Lets have a bit of Summer Lovin' - Dating Thread 133!

[Jaxinthebox]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Sorry to sound stupid, Tinder is mainly for "hook ups" isn't it?

I'm a bit demoralised about the thought of being a single for the rest of my life, ah well.

I’m giving up with Mr FlipFlop. The conversations are dull and going nowhere.

I’ve started chatting to Mr Hungary who seems very nice. I suggested we meet on Sunday but we haven’t set it in stone yet. He lives in a different town which he has just moved to and doesn’t know the area at all. There’s also a slight language barrier but I think it would make a nice change to date somebody who isn’t British.

I’m matching with lots of people on OKC which is a good sign but when it comes to actually having to message somebody I go off the idea of dating completely.

A4 Tinder is not just for hook ups. I have met a few from tinder, a few went further a few didn't. Some people of course just looking for a hook up, others looking for something casual, some looking for a steady realtionship. Some dates I had where there was no chemistry have remained as friends.

If you want to know what someone is looking for, ask. It also helps if you know what you are looking for too so you can have clear ideas of where something might go.

Cheers, Pudding.

So he seems completely mortified that the account still showed - I googled and it appears that the site doesnt remove inactive accounts. He says he has spend the last hour trying to delete it. I don't think I will be seeing him until the weekend due to his working hours but will step carefully now and he won't get the benefit of the doubt again.

MrBooks . still chatting, still fun etc but no commitment to a date. TAlks about setting up a date but no actual time/day/place. WTAF?

So I have Mat Hussey'd him and just replied 'no worries' to his last message.

Not that fussed with anyone else at the moment. Its my birthday weekend and off on holiday on Monday and MRSnog been calling lately again...

Hi, any room for me to join in?
I've just started dipping my toe back until the OLD waters after a shitty break up last year. Had one date so far which was honestly the worst date I've ever been on but have started chatting to somebody new, which brings me to a question- has anybody experienced getting to know someone online that's relatively long distance? I'm understandably apprehensive!

LeChat go for the ‘dating someone who isn’t bristish’, sounds perfect as long as you can understand him.

Tinder isn’t just hook ups, I have met a few people on there, one who is now a friend, never had any hook ups from there (unlike POF).

CognitiveDissonance Welcome I think it depends how long distance it is. I was talking to someone on OLD that was about a 2 hour drive away and I knew it would be too far. We did have one date and got on well but the distance was always going to be an issue. I am glad I met him though although he did get a bit needy when I said it wouldn't work. (I appreciate that 2 hours isn't that far, I just knew it wasn't what I wanted.)

I had a 4 month relationship with someone from POF last year who lived a 2 hour drive away and it was just too far in the end. No spontaneity, we could only see each other at weekends but he also had his child at weekends, I sometimes have to work on-call at weekends, we couldn't just do dates for an afternoon or evening, with a 4-hour round trip it had to be a full day or weekend commitment, it cost a fortune in petrol and so on and so on. It could have been more doable without the child in the mix but as it was it was pretty much impossible. He took me breaking up with him really hard too, it was tough.

I'm very cautiously optimistic about Mr DiamondMine but time will tell. No red flags so far; I both like him as a person and find him physically attractive which is a vanishingly rare combination for me. He's not desperate or lovebomb-y at all but from things he says it's clear that he's looking for marriage, kids, the whole 9 yards (I don't mean necessarily with me, no future faking going on) - but to quote Sex and the City, his light is definitely on

So date number 2 wit Mr Beard went well. Really had a nice time, he has already asked me out for date number 3.
Again, another who I really wasn't sure about based on his photos but in person he is so much nicer! I do fancy him..... Not as much as I did Mr Headfuck but quite a lot and in a much healthier way ☺️

Fingers crossed for you Vet!

Saw some BBC show about dating in the countryside/farmers and thought of all the people on here who should have applied

Personally, I occasionally open Bumble at the moment, but really cannot be asked to do more than that. No interest whatsoever in dating after the last guy said some things that put me off. Like many others, feel like finding someone who I'm even vaguely interested in is like find a needle in a haystack.

Planning on enjoying summer alone and maybe once the weather gets miserable again I can use dating as an excuse to get out!

Such a mixed bunch of successes and fails aren't there?!

What do you make of this....?

Chatted to a guy on POF over the weekend. He messaged yesterday asking if we could exchange numbers. I sent my number and asked his name (profile didn't have it). He said NEAL.

This morning I received a whatsapp from him as NEIL.... (haven't stored his number so it's his stored profile name).

I pointed it out and he said it was an autocorrect and he hasn't realised! That's not right is it? Surely someone would have pointed out that he can't spell his own name before me!

He actually comes across as switched on and intelligent but I'm baffled!

That does sound quite odd

looking I met someone a few months ago on POF with the same name who used a different name online. I wonder if it's the same guy? I was really cross at being misled.

Oh Tom really?! Now I'm curious! Only has one photo too which ALWAYS makes me suspicious!

looking this one had no photo and a fake name. He then liked one of my photos on Instagram. His bio meant I put two and two together and found out his real name. I was cross as we'd actually had some good conversations.

Tom this one has a random name. I haven't given anything away for him to find me on social media thankfully, I'm careful because of work. I think I'm going to steer clear!

Advice please!!!! Been seeing a bloke for 7 weeks - seen each other every week. Sex life isnt great. I dont know whether its something that can be fixed. Think he is a bit shy/out if practice but i am already seeeing it as a chore and not very sexually attracted to him. I liie him in nearly every other way, eek, help, please! I sae another thread about women going off sex with L/T partners anyway so am wondering whether to carry on with the relationship anyway?! ...

no locotion

you deserve to have someone whose clothes you want to rip off

looking I don't blame you. I have a fairly unusual first name so he found me on FB easily. Then Instagram was easy after that. We did swap numbers, but it came to nothing. We actually messaged last week again after he liked my photos on Instagram again. Despite the stalking and lying about his name, we had got on well. But he hadn't been single for long and so wasn't really ready for anything, hence the scant POF profile.

Locotion I agree with eskimo, it should be fun. I want to enjoy sex as a normal part of a relationship. I dated someone who told me he was great in bed, struggled to get a hard on, was over in 5 minutes and then afterwards told me he was great again.

Some things you can work on, but I think chemistry and sex has to start with some baseline similarities.

Locotion - noooo! Step away! 7 weeks is definitely too early to settle for rubbish!

Tom - he's messaged me tonight. I'm planning to ignore it! I'd love to know if it's the same person though!

Eek!!! 3 NOOOOOs!!! But he is patient and kind and likes me and blah blah and that seems to be sooo rare! Eek! Thinking to do thia weekend!!!

Loco I think the fact that you're not really sexually attracted to him is by far the bigger issue. Technique and confidence can always be worked on but if you're not attracted to him and you already feel that having sex with him is a chore just 7 weeks in then that really should be the death knell to the relationship. It isn't fair to you or to him, you both deserve better than that.