What's the worst thing an Ex said to you, when the relationship broke down?

[Huskylover1]

My first husband cheated on me, throughout our 20 year relationship. I had no idea, until about 16 years in, and then I took a few years to leave him.

Some gems from him, on learning that I was leaving :

• I'm going to convert my parents loft into a bedroom, and the children can live there without you (50 miles away)

• You will live to regret this (erm, no, I won't)

And my personal favourite, after weeks and weeks of begging me not to leave....

"Oh just fuck off then, sex with you was like fucking a corpse anyway"

Gaaah

That he was going to burn the house down with me and ds in it.
That he'd go to social services

Ex said a lot of hurtful things but I think one of the most infuriating things he did was use my credit card to pay to cheat on me with someone else. I’d like to say I left him then and there but it took me another couple of years (of sexual abuse, constant bullying and assault) but yes that helped kill any love I had for him. The cheating (yet again, wasn’t the first time) was bad enough but kicking my credit card and using that to pay to do so really hammered home what little respect he had for me.

It’s useful to remember though whenever I start feeling even a tiny bit sorry for him. Or doubting myself for leaving the way I did. I just remember things like that. Helps massively.

Using my credit card not kicking not sure what happened there.

My ex gave me an ST I that produced a horrible smelly discharge. He tried to blame me for giving it him! I finally found out he was having an affair with a close friend. In a spiteful moment I mentioned her husband had said it was like fucking a dead body. Ex came back with "well at least she doesn't smell like one!"

Grew up in care - one particular cretin would often remind me 'no wonder your parents didn't want you'

'I was having a big tit day' - after cheating on me

When I was 37 weeks pregnant and hadn’t heard from him for months, he rocked up at my home because his Mum had forced him to come round:

“You and that baby are getting fuck all from me. I’m not buying a damn thing. I owe you and that kid fucking nothing. Told you to abort and you wouldn’t listen. And yes I know I pushed you to get pregnant but as soon as that test was positive I changed my mind and you know that, but chose to carry on anyway. I’ll make sure you get no child support, no babysitters, nothing.”

He ranted on in that vein for ages, saying he was going to ruin my life, Make sure I could never do anything, etc.

The next day his Mum came round, he’d told her he’d sobbed and begged me to let him be involved and I’d stone walled him.

Which was funny, because I’d recorded the conversation Manipulative liar caught bang to rights.

Funnily enough he’s now on the dole, sofa surfs and I’m on my way to a top Uni after spending a year at college busting my ass

My ex left when I discovered he was cheating on me, his parting shots were that he hated me, resented me, felt sick whenever he looked at me and if I didn't move out of the way he'd hit me. Needless to say am better off without him! Still at the time after being together 14 years it hurt and it has left me with some ongoing self esteem issues.

Wow! Some truly vile ex partners here!

My most memorable was after receiving his divorce petition from me a text in Klingon translated to; "you have no honour" it took me 2 days to stop laughing.

I can't think why I left him. He was such a catch...

From my ex (not a bad or horrible person but immature and delusional):
"You'll regret ever leaving me. When I'm rich and famous you'll wish you had stayed with me."

Erm, many years later he is neither rich nor famous.

Ex told people I was having sex with my Dad, that I was on drugs. All sorts.

Best was she. He said he would put petrol through the letterbox and light it while we slept. We being me and ds who was 2 at the time. Delightful human he is!

The phrase went ' I did love you but I love myself more' 😂😂😂😂

Sigh.

Same as all of the above.

Why don’t you do us all a favour and commit suicide was my particular favourite.

At least with threads like this you realise they’re not even original, are they?! Wankers!

"For the last 5 years, I have been living with you for the sake of our daughter".
"I want a new family and more kids. Just not from you".

My ex has said to me he knows why all the guys left me.
That I'm a phyco.
I need be sectioned.
If he knew I had such a problem with his female mate he wouldn't of got with me. Cheers for the reassurance.

"You should kill yourself. You make me want to kill myself" this a few years after a family member committed suicide.

As a man, I want to apologise on behalf of men for all the above.

Not all men are that cruel, I promise.

Well, women do shit things too.
I dumped a guy once and he said (pretending we hadn't really been seeing each other) "I thought we were just having fun" (as in, you can't actually dump me you know) and I said "I think you were having more fun than I was" (he was crap in bed....).

Was suffering from PND and had just found out about his multiple affairs. He called me a fucking loony.

Told me if I ever left him he'd hang himself in the garage.

When I was having some time away from him at his mum's, he said if I didn't come home he'd wake up the DC (3 and 1), put them in the car and drive to get me. This was after 2 bottles of wine.

"You had nine years with me, you ought to be grateful."

Oh really...

Oh, and I forgot this one, from an ex who is actually getting married soon. Pity the poor woman....

He said: "You've always thought something was wrong between us, something wrong with me. I think you have a right to know that I was taking to crack cocaine."

Taking crack cocaine.

Ex fiance, father of ds. When I asked him why he stayed with me for so long, and why he asked me to marry him, if he'd never loved me, he looked me right in the eye and said very calmly, "it was convenient".

He's literally screamed in my face that I'm a cunt, whore, martyr, fat, ugly, disgusting, all sorts of awful names (usually while being drunk and disorderly) . But our whole relationship being based on convenience stung the most . He tried to take it back, said he just said it to be hurtful but he didn't think that. Ironic that all the things he "didn't mean", were probably the only things he said that were actually truthful.

I was told that I would end up a lonely person because no-one could ever be with me because I was such a horrible person!

Here I am, married to a wonderful man with two beautiful children, great job helping others and nice lifestyle.

I believe ex still lives in a shitty bed sit smoking weed and getting pissed all day

I bumped in to an ex on a train and we ended up having a polite chat. This was about a month after we'd broken up and he then brought up that we should try again. I said that a busy train wasn't really the place to discuss it but I didn't want to get back together.

I said we could talk on the phone later about it and he started getting angry and shouting at how much of a shit girlfriend I was and how much he hated my friends and how his friends hated me blah blah blah.

He stood up to get off at a random stop and shouted at me "You've missed your chance now. Good luck getting over me."

I laughed back "Getting over you? Mate, I didn't exactly have the best time being under you. I'll be fine."

A few people on the train started laughing and he stormed off the train. I have never been more proud of a comeback or the timing of one.

I hope you and the baby die in childbirth.