Lets have a bit of Summer Lovin' - Dating Thread 133!

[Jaxinthebox]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Choc sorry about Mr Cute.

Love I agree with MyUsername, it shouldn't be this hard. If you're having major disagreements, not talking to each other and meeting up with other people just a couple of months in it really is pretty dead in the water.

I had a brunch date with Mr DM today. We're getting on really well, slow but steady

Vet thank goodness OLD is working for someone, at the moment I'm feeling passed off with it and Amy Young videos are only partially helping!

leChat why not agree, it could be genuine, but date others this week if you're free?

Pissed off

I’ve sent MrDoctor a nice message back so we’ll see if he IS genuine I don’t have a problem with not seeing each other all the time. I like my independence. His messages to me have all been really nice and thoughtful which makes a change.

Cba to date anybody else at the moment. I have bursts of dating then run out of steam.

Choc I dunno, he seems lovely but I'm very cautious/cynical. We realised today that our first date was 3 months ago but there was such a huge gap before the second date that it feels like very early days still. There's definite potential though and although I'm still on POF, Tinder and Bumble and have a few conversations going I'm not really interested in meeting anyone else at the moment. I don't think he's dating anyone else but he could well be talking to others still.

Chat fingers crossed Mr Doctor responds positively!

love just end it once and for all with Mr Tinder. He's never going to change. These behaviours will have been there a long time.

choc sorry to hear things aren't great with Mr Cute.

Vet that's great that all is well with you and Mr DM.

chat Mr Doctor sounds quite genuine to me. Hopefully you can arrange another date soon.

meow you have to remember that most men will probably be chatting to multiple women at any on time. It doesn't mean he's arranging to meet anyone, although he could be. Wait and see how date 1 goes. As others say, your location shows even if you're not using the app. I like Bumble for the reason that you can't see if anyone is online.

I'm currently using Bumble and OKC, which a friend recommended. Various chats on OKC. One guy has already asked me for a date. BUT, so many of them are in open relationships and that's just not my thing.

Can't keep up!

choc no I don't fancy either of the RL people. I guess I'm a bit embarrassed because lots of ppl don't know I'm separated so they might wonder what I'm doing on there. Also whether to say hi, or ignore? Presume if I've seen them on there, they'll have seen me?

I think I have just arranged my first ever date in 18 years! waaahh!

love just end it once and for all with Mr Tinder. He's never going to change. These behaviours will have been there a long time.

choc sorry to hear things aren't great with Mr Cute.

Vet that's great that all is well with you and Mr DM.

chat Mr Doctor sounds quite genuine to me. Hopefully you can arrange another date soon.

meow you have to remember that most men will probably be chatting to multiple women at any on time. It doesn't mean he's arranging to meet anyone, although he could be. Wait and see how date 1 goes. As others say, your location shows even if you're not using the app. I like Bumble for the reason that you can't see if anyone is online.

I'm currently using Bumble and OKC, which a friend recommended. Various chats on OKC. One guy has already asked me for a date. BUT, so many of them are in open relationships and that's just not my thing.

Oops posted twice. Sorry!!

btw, reading all your posts y'all but have no advice to proffer being entirely unschooled in dating! Reading the replies with interest :)

Anyone feel like giving a rundown of the top pros and cons of different sites? I'm bi - which seems to make a big difference - lots of them seem to make you choose whether you're looking for a man or woman, and that's not my primary filter iykwim.. currently on OKC.

Had a lovely day out with a old tinder friend (just friends), got home to loads of messages from Mr Tinder, he’s just made me really angry, it’s over and there’s no going back but the fact he can’t see what he has done wrong is upsetting me so much. I know I have to stop messaging him and go NC, just feeling fed up . I know I am the prize, he obviously thinks he is, I know I deserve better and there are better men out there.

I’m not sure if I want to talk to the new guy tonight, he could easily become a rebound and I don’t want that, I think I need to take a break.

love you are the prize. He is not. Maybe put Mr Rebound off for a couple of days? Just to get your head straight?

Mr Tinder told me to explain more about why I was upset, I did this and he couldn’t handle it so he said goodbye, then he started trying to call me (I’m not answering as my kids are here and I don’t want them to see me upset).

I will talk to Mr Rebound later, he knows what’s going on (haven’t kept anything from him) and I’m sure he will understand that I need a bit of time to sort my head out.

A bit of time out sounds like a good idea.

Mr Doctor has sent me a bit of a flirty message so I’m content with that and reassured that he’s interested.

I think that’s wise. However I’m the worlds worst woman for dating and men problems so don’t take my advice..

Hi everyone, just finished work and catching up on thread. Hope your all ok.

Im planning on setting up my profile again tomorrow. Hate taking pics of myself but I could do with some from the past couple of months and not christmas time hahah

LeChat is Mr Doctor an actual doctor? If he is id give him the benefit that he is busy. They do wrotten shifts long days, short days nights, lates, earlies and all that can be in the same week. Fitting in the basic mundane life stuff, shopping and washing, family...it can leave them very short on time. But then the next week the rota might be distant and they have more time.
Give him the benefit for now. Ask him about his shifts..give you an idea of what he's working with.

Oh just read that he's sent a flirty message Lechat ah good to hear :)

What types of photos do you have on your profiles?

edd tinder you can use to search for men and women, and change it whenever you like. however i think it only shows you other bi people too

eg. if im female and i search for men only, then search for men AND women - i dont get the same men as “men only” which leads me to think they only show you bi men. same thing happens with the women too. so they seem to think straight men wont date bi women, or lesbians wont date bi women. strange

Yes Wheely he’s Mr Actual Doctor so yes, I’m inclined to think he really is just very busy.

I have a mixture of photos. A couple taken by me and a couple showing me out and about taken by others to prove I’m not a saddo. Even though it’s true

Thanks esk might try that then. Is Tinder just pictures? Will download and check it out. Been resisting apps cos I don’t want the DC to see I’m looking. Easier to hide on laptop...

I use a mixture of photos, a couple selfies, one full body shot and one of me doing a activity.

Spoke to Mr Rebound and he asked when he could see me again, I explained that I need a bit of time to myself as I don’t want him to be a rebound, he seemed cool with that, we will keep chatting and maybe meet up after half term. So far he seems quite normal, sends me nice messages and isn’t too pushy. Only Amber flag is he is living with his parents.