Dh sent me a photo by mistake.

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It’s really rattled me.

He sent a bunch of photos that all made sense in relation to a big purchase we’re considering- this other photo was completely random.

I sent a text back saying- I’m quite sure you didn’t mean to send this photo to me.

When he came back from work he was very defensive and said there was nothing inappropriate/sexual about the photo and that I was being unreasonable.

I have a very strange gut instinct that I cannot shake off. We almost split up 5 years ago when he was trying to persue someone on social media/sexting. We got over that and decided our marriage was worth saving on the proviso he did it again he was out-instantly.

Something’s not right.

Where do I go from here experts?

I can't see if this was mentioned before but I feel certain that your DC will need private orthodontic treatment in the next year or two and you should probably book that in now.

Id advise against life time memberships. Survival survival.
Think "would a judge be sympathetic?" before doing it. Obviiusly sometimes financial survival mode has to trump consideration of that question but bear it in mind. My x's solitor tried to make me look like i had boyfriendS (i didnt) and unsinuated that i didnt want to work and wanted an easy life. So no life memberships to gyms!!

It is ok if these are family things.

TwentySmackeroos

Made me actually laugh out loud

Bit Late to the thread op but other things to stash:

Batteries of assorted sizes
Lightbulbs
Hoover bags
Bin bags
Foil, wrap etc

Totally different circumstances I know, but When I moved countries we had a budget for moving and I spent some on essentials like this for the moving container. The price soon stacks up and they last and last. I went to Costco with a friend who had a card and bought in bulk.

I also did a little Ikea trip for t lights, scissors, spare drinking glasses, etc etc.

Also if you are storing clothes & fabrics maybe some of those vacuum bags to keep things dry and dust free?

What about buying tins of food to store in there?

I would say you could store rice/pasta as well, but it may attract rodents. However, you could stock up on these at home? Does he routinely cook/clean, because if he doesn’t you could store them in a place he’s unlikely to look (or come across it by chance).

Do you buy things on ebay? If you do, then instead of the amount coming out of your bank account automatically when you make a purchase, transfer the amount of money you want to over to pay pal before buying. This allows you to transfer a little bit more over to paypal and it can accumulate. So if you purchase something for £20, transfer £30.

[whispers] whats a hoover bag...wont the OP have a dyson?

Everything going ok @CoatsProtectionLeague ? X

Hope everything's ok OP

I wonder if you insure your car in advance eg pay for 2/3 years

I hope your doing ok OP ......

Hoping you're ok OP.

Hoping you're ok OP.

Been thinking of you today, I hope you are doing ok.

Have been wondering how you are Coats, hope you're ok 💐

Just checking in on you Coats and hope you’re winning xx

I’m ok.
Thanks for asking. X

Good to hear. Thinking of you

Morning coats
A few things have gone through my mind...
Definitely consider costco, to stock up. You could do a big shop just a few days before the reveal. That way you don't need to worry about whether the food will last.
Number 2, m and s have 20%off all school uniform. Maybe get stocked up? Also, kids' school shoes/ trainers etc
Number 3, thinking long term for holidays how about camping? You could buy a tent and a lot of the equipment to plan for a summer holiday?
Number 4, might the kids need new bikes soon? Birthday/ Christmas or a' summer holiday' present
Only you know what kind of expenditure you can afford and pass off.
Hope you gave a good day today x

Just want to say Coats.... that l think l have a girl crush on you . You are absolutely amazing. My STBXH left me for OW coming up to a year ago. Everyone says how strong I've been with coping with everything, but what's kept me strong is keeping one step ahead.... just like you are doing. He thought l was stupid and useless.... well I've proved him wrong this last year.

I did as everyone has suggested above and whilst l still had our joint credit card (which was actually his and l was second holder so not liable for paying it ) l stockpiled food, paid up front for stuff like Amazon prime, bought the kids clothes in the next couple of sizes etc.

I also could access all his emails as l knew the passwords so got proof of his infidelity.

Hope you are ok op x Thinking of you.

Glad to hear you're ok, Coats. I'm thinking of you.

Just an extension of what Freda said about spousal maintenance.

I got this when I divorced husband of 16 years, together 20.

He was appalled at the idea of having to pay that and child maintenance for years and years so my solicitor suggested to his that he make a lump sum payment instead (which was £7k) and then that's the end to any further claim for this from me, forever.

For me it was good because it meant a higher amount to put as a deposit on the house for me and kids.

Thanks
Had a mad couple of days sorting, binning and storing -it’s an odd feeling knowing that tomorrow is a charade- he has no idea it’s his last family occasion with us apart from Father’s Day coming up - it’s an odd feeling.

Best get all the gifts ready and put my best fake smile on- I didn’t realise how well I’d mastered it.