What's the worst thing an Ex said to you, when the relationship broke down?

[Huskylover1]

My first husband cheated on me, throughout our 20 year relationship. I had no idea, until about 16 years in, and then I took a few years to leave him.

Some gems from him, on learning that I was leaving :

• I'm going to convert my parents loft into a bedroom, and the children can live there without you (50 miles away)

• You will live to regret this (erm, no, I won't)

And my personal favourite, after weeks and weeks of begging me not to leave....

"Oh just fuck off then, sex with you was like fucking a corpse anyway"

Gaaah

Ex: dc are interfering with my social life
Me: what exactly do you want me to do about that??
Ex: put them up for adoption
Me (speechless holding door open) ok!
Ex runs out wailing that I'm taking his dc away from him
Me bangs head off wall
Ex at this point had been paying no cs wasn't seeing dc at weekends and was pissed that he was having to watch his mother parent one day during week in her own home!!

There's loads more shit directed at me but this one just took the piss and clearly I didn't react as he intended maybe I was suppose to give him a get out of parenting free pass rather than agreeing

Obviously I didn't and wasn't going to have my dc adopted i was just so incredibly gobsmacked that I couldn't even for a second feed his unbelievably selfish drama. He'd always threatened to have nothing to do with dc if we split.
And true to his word he eventually moved away no contact details without even telling dc. (My fault for dumping his financially abusive drug taking controlling arse!!)

'All you're gonna do every weekend is fk random guys. Have fun being a c*m despository'

Yeah he's a lovely guy

My ex had the audacity to try and tell me that my vagina was wider than other womens vaginas which was effecting our sex life......
I might have been upset by this if it werent that his dick was very very small..... and it really was, it was well below the average 6inches.

I regret that I couldnt bring myself to say 'really? I think its probably your tiny dick not my wide vagina. That plus you thinking a 5 min pump and dump equates to good sex'..... I felt like that was too mean. So I just said nothing.

I did cheat on him though. Which id like to say im not proud of but that would be a lie... I am proud. It was the only time in my life ive cheated on someone and im glad it was him.

ExDH: If it wasn’t for me you’d be nothing

More recent ex: It’s no wonder your c* is hanging down around your knees- all you’ve ever known is cock

Latest ex, when I was genuinely suicidal: “If you go to the hospital, we’re done.” Me: “Can you come and sit with me then please?” Him: “No. I’m not in the mood”

Years ago, when I discovered that he hadn't dumped all 3 of the concurrent girlfriends before asking me out, but had kept one going. I wasn't happy. He said "but if it hadn't worked out with you I wouldn't have had a girlfriend". He genuinely didn't understand why I might have had an issue. The relationship never really recovered from that point.

"It's not that she (the OW) was bad at sex, she was just very inexperienced. She never had an orgasm until she had sex with me...." ( Said when we discussing his affair while sat in bed together)... What did he want a bl**dy medal!

Whilst discussing our wedding day during a nice country walk (less than a year after we’re married) I asked my husband if he’d thought I’d looked the best I ever had on our wedding day (as you kind of expect to!), it was only an off the cuff comment but his reply was “I think I preferred you in that blue dress you’ve got” (worn to a friends wedding a year or so before ours).
Not particularly evil but what husband says that??? A bride wants to feel like her husband thought she was perfect on her wedding day.
Unsurprisingly, he was having an affair and a lot of the shitty things he said was out of guilt and trying to reduce our relationship (later fully admitted to this tactic).

In the grand scheme nowhere near as bad as others. People (esp men) are bloody evil sometimes!

How about ' I was even prepared to stay with you when you had your breast cancer scare ' said after nearly 20 years married.

'Before I met you, I had loads of 'dirty sex' '

Said during a conversation 3 days before Xmas when I was 7 months pregnant with our second child - when he told me he was leaving me.

I'm sorry I couldn't replicate 'dirty sex' with you. It's just that sex with you was shit and rough and gave me thrush and you were sub-fertile hence me needing ICSI to have our babies so lots of the time I thought what's the fucking point.

But hopefully the OW obliges and gives you the 'dirty sex' you crave

“You’re just a mum, that’s all you are” - no, I gave up a perfectly good career to stay at home and look after your kids.
And the one that gave me the rage, said in a ‘kindly’ patronising way “my only worry is I don’t want you to end up like your mum” - my mum who was an awesome parent despite being disabled and bringing up 3 children on benefits after my dad left her. She died when I was a teenager, so that was a really low blow.

Needless to say I re-trained, got an awesome job, bought my own house and am generally setting out to prove him wrong on every level 😁

Some, no all, of these are just appalling. It’s given me the rage! How dare these men be so fucking callous?? for everyone who has or still is dealing with such poor excuses for human beings

for you all. Mean fuckwits.

Mine while I was I the depths of pnd: if you tell anyone you are mental, they will lock you up and I will keep her away from you.

I’ve had my ill health, which I’ve overcome for the most part, held against me as a reason too. I’m going to bookmark this thread to come back to in case I ever feel like I might be falling in love again.

This is quite outing potentially but fuck it, my ex walked out on me on Xmas eve whilst I was in the middle of a breast cancer scare, massive lump found and hospital appointment day after Boxing Day, so I spent that time alone as I couldn’t go anywhere due to hospital. It got worse after that believe it or not.

But in terms of something he actually said it was ‘well I came to all your appointments last time’. He didn’t by the way. What did he expect me to say? Well done you!

solebiz

"I only married you because you were pregnant and my mother said I should do the right thing" (he was 33 when we married)

"I think you'll find it doesn't count as adultery if you've paid for it" after admitting to having a prostitute on a business trip while I was in hospital having prolapse repair surgery (after having his children)

"(newGF) says that all the people you thought were friends were only pretending so they could laugh at you behind your back"

"Your mother told me that you'd always been a disappointment to her and your dad" (this was after she'd died, so I couldn't ask her....)

"(newGF) makes me feel so much more of a man than you ever did, she's much better in bed than you"

Oh God, I could go on, the list is endless... Twat.

Oh, and the clincher: "you should deal with your self-esteem problems, you know"

I did, love. I divorced you.

Ex: 'I bet you enjoyed getting raped.'

That he'd known after 6 weeks of living together that it would never work and that he'd never loved me. At this point I'd endured 5 yrs of financial & emotional abuse, we'd married and had dc. His DM told me that I was too old and boring for him (she wonders why I don't roll out the red carpet when she collects dc ).

Looking back over the relationship with this information I suspect it was one of the few truths he ever told me. Some time after we split he asked me what my happy memories of our marriage were and was cross when I said I had none due to him never having loved me. His response? "Well that's what you say when you want to split up". I suspect he was wanting to be able to tell people that it was a good marriage but we'd drifted apart rather than telling people that we'd split because he continually drifted between the legs of a succession of OWs.

DonkeyPunch88 your user name really scares me let alone your story and now you're with CP. Please understand you are worth a hell of a lot more, for your children and your own safety.

"You're a fucking drunken slag."

"You're trash."

"You're a fucking disgrace and not fit to be seen in public with."

Then in the next breath: "Come on love, shall we go out and get some breakfast?".

WTF?

Told me I was used goods.

That he didn't blame my ex for treating me the way he did (lied constantly, had an affair with a man and sexually assaulted me at my own prom. I was a teenager/young adult when we were together).

Said that no one else would ever want me.

That I'm a terrible mother and the children hate me.

My now DP couldn't be any further from the man Ex is and has shown me that none of those statements are true.

"You're a psycho bitch"

"Just do everyone a favor and fuck off and die"

"It's fucking unbelievable that only one of your boyfriends ever punched you in the face. I bet they all wanted to."

So happy to be single.