How should I deal with his sulking?

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The has happened quite a few times before and normally I confront him or try to coax him out of it. This time I've had enough and can't deal with this childish behaviour any longer.

Today, I messaged him at work and we agreed to meet for lunch. I normally go at 1pm but agreed to wait for him until 1:15pm as he said he was busy. Fair enough, except he didn't contact me until after 1:30pm and when we met up he was grumpy and said that he only had time to grab a sandwich and head straight back to work. I was annoyed and was under the impression that going for lunch meant actually going somewhere to eat together. Still, I said nothing...

When we were in the queue for his sandwich I asked him about dinner tonight (he said 3 days ago he would go grocery shopping, but didn't) and he said he didn't know as was out from 6pm. I said I would be happy enough with an omelette and even though I had plans myself tonight,, saidould pick eggs etc up from the shop. He said he didn't fancy that for dinner and I said that he would need to go to the shop himself as he had originally said he would shop for the both of us on Saturday. This was met with silence and when I asked him if he was now huffing with me he swore at me, said I needed to stop nagging him and stormed off.

I thought that would be the end of it as it really wasn't that big of a deal. However, he has just come home and is still not speaking to me. I am going about my business and am in the living room watching TV. He went out to the shop there and took ages presumably in an attempt to make me think he had left me. He came home with whatever he had bought, made it for himself together with a cup of tea. He then came into the living room, picked up his laptop and took it into the kitchen (he normally goes on it in the living room).

I'm at my wit's end. How on earth do I deal with this? It feels surreal and almost like a joke. How on earth can he be sulking? I did all the housework at on Sunday while he went off for a 5 1/2 hour cycle (which apparently left him too exhausted to move) but now I'm supposed to feel guilty!! Would appreciate any thoughts as very annoyed.

fuck that for a game of soldiers. pack his bags OP.

God, he sounds ridiculous! You are definitely doing the right thing.

No experience of the sulking but being married to and having kids with someone who is obsessed with their hobby is soul destroying. If it pisses you off now being left on your own while he disappears for hours, imagine how it feels being left with two small children to care for while he goes off for his ‘me-time.’ I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

Still continuing to try and undermine you, calling you nagging and dramatic.
What a total man child. What did you ever see in him?

Talk to the hand? Is he 14?
I’d text back, talk to the hand? Wasn’t planning to talk at all after dumping you.

^This.

Hang on to that backbone and get rid. You will be so much happier.

His mum does the majority of his DD’s care on his contact time?

That on its very own is pathetic.

He's trying to play it down and make you feel foolish and overreacting. It's actually a good thing that he's behaving like because it shows he knows you're serious and is trying to manipulate your perception of the whole thing.

He sounds just awful. Totally self centred and up his own arse. Get rid without any more playing up to his bs.

'I'll put your stuff outside the front door'. Don't mince words further.

He told me that he told his Aunt that we wouldn't be round later as him and me weren't 'vibeing'. I mean, seriously!! What does vibeing even mean??!!

I’d be tempted to send this back.

He just gets worse! Vibeing? What a weapons grade loser.

Eek! Im cringing for him.

“Fuck off” should sum things up quite nicely as far as a reply to that text. What a douchebag.

His auntie's probably thinking, ' oh fuck he's been dumped again.'

What an absolutely bizarre response by him of his hand. Shows how much he thinks of your relationship.

'Off you fuck.' I'd relish telling him too.

Man is a total cunt. Offloads his kid on his mother. Wants you to run about after him while he pisses about and only ok if pleasing himself. Adds nothing to any relationship you have described.

I'll say it again, 'off you fuck'. I despise men like this. Creeps.

He is such a loser!

Seriously OP, stick to your guns.

Do not let him talk his way out of it. His reactions have shown nothing but contempt.

Give him time to pack a bag. Ask him for your keys back. And off he fucks!!!!

My ex husband was like this. He'd read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and decided that if he chose to disappear into his 'cave' (ie, sulk and stop speaking to me for days on end) l should suck it up.
As l pointed out to him, that was his prerogative, but one day he would find when he emerged from said 'cave' that l wasn't there.
And that's what happened. Cue him turning up at eight in the morning sobbing, with a huge bunch of lilies. Far too little, too late.
lt's just an excuse for childish behaviour.

Go on strike

How can anyone be expected to put up with that??? Photos of his talk to the hand and vibing?! Is he having some kind of midlife crisis my 13 years presents herself better than that....

Yes I am sorry to say his family no doubt ( together with eyes to heaven) will think there goes another one, she managed to last a little longer.

Kick him into the long grass and that your lucky lucky stars you don’t have dc together

Thank

The fact that he puts his training before spending time with his child is a huge red flag!!!! He is with you for his convenience nothing more...

Tell him to leave ASAP!

He is a Dead Weight and sees women as means to an end ‘serving’ his needs.

Have u heard of the drama triangle OP?
May be useful to u or not but might help on to think how to communicate with the big baby.

Basically think of three points of a triangle. At each point there is a character....victim....persecutor and fairy godmother.

Unhealthy communication involves us stepping into one of those roles as it puts the other person on one of the other roles

I.e if u tell him off (which he deserves) then your in persecutir role....he'll likely be pushed to victim role.

Or if you communicated as s victim (u don't help round the house) then it puts him in either the persecutir role of fairy godmother who is the fixer and tries to fix all problems usually unhealthily

I'm not saying it's right but having mulled this over for a long time it's actually very true. My communication between people can slip into this drama triangle easily.

Anyway...my two pennies worth for whatever it's worth. I have to add here I'm single so not the best advert😂 butttt....

Don't fall into the triangle trap. You both loose.

The big issue here from my naive eyes is communication and his ridiculous way of communicating he's upset. Speak to him about this first. If he's not responsive to sorting this....the other issues are not likely to be sorted without much sulking and big baby behaviour