Lets have a bit of Summer Lovin' - Dating Thread 133!

[Jaxinthebox]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

popple it does sound like he is maybe breadcrumbing you, which isn't nice. Hasn't he suggested meeting up again yet? You deserve so much better than someone who doesn't actually seem that interested.

vixen that's great he wants to see you again. Wealthy people can still be grounded. I'd be mortified by the phone thing though! He sounds quite charming. A second date will be a good chance to really get to know him.

choc I'm the same as you. I do get envious when I see couples and families. I often wish I just had someone by my side and have times when I feel really lonely. I am sure it will happen one day. It's just so hard finding that person!

married good luck for Wednesday. Love your open and honest approach!

Thanks Tom. It's strange but it actually gives me more confidence somehow.
I would like to find someone but it has to be real and there's no rush, have warned him I may turn up in jeans. He's coming after a funeral so I've told him to ditch the tie if nothing else, on a date they make me twitchy!
FWB sees me in my bed socks and no makeup, he's unfazed.

im soo tempted to follow my gym crush on instagram after he viewed my story

part of me thinks he viewed it to get my attention, but part of me thinks he was just being cheeky because he can tell i fancy him and he doesnt feel the same.

and part of me thinks maybe hes shy and didnt want to add me ahh what to do!? if he doesnr accept , or accepts but doesnt follow back - then ill have to move gym

esk1mo he is a man, he probably is just curious. You have caught his attention, show him what a fabulous catch you are with some clever photos :) Keep his attention piqued. And report back!

pudding ok im going in.. i think

~ prepares to move country due to shame and embarrassment ~

i instantly regret my decision

omg he accepted me and followed me back in under 1 minute

Esk1mo he is just shy, good on you for making a move.

Tom I agree it's the loneliness that is hard. I think it can cloud judgments. I'm catching up with a good friend tomorrow, going to talk with her about Mr Cute. There are some things I'm not sure about and I want to work out if I'm being fussy or he isn't making enough effort.

Oh thick skin is truely in.place vixen.
I wouldnt say im negative about it all but i am thinking my standards are so high and my tolerance to bull shit now non existent its unlikely i will meet someone 😩
Tbh as nice as it would be i have actually reached that elusive place where i am happy with myself and the way my life is going that if i dont meet someone thats ok too.
Defo not in a position where i am prepared to swap my current lifs for anything short of perfection (not actually perfection but you know what i mean).
So im under no illusion i may be here for some time 😁

esk1mo well done on being brave! One of my neighbours looked at my insta stories one weekend when I left my profile on public once. He looked mortified when I bumped into him a few days later .

love it does sound like Mr. Tinder is starting to listen and hopefully he does back off a bit and starts taking you out more etc. etc.

esk1mo its just instagram ;) Don't over think about it. He is obvioulsy interested on some level, whether thats a romantic level or not, you will find out hopefully :)

Well well well, my silence and distance has paid off. Mr Academic messaged this morning and asked when he could see me again. So we're on for date 4. Finally.

I think his slow messaging is a reflection on him. He clearly just takes his time. So I'll play it nice and cool. I won't be needy and I won't mention the fact it's been ages since the last date.

ooh thats good tom glad you have another date!

do you think the slow communication is something you could deal with in a relationship though? it would annoy me. although maybe hes playing it cool!

minnie is he an attractive neighbour?

esk I am finding it immensely annoying. That said, when I dated someone last year we would spend hours on WhatsApp in the evening sometimes and that was too much. I'll see how date 4 goes. I guess he just plays a very slow game.

Confused I feel just like that too. I've got 3 children so anyone I meet needs to meet my strict criteria because my children come first and we are great as we are. A man would be a nice addition to my life but isn't essential.

tom it is good that he asked you on another date. If I was you, on the date, I would maybe bring up the fact that it is has been a while since your last date, in like a cheeky way and see how he reacts. It may also be a chance to discuss it.

esk he's not bad looking but not really my type and lives with his girlfriend

Could I ask for some advice please.

I have a date on Saturday with a very nice Spanish lady. We're going down the bay for a bit of lunch and a walk about. If was going down there not on a date I'd wear a pair of chinos, a decent shirt and a pair of flip-flops (good ones).

Would that kind of attire be a no-no for a first date? I mean the flip-flops.

For me, flip flops would be a big no no but I’m sure I’m in the minority.

Has anybody used Bumble? I have matched with quite a lot of men. On Bumble the woman has to send the first message. I’ve sent about half a dozen messages now and only one person has replied. They have 24 hours to respond so they’ve all dropped off now. I don’t get it.

But it's going to be roasting on Saturday. All the shoes I have are brown leather and I don't want to wear trainers.........

I must like her.........if I'm worrying about bloody flip flops :)

If she’s Spanish I’m sure she’s fine with flip flops

She's been in the UK for 10 years though so she's probably not used to seeing men in flip flops......

She's beautiful and she messaged me first - which has really caught me off guard.

Still unsure about the flip flops

I use bumble LeChat. It's hit and miss unfortunately, like the rest. I don't think I've had a reply from my last 5/6 matches but sometimes I get lots. I think someone secretly changes my photos!

Flip flops would be a no for me too. Sorry 😳

Flip flops would be a no for me too. Sorry

Thanks.

It's going to be roasting down the bay and now I will have to rethink what I'm going to wear.

WTF is happening to me? ha ha.

I would say no to flip flops A4, but that's just me! I am freaked out by feet (which is my issue haha!) but some people might misinterpret it as too casual an approach?

Trainers are considered smart now IMO if you wear the right pair...

Or why don't you treat yourself and invest in a pair of loafers or something while summer is round the corner and you're going to be dating?

Do you think some of the profiles are fake butterflies?

Where did you meet Spanish Lady A4? Excited for you!