I just saw my dad watching gay porn

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Can't believe I'm writing this

I'm staying at my parents with the dc and was just off to bed when one of them realised he'd left his book down in the lounge. So I went to retrieve it and my dad was clearly watching something on his iPad. I asked what and he replied 'just checking my emails'.

There was sound though, and I thought he looked a bit weird, so I pretended to go back outside but really went back to the kitchen and round the back of him. Saw over his shoulder. Two men in a shower.

Happily married nearly 50 years. He's 73. Two kids. I love him so much. He said he was going to watch his 'sport' and he always got immersed in it so stayed up late. We had a laugh about that.

Do you think he's gay? I am absolutely flabbergasted tbh. My heart is racing and I wish I had never been so nosy!!

Do you think I'm over reacting? My mum has been poorly for about 12 years with a fibromyalgia type illness.

Why gay porn?? Fuck.

I do yeah. I only watch lesbian porn, I'm married to a man.

Why did you first of all question what he was using his iPad for, and then sneak up behind him to check?
What a ridiculous carry on

• Your dad is still the same man you love,whom you laugh with,parent who raised you Except now you know he watches gay porn. *

I don't know why, but I am absolutely cackling at this comment.

Greyhound- if you read my previous posts, it's all explained there

I read a news article recently that men have bi tendencies, not sure if it’s true but don’t think many men would admit to it anyway

Put it out your mind, he’s probably curious and just looking. Just like you were curious when you sneaked up on him..

In the absence of mind bleach you're just going to have to learn to put it out of your head.

I watch lesbian porn. I'm married. I'm bi, though I don't advertise it and I don't even discuss it with my husband as he feels weird about it. It doesn't mean he's gay, it doesn't even mean he's bi. Your parents sexual preferences aren't something you're going to discuss so it will be a shock to you for a while but you'll get over it.

I wouldn't worry about it. Just blot it out of your memory - any porn would be awful, not just gay porn.

Lots of straight people watch gay porn if that makes you feel any better. It's just fantasy. We all have fantasies, some stranger than others- doesn't mean we actuallly want them to happen in real life. I have a friend who had us in stitches when she said she'd had a very rude dream about Michael Gove but FFS she wouldn't go near him really! Our mind and body can be turned on by many things- they don't define us.

A dirty dream about Michael GOVE? Ewwwwwwwwwwwwww.... He is REALLY unattractive!

In years to come you might oddly like to know your father had his quirks and aspect of life outside of you. My dad slept with my maternal aunty and I actually like the fact I know this, makes me smile because I love the cheekiness of it rather than feeling any betrayal on behalf of my mum. My cousin walked in on them hence the reason I know, relieved I skipped the visual :)

He is 73, give him a break.

NOT your relationship. Get over yourself.

Some rude nasty people on this thread op.

It's your family unit and your perfectly entitled to feel shocked and disturbed by what you saw. It will take time before the image of your dad doing that fades in your mind.

Unfortunately you just never really know anyone 100%.

It's tricky to forget. Lots of people have latent and unspoken sexuality urges that go unexpressed. It was a shock and I completely understand you must be a bit taken aback (and you weren't being nosy or invasive!). Deep breath and lots of mental 'lalala-Ing' until the memory subsides

I'm straight with a bf and I watch lesbian porn, it's a turn on but I'm not interested in woman in real life

Are you certain it wasn't a scene from a perfectly mainstream movie or series?

I recently watched The Affair, and my 20yo ds walked in on two separate occasions in the middle of sex scenes. Both times I paused it and we had a laugh about it.

I just find it hard to believe he'd be watching gay porn at top volume while you and his gc were still pottering about.

There's also the possibility that he was watching straight porn and as he tried to close it down in a panic he accidentally clicked on the wrong thing.

Or yes, he's curious or he's bi. Who cares, none of your business, us parents are allowed sex lives aren't we. Nobody wants to think about what turns our parents on. Nobody wants our own dc to find out what turns us on. We try hard to keep all of that private and compartmentalised from our dc. Your poor dad just didn't anticipate the levels you'd go to to snoop on him.

It is none of your business and you had absolutely no right to spy on your dad - he can watch what he wants on his IPAD in his own house. You were nosy and now you are suffering for it Learn to keep your nose out in future and let people live their own lives without your nosiness and subsequent judgement on what you had no business sniffing out in the first place.

They may be your parents but they are people first with a right to privacy,

OP check out the Gianni Versace programme. There have been lots of gay scenes but it is also pretty violent so he would have to wait until the children were not around to watch it . It was on last night.

OP check out the Gianni Versace programme

No, learn to keep your nose out in future instead of this ludicrous amateur detective nonsense. Don't spy on people in future.

It’s a bit of a leap thinking someone is gay just because they like to watch two chaps in a shower.
The scene could have been from anything - a gay scene in the midst of an otherwise straight porn film. Or, as PPs have said it could have been a scene from the drama about the murder of Versace.
Even if your worst fears are true and it was a gay porn scene it doesn’t mean that your Dad is gay.
I’m in a gay marriage to a lesbian woman and we often watch straight porn - never lesbian porn - but we most definitely have no desire to be in s straight relationship.
I have a female friend in a heterosexual marriage who likes to watch male gay porn.
Calm your beating heart OP and put it out of your mind - his choice of viewing material is personal and indicates precisely nothing about his sexuality.

I reckon it was a scene from something like nip/tuck. He's binge watching and feels guilty.

I'm a straight woman but if I watch porn it's normally gay men. I have watched lesbian porn. I have no interest in women in rl. I imagine it's no different. It doesn't mean he is gay.

You spied on your 73 year old father like he was a naughty teenager?

I honestly don't understand why it's even an issue, let alone any of your business or concern.

I'd do what pp suggested and check out Gianni Versace on iPlayer!

Although there's nothing wrong with using 'sport' as a euphemism for gay porn bless him.

How would you have felt if it had been straight porn?

I should also add that I'm straight but damned if I don't love gay porn. I'm not even slightly interested in the straight stuff. We all have our little kinks.

Well having just woken up and re read the thread, I now feel better in that I don't thinks he's necessarily gay. So thank you for that

WRT the 'spying' yes, I bloody wish I hadn't done it . I wish my son had gone to get his book himself. Fuck. I wish we hadn't even gone to the library yesterday!

But I only looked over his shoulder!! And just never in a million years expected to see that. I just thought it would be a film and he felt guilty about watching it because of the sport thing. If I had anticipated for a millisecond the reality then I would have gone back upstairs to where my dc were still cleaning their teeth ffs.