternoon for two feckin hours."

I think of you daily Coats- love and strength.

ive been thinking of this lady from day of first post and im avidly waiting for her to FUCK him over ok so why the hell should i not say what we all thinking..whats mean about that..why start an argument on a post that im blatently telling OP that im proud of and so because of her post ive took her advice and told other people to listen to..so which bit of my reply told you JUX that im enjoying Coats pain???? pls let me knw

i dont find Coats life a drama and i genuinely feel people have invested their time into wanting the best for her and so if i asked for update its not for DRAMA..i genuinely do care..what a joke i cant ask whats happening without usually high horses thinking its malicious

sorry Coats xxx

Just popping in @coats to cheer you on

No, I'm not thinking that, or anything like it.
I'm not avidly waiting for anything.
And I certainly don't expect anyone with this amount of shit going on in their REAL ACTUAL LIFE to update me at all. None of us here have any right to expect anything from Coats. She is living this and has quite enough on her plate without thoroughly insensitive posters demanding updates. I can practically hear you rubbing you hands with glee. It has made me feel a little ill, frankly.

Don't you think she's got enough going on in her life atm?
Don't you realise how shit it is for her?
How dare you expect updates.
How dare you voice your salacious requirements for updates?
Do you honestly think it helps Coats to know that you are gossiping about her real life pain behind her back?
How dare you?

We are here to give people in horrible real situations SUPPORT and ADVICE. We are PRIVILEDGED in that we can actually sometimes help someone who is facing appalling difficulties. That's enough. We have no reason nor right to expect anything from them in return and if you can't see that then you may find that Net Mums would be better fit for you. They do a lot of 'hunning' over there, too, so you'd fit right in.

You have no right to load on an OP's guilt just because you are waiting for the next update. It's so horrid. Do you honestly not see what you're doing or did you have an empathy by-pass?

are you batshit crazy Jux???... seriously..of all the people on here asking how Coats is and updates you sit there telling me who has been through the same but without getting ducks in order that im enjoying what she is going through..im not starting any argument for your enjoyment..bye...

Coats i hope YOU and dcs ARE ok hun xx

Xxx

Bloody hell, do pipe down ffs.

Shammy's post was as supportive as the rest. Back off eh.

Shammy has clarified and said they have also been through this - seems mean to not want to accept this

Anyway, it's not a drama, it's someone's real life & I hope Coats is having a good week!

I think it was shammy's rather...erm...flippant tone that annoyed people. The lol and xxx were definitely rather out of place I thought. As was the implication that she'd been gossiping in RL about it. I think those were the things that made her concern a little different from others'.

And we all know that hunning is completely verboten on MN.

Agreed that unfortunately shammy's tone sounded a bit overexcited and gleeful and a bit out of kilter with the tone of the rest of the thread. But hey ho, lets move on and not derail.

Or be too snobby about the way some of us express ourselves

Hun all you like shammy, try not to mind the about the snobs

It's really uncool to squabble like this on a support thread in Relationships. Its not AIBU!! Calm down.

Sorry to derail. I just found her comment extremely salacious. The explanation just sounded like a get out.

I was having a particularly rough time once and was posting on Mumsnet and similar attitudes and comments really upset me, I didn't want op to think people were gossiping about her and excited for more drama, it's her life, it may not feel nice people are excited for new instalments.

I do realise that bickering on such a serious thread is out of order so sorry for that. But I don't feel I've shown myself to be a bitch.

"Dying for more lol."

Look. Shimmy May well have been through similar and if so, I’m sorry to hear it.

I took issue with the ‘glee’ with which the update was requested, but also ;and mostly) the LOL. That, right there, trivialised what coats is going throw though and reduced it to entertainment.

So I stand by my comments. Shammy I am sure your concern is heartfelt but maybe think before you type.

Coats. I hope this is the end of the detailing and that you are feeling as positive as is possible under the circumstances.