Lets have a bit of Summer Lovin' - Dating Thread 133!

[Jaxinthebox]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Morning all. Thank you for all your supportive messages. He continued to try to spin it round on me that I was in the wrong for getting arsey!! so enough of that shit - he's now gone.

My head and heart can't take any more of it from him. I'm truly done now. But it's made me realise I do actually want to meet someone nice and decent now and not just kid myself that what I was settling for with him was enough.

Tom I know, it's so rare, so to have the perfect banter (hate that word!) right from the first message plus all the rest of the criteria seems way too good to be true. There'll probably be no chemistry in person or something but the messaging is the best ever so far.

Costa well done for staying strong. He's a douchebag and you deserve so much better.

Thanks Vet. Your new talking partner sounds promising! Fingers crossed it's the start of something hopeful. So pleased some of you are getting lucky! There just has to be some good men out there. Just wish I knew where they were, would be so much easier that way! X

I just received chocolate in the post. Haven’t got a clue who it’s from, not sure if it’s from Mr Tinder as it’s not really his thing (never bought me anything, even if we eat out he only pays for his). Do I ask him if it was him? I can’t think who else would know my address 🤔

Love I wouldn't mention a thing, if it is Mr Tinder he is trying to draw you in again. If it was him, why didn't he leave a note. If its not him, maybe your new admirer will comeforth in time :)

love don't say anything to Mr Tinder. If they're from him then he should say so. Just enjoy them.

I had a message from someone on POF a week ago. He seemed ok so I replied and exchanged a few messages that evening. Since then I've heard nothing. So I assumed he wasn't interested. But today he sends me his phone number saying he isn't on the app very often so prefers text.
Does this sound a bit dodgy? I don't usually exchange numbers until I've worked out if I might want a date.

Runs I don't think its dodgy, my tinder app crashes all the time so if I like someone I will swap to whatts app. If he doens't go on there much he probably prefers whats app or texting. You can always block.

Hi, can I join in? Just joined the crazy world of online dating in the last week, all going well so far. Do you guys use multiple platforms? I've only signed up for match as it was what I used 10 years ago. Is tinder for the youth only?

god im confused. so guy at my gym i fancy but ive never spoken to looked at my instagram story on sunday. we have one mutual friend who id previously mentioned to that i thought MrViewedMyInstaStory was good looking

i asked said mutual friend if he told him i fancied him (as he viewed my story) and
he said he definitely didnt. so MrViewedMy Story (MrVMS) mustve went through our mutual friends followers to find me?

i saw MrVMS 3 times at the gym this week and he hasnt said hello/made eye contact (although ive not been looking at him either) and he hasnt added me on insta, hasnt viewed my story again. ???

was he just being nosey? was he trying to get my attention? im confused! i wish he would just add me
then message me
then confess his undying love for me

Help folks. Third date a couple of hours...
I REALLY like this guy (Mr Beard) !
We have been texting and talking each day and tonight it’s a romantic restaurant for dinner...
We haven’t kissed or anything yet... he messaged me after the last date how much he wanted to hold my hand and kiss me, I feel like I would like a fist kiss tonight but I don’t want to initiate it... I do really like him and think this could go somewhere. How do I move things on tonight as I know he is really keen but he is totally Mr Polite when we are together lol

esk that would confuse me too. The gym is awkward though, no one really talks to each other. I have a huge crush on a man at the gym, sadly he’s married so all I can do is sit and watch him on the rowing machine

esk1mo you totally need to start looking at him and making sexy eyes at him..... someone has to make the first move. Do iiiiittttt x

esk1mo if you have long hair I think its time to let it all down and rearrange your pony tail in front of him. And make more eyes at him, or just say hello. Perhaps he is curious and thinks you are out of his league ;)

Lostlily how about you sit close together in a nice bar somewhere, touch his leg., show him you are keen. He sounds lovely. Have a nice evening, or just lean in to him and say "are you gonna kiss me or not?". Hahahaha! Go for it.

Can I join? I have a first date tomorrow night and feeling nervous.

Literary sounds nice :) The worst that could happen is that it doesn't work out

I've not had much luck so far: a priest, a guy still living with his stbexw, and an emotionally abusive man child.

But apparently I'm doing it all wrong according to AIBU. I shouldn't expect him to contact me before the date except to arrange it, shouldn't buy anything new for the date because that's over-investing, and expecting a timely reply to a message is needy, precious etc. and taking 8 hours to reply is in fact completely normal. I was thinking of cancelling due to the crap communication. He has been better since yesterday so he's maybe amping up before Saturday. Any thoughts from those more experienced on here?

love at least you know he’s married, that sort of makes it better cause you wont act on it!

vixen i actually have been for a couple of months, thats why i think he looked for me. but since he looked, i cant bring myself to look at him incase its awkward! since we both “know” who each other is, and know we have looked at each others insta stories..

pudding you are right. and yes, my hair reaches my bum the other day i noticed we were about 5 feet apart and both started fixing our hair! hmph. i’ve left my insta on public but so far he hasnt looked again.

its so annoying i just want to add him & message him BUT im going to play the long game instead, he can make the first move. the day he looked at my insta i hadnt seen him in 4 days, so maybe i need to switch gym for a couple of weeks to get his mind wandering

esk1mo stop checking instagram....trust me. I deleted it off my phone and only installed it if I wanted to post something, it was driving me mad wondering if mr french checked my stories. Just go to the gym and make it a little more obvious. hes younger isn't he? He is probably working it all out in his man cave ;)

Or just add him as a friend on instagram and see what he does..? I would if I had a couple of glasses of wine. Its how it (didn't) start with Mr Architect ;)

Literary I spotted you on another thread talking about AIBU response to your date and it made me laugh a bit. It can be very rah rah rah at times. Just have fun and enjoy it.

Languid they were bloody awful and got done things totally arse about face. I think they like to just jump on people. Glad I'm not the delicate flower I once was as otherwise I'd have been in tears.

pudding oh glad to see im not the only one who slightly obsesses! yes he’s younger so not sure how experienced he is with women.

i know through our mutual friend that they’re going out and getting drunk tomorrow so ill see if anything materialises from that, he might add me after dutch courage i cant add him because
it will kill the suspense, and make me sad if nothing comes after making 1st move.

otherwise i may just avoid that gym for a little while. i dont want it to turn into limerence which i have been prone to in the past.

So tonight I went to the pub, bumped into a few old friends and a very nice tall handsome, my type man who I have never seen before, was playing it really cool and he kept smiling at me whilst talking, them one of my friends asked him how he was getting on with his new girl friend , bloody typical, he’s not single

So I had a date last night! Saw him online but actually knew him from school 20+ years ago!
Date was nice, no major butterfly's or anything like that but the chat was good and I've said I'll see him again. Hoping if nothing else it will distract me from last guy I dated (and may still be having occasional moose burgers with 🙈) and help me get over him!

New Guy seems keen anyway, shall call him Mr Home