I just saw my dad watching gay porn

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Can't believe I'm writing this

I'm staying at my parents with the dc and was just off to bed when one of them realised he'd left his book down in the lounge. So I went to retrieve it and my dad was clearly watching something on his iPad. I asked what and he replied 'just checking my emails'.

There was sound though, and I thought he looked a bit weird, so I pretended to go back outside but really went back to the kitchen and round the back of him. Saw over his shoulder. Two men in a shower.

Happily married nearly 50 years. He's 73. Two kids. I love him so much. He said he was going to watch his 'sport' and he always got immersed in it so stayed up late. We had a laugh about that.

Do you think he's gay? I am absolutely flabbergasted tbh. My heart is racing and I wish I had never been so nosy!!

Do you think I'm over reacting? My mum has been poorly for about 12 years with a fibromyalgia type illness.

Why gay porn?? Fuck.

Not sure relationships is the best place but didn't know where else.

Idle curiosity, perhaps. If you'd caught him in flagrante with Ken from next door, you'd have a dilemma.

Oh dear...

I would try and remove that image from your head forever. .

At this stage in their lives I don't think it is worth having a head melt over!

Keep out if it and don't say anything
It's not your business.

I can't imagine seeing any older relative watching porn, must be such a shocking sight as it's so out of your normal zone with them. Try not to freak out though, I sometimes watch porn with just women but am not interested in anything further than that regards them. As long as your parents are both happy then I would try to put it to the back of your mind if possible!

God aren't you nosy? Why would you even ask him what he's looking at on his iPad?

That's a tough one. What you don't have at the moment is any context whatsoever. You don't if he accidentally flicked onto it, if it was part of an overall movie, if he did this just once .....actually you don't know a great deal other than what you saw that moment. I know it's upsetting but I'd judge him on his long track record to date than this incident. As suggested try to forget it.

Of course I won't say anything. To anyone. Ever.

I really do hope I can push this to the back of my mind!

It doesn't seem like it is idle curiosity tbh. We had only been upstairs 5 mins and he was on the iPad.

Hmmm not what you want to see but i reckon leave him to it and try and forget it, hes not hurting anyone

Doesn't mean he is gay, maybe just likes a variety of things. It's hard to think of your parents having sexual desires

Rocky poly- because we'd just had a chat about how much he loved watching sport after my mum had gone to bed in the evenings. I heard the sound and just asked. Didn't really think about it at that point tbh.

Or wasnt intending to at least

That's why you should allow people their privacy I guess

He's been happily married a long time op, I don't think he's gay do you?

It’s not your business.

Oh dear x

Well he might be gay or he might just enjoy watching gay porn, but even if he is gay, does it really matter? He’s presumably been a good dad, husband and grandfather and watching a bit of porn between 2 consenting adults won’t change that.

Seeing parents and sexual stuff is grim though, I hope you can block the image out your head!

Lots of people in happy relationships watch porn. Its none of your business. Or do you take issue with Bisexuality!?

It doesn't mean he's gay, most people watch all sorts of things they're not into out of curiosity.

You don't need to have a reaction about it. It's none of your business, just pretend you never saw.

Let it go x

Gosh, what a shock op. I can't imagine how you must be feeling.

I think it's odd for anyone to think about their parents, especially more elderly ones, as sexual beings. Would you be ok with it had it been regular porn? In answer to your question 'is he gay?' I don't think looking at gay porn makes you gay. He might be but he might also be curious, bisexual or something else. The point is he is happily married to your mother and has been for 50 years. Assuming (and it is an assumption) she is none the wiser, what he looks at on his iPad is probably hurting no one. Except now you. I imagine you wish you could unsee it. Sorry not to have any better advice.

I know it's not my business in the slightest! Like I said, I won't ever mention it to him (definitely!) or anyone else.

I'm just a bit shocked and came in mn to get opinions.

Thanks for the kind messages. Hard to forget something that happened half an hour ago but I'm sure it will go to the back of my mind.

Of course I don't have an issue with bisexuality! It's just that this is my dad!!

Straight women are known for watching lesbian porn, I should imagine some men who are straight watch gay porn. Even if he has genuine interest in men, he could just be bi, it doesn't mean his whole life was a lie. Just forget you saw it :)

In the past I've watched lesbian porn*, out of nothing more than curiosity. It doesn't make me a lesbian. Would you have been just as freaked out if you'd caught him watching straight/ p-v porn?

I think it's one of those things that you need to forget, hard as that may be. A case of Curiosity killed the cat!

*would never watch any porn now, knowing what I do about the industry.

He is still the same dad that you love and care about, forget it, you were a guest in his own home and you shouldnt have gone back to look.

If he's your dad and you thought he was up to something he shouldn't be why did you spy on him? He's an adult. I think that was very odd of you tbh.
Anyway lots of women say they watch lesbian porn despite being straight so maybe it's that same as that but with gay porn instead for your dad?