I just saw my dad watching gay porn

[pasanda]

Can't believe I'm writing this

I'm staying at my parents with the dc and was just off to bed when one of them realised he'd left his book down in the lounge. So I went to retrieve it and my dad was clearly watching something on his iPad. I asked what and he replied 'just checking my emails'.

There was sound though, and I thought he looked a bit weird, so I pretended to go back outside but really went back to the kitchen and round the back of him. Saw over his shoulder. Two men in a shower.

Happily married nearly 50 years. He's 73. Two kids. I love him so much. He said he was going to watch his 'sport' and he always got immersed in it so stayed up late. We had a laugh about that.

Do you think he's gay? I am absolutely flabbergasted tbh. My heart is racing and I wish I had never been so nosy!!

Do you think I'm over reacting? My mum has been poorly for about 12 years with a fibromyalgia type illness.

Why gay porn?? Fuck.

I don't know why you're getting such a hard time from some quarters op. You don't have to be homophobic to get a shock seeing your 73yo father eagerly watching gay porn, particularly as you yourself have never watched or had any experience of porn. You posted quite soon after the event, understandably upset, faced with the possibility of your father being gay or bisexual, with all that that might imply about his relationship with your poorly Mum. You've also had some sensible responses that I hope have reassured you now you've had some time to process events.

OP - I think often with our parents we have a kind of compartmentalised view and that includes their sexuality, we never want to get a glimpse of that. I'm sorry for your shock. I'd be really distraught too. I'm sure in time your feelings will fade and you should let them and enjoy your Dad and your dc their granddad. Try and park it.

I don’t understand how aggressive some posters are being towards to op. This is in relationships, not AIBU..
Op the oddest thing about it ,is him watching when your children were up and about, and he was in the sitting room, rather than in a more private space. That is making me wonder if he was watching the Versace film as suggested up thread ? Otherwise it is strange behaviour. He hasn’t ever had a stroke or anything that might have impaired his judgement has he ? I think porn is grim full stop, but there is a huge difference between someone watching something in private and watching it where his 10 year old grandchild might see. That to me suggests that the film is much more likely.

It’s intresting the lesbians who watch straight porn. I’m a lesbian as is my wife and she prefers straight porn. It’s so baffling to me as I can’t get aroused at men being present at all. It worries me sometimes that she may, because I just can’t understand but clearly it’s rather common.

Crikey OP thats a massive shock for you. I wouldnt be so perturbed though. Whats all this gay speil of yours anyway? Just cause your dad likes looking at two male people having sex doesnt mean hes potentially gay. Ive done it. Even licked from the furry cup and im a bit gay then but tomorrow who knows what i will be. Im still me.

OP, many people in perfectly happy relationships watch porn and watching gay porn doesn’t mean you’re gay. Some heterosexual women like to watch lesbian or gay male porn, and the same for men. Don’t be concerned about this and definitely don’t mention it to your mum or dad.