Lets have a bit of Summer Lovin' - Dating Thread 133!

[Jaxinthebox]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Wow this thread is moving fast!

Love I am going to say it again, Mr Tinder is not right or good for you. What is it that is keeping you still interested?? I saw something the other day that said something like " what you overlook in the begining of a relationship is usually what ends it"....................but months or years later. I am not saying you don't have fun with Mr Tinder or he doesn't reallly like you but there have been lots of doubts from your side. Stay strong, keep yourself occupied and lose his sorry ass. He sounds like he is draining you, you need someone who will light up your life not drain the life out of you.

choc Mr Cute didn't deserve you. Cute as he may have been.

Unicorn It seems early for the date to be dating, but I don't think anyone can judge. You said she deteriorated in the last 8 months, but I guess they had the diagnosis of motor neurone for a while, so perhaps he did his grieving before she died. Perhaps they discussed him moving on, perhaps they had an openish relationship. maybe he is just filling a hole, maybe he is ready to date. Every situation is different. Clearly he isn't right for you, but he might be right for someone.

So I spent the weekend partying with a Australian surfer. Really really really funny, quite handsome and great company. Also only wieghs 50kgs and about 5 ft. His confidence is unreal, such an example of not giving a shit. Anwyay, I am meeting him for lunch tomorrow, he has experessed his keeneess, but I don't fancy him. I am not heightist, but I am a tall girl. Anwyay, had such a blast with him. He was so sweet, but is leaving to Ireland soon. i hope he gets snapped up by a lovely Irish girl.

I am kind of seeing (ex) FWB again. It was off for 6 months, and a couple of weeks ago hooked up again and then again last night. Sex wise we are a perfect match, and last night I realised I had missed him a bit. He is really funny and so care free he is like a breath of fresh air again. I am going to really limit the amount of times we see each other, or I will start catching feelings again, and that wouldn't be good for either of us.

Mr French is stilll messaging me, but it feels like breadcrumbing a lot. I am clear where I am with him and cannot be arsed to persue him at all, now he would break my heart.....

I am back on tinder again, but I don't have the energy to go forth and constant swiping, although I have a couple of guys I am chatting to on whats app. Hope everyone is having a nice bank holiday :)

So I rang my date and the ring tone happened and then went to user busy! So another rude man bites the dust! Change your mind - fair enough but have some manners and let me know. Bank holiday now with no plans!!!!

Does that mean he blocked you? What a wanker

I have no idea but defo not speaking to me so he can f-off!!!!

I'm sorry Choc but you know you're worth more than that.

Thenew, that's just so bloody ignorant. Next!

Pudding, surfer dude sounds cute but agree, I couldn't date someone who is shorter or weighs less than I do either.

Looking, more fool him. Chin up!

Had a lazy lie in then a fun couple of hours with my FWB. It's a pity he's not BF material, we are physically totally tuned in and I could admire his body for hours

Thanks for well wishes on here, it does help to be reminded I am prize and not an option. As are all the other strong and intelligent people on here.

Xiola does that really work for you?
It sounds like a backward way of doing things to me. I don't want to do all the organising, but like to show interest and initiative.

Tinder tutorial please! I've only swiped right a few times (yesterday). Only one was an instant match. Now I have no matches. So he changed his mind, right? Of if you log out does it reset? (I'm using the website not the app if that makes a difference?)

newphase he sounds like a tosser. sorry.

edd they dont reset if you log out. some people swipe right on everyone to see who they match with then wittle the list down. very bizarre.

i saw my current “crush” today. he decided to work out right next to me and i tried to catch his eye to say hello...but nope, nothing. soo bizarre. hes either very shy or very much a prick. cant figure it out.

ah yes I see. I don't think tinder is for me really, too brutal!

I’ve dipped in and out and of this thread over the years and it’s good to hear other people’s experiences. I can relate to many of them so thank you

This weekend I met up with an online date. I wasn’t sure about him as he’s rubbish at texting and keeping in touch but we have a lot in common so I persevered. I live 40 min away from London but he lives there. I was in the city for an event so met him for a drink afterwards. He was nice and we got on well. When we said goodbye, he hugged me and suggested meeting up again ‘when I’m next in London’. I texted him later saying I had fun and thanking him for the drinks. He replied the next day saying he enjoyed it and ‘let me know when you’re next in London.’ I was hoping that after meeting, he’d want to chat more over text but he’s been just as quiet as before. No conversation, questions or flirting which would have been nice after finally meeting.

I’m a bit disappointed that he isn’t suggesting another date or offering to travel to me. It all seems a bit vague. He isn’t exactly going out of his way and I’m not sure if he’s disinterested or just busy.

EddSimcox I agree not for me either.

Can I ask for some advice re Mr Headfuck... discovered about 10 days ago that he's had a proper girlfriend while we've been seeing eachother, despite telling me he didn't want a relationship. What a fool I've been.

Anyway, today I inadvertently found out who she is and it's someone I know of: not friends at all but small talk and friendly to ecahother in passing. Seems like they are actually over but he's contacted me to try to find out what I've said etc as i saw him there too. What would you do? I don't want to upset someone out of spite and wouldn't do that either but I also owe him absolutely fuck all to keep acting like his dirty secret. Plus I hate feeling two faced and being false with someone when I know something that they really should know.

Costa, I am obviously rubbish at relationships so probably not the best person to offer advice, but if you know her I can understand why you feel she has a right to know. As you say, you owe him fuck all!

Conversationdiva sorry but I would say he's not that interested as sending off texts is fairly easy.

Costa I would walk away head held high. If you interfere will it make anything better, or backlash hits you later?

I re-joined pof and one of my first messages was from a man I know IRL. Bonus he is my type, friendly, professional and normal messages. I went back online just to chat and set things up for the future as wasn't happy with the ways things went with Mr Cute, so not in a rush. As we know each other a bit I'm actually not worried about meeting and chatting though.

Hi, I promise I'll catch up with everyone in a bit! I've been off the sites for a bit, as it was getting a bit much for me, but I had to share this wee gem 😂 My response was a little cutting I think....

conversationdiva people come to online dating looking for all kinds of different things, from penpals to new husbands/wives, and everything in between.

It looks like your chap might not be keen on a penpal that he only sees occasionally, maybe preferring a real live date every few days. That would certainly describe me.

But 40 minutes isn't really a lot if you're really looking for dates. Did you ask him to visit you next time? He might think it's odd that you haven't.

Need to catch up on the thread but was just reading this: www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/d2eae5dd-3624-4a5e-9324-37b551315741

SkyRabbit that is an amazing response....... who on EARTH messages and asks a question like that? 😂🤣 what platform are you using?

I must be really naive - what else would you use the loo for?

I think that is quite funny! I got asked by a guy once if I liked brocoli, its just an ice breaker isn't it? Unless he has a poo fetish. Good response though sky

So i decided to text my second date who stood me up on a Bank Holiday. In real life I would not be silent and it irks me that on virtual life I have to be. I'm so glad I did. As maybe he won't treat his next person so carelessly. The two !! Really show the measure of the immature man!

So me and Mr Reserved had 3 dates. Things were going well, there was a spark and he seems to have fallen off the face of the earth. I haven't heard from him in a week so assuming it's just fizzled out. Did send him a text four days ago but no reply so assuming he's just not that interested.
Ended up chatting to a guy on Pof last night, he seemed relatively chatty and we arranged a quiet drink for this Thursday evening. This morning I receive a message full of dirty talk so that's that date cancelled.
I have to laugh else I'll cry.

This has moved fast over the weekend just catching up now...

Xiola I am also interested in whether this works for you. I use to think the same but have got braver recently... often suggest dates/times now and it seems to work well.

I also didn't realise Bumble updated location when not on the app. Everything I read said that it didn't. If true, wish I'd known this before some conversations I have had with people

That’s a shame about Mr Reserved. What is wrong with people that they can’t just be an adult and explain they don’t think there’s a connection/future/whatever?

Mr Doctor continues to message me. I’m a bit that he hasn’t said anything to make me yet, given the amount of strange people I seem to attract. Maybe the absence of red flags is a red flag in itself I’ve no idea if anything will come of it but it’s nice to have a message to look forward to

Oh God, I didn’t know that about Bumble. Mr Doctor said he’s away for a few days this week. I must resist the temptation to see if his location tallies up. Or maybe I should, as a precaution?!