Lets have a bit of Summer Lovin' - Dating Thread 133!

[Jaxinthebox]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Hi ladies , just rtwt, can I join in please? I could use some friends to share the dating nightmares with.

Hi unicorn and welcome.

Advice please.... I went out on Friday and bumped into someone I vaguely know IRL. He bought me a drink and added me on social media. Since then, nothing. The vague connection is a bit of an awkward one but I quite like him.

Should I send a message? If so, what sort of message?! Or do I just chalk it up?!

@Lovemusic33 Mr Rebound sounds like just what you need. He sounds genuine so far so won't mind waiting.

looking maybe send him a message thanking him for the drink and take it from there?

unicorn you rtwt?!!!! All of it?!

looking I’d say it’s your turn to make a move... send him a message

Hi Unicorn, welcome to the thread.

@LeChatDeNuit @Lovemusic33 I had a feeling that would be the answer but I have no idea how to play this!!

I can't help feeling it could be embarrassing!

I've sent a message 🤦🏻‍♀️

oooh looking those IRL situations are the worst to judge! what did the message say?

He replied!! Instantly! 🙈 kept it breezy...

Hey guys, so I got back from my date a little while ago.

He was a really nice guy, the chat was good the whole time. He's not ugly, I just don't think WOW he's so hot. I'm also slightly concerned that he seems to be too nice a guy. Also very keen to have a relationship etc. I do feel like he'd settle with anyone, even though he has denied that to me and has been single 2.5 years without finding anyone he really likes apparently.

He did mention he has had a few short term things where the girl has lost interest after a while and ended it. Makes me wonder if it's because he is just a bit too full on. As we left the pub he held my hand which felt a bit weird. Is that just me?

Maybe I'm just freaking out, I don't know. Will have a second date with him and see.

@lookingforbutterflies eeek how exciting! keep us updated with that. Maybe he was waiting for you to get in contact x

@meowimacat think I got over excited. He's already disappeared after reading my last message!!

@meowimacat I'd struggle with intense. Holding hands is a no unless there's obvious chemistry I think!

Yes Vet, it has taken all my free time today,

Oops! Sorry, Lechat

@lookingforbutterflies hmmm difficult to know isn't it. I'd give it time maybe he's out but wanting to reply to you.

Yeah well I had told him I wanted to meet up with him again (as he asked me like they do on First Dates at the end of the show haha) so I guess he thought there was chemistry. There sort of was, we got on really well. I've been so burned by the last guy I dated I'm so cautious. My main thing is I don't want to date someone who would settle for anyone.

I'm going to try and forget about it now. Have deleted the chat so I don't look to see whether he's online!

I wish I had found you all a couple of weeks ago. I'm 'older', on match, and was on a date this time last week. [hmmm]. Wasn't sure about going, but he was fascinating, really good company, and he liked me too!

Arranged to go to his on Wednesday for dinner, and he said I could stay over if I wanted wine. He had an ex colleague staying the night before so I assumed there was a spare room. There wasn't, but that was the least of my problems . We sat in his garden drinking tea and I noticed this 'thing' in the corner so asked what it was and he said his partner had died and he had built a shrine to her.

Asked how long since he lost her and he said March. I cocked my head quizzically on one side, waiting for him to tell me how many years but it was March! 9 bloody weeks! And I was his 4th date! I left! God I can find them! This is why I need help!

@Unicornwhisperer OH MY GOD YOU CAN'T MAKE THAT UP HAHAHA. What an awful man - 4 dates as well. Wow. He's not wasting any time is he? Honestly, there are some freaks out there aren't there.

He is still messaging me, he misses me lol

@Unicornwhisperer ask him if he's made a shrine for you yet ;)

So I know you guys said Bumble automatically updates itself when you've used the app. I've looked on Bumble's actual FAQ page and it says you have to open the app for it to update your location. So I'm confused. Maybe I'm just trying to put myself off him, and there's nothing wrong with him continuing to chat to other women. Only thing is that it was before and straight after our date which is kind of rude. But oh well, I don't even know if I like him hahaha. I'm an idiot!

Oh my god Unicorn

As an aside, I wonder where the ex colleague had slept?!

Unicorn OMG!!

meow i’d Find holding hands a bit full on for a first date unless there was loads of chemistry. A date I went on (Let’s call him Captain Birdseye) did this to me as well as trying to kiss me and joking about when we’d be getting married. I was and

Vet, I did ask that. On a futon that was in his office/second bedroom.

meow, I figured that as we had only been chatting for a couple of weeks he would be over me by the next day but he is still sending messages. They were a couple for ten years. He said he grieved for 2 weeks, but wants to get on with his life. Wierdo!