Bring on the Spring Flings. It's Dating Thread 132!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

That sucks. Sorry Smeaton.

Ok smeaton fair point ;)

Do you have breakdown cover? would have done it for me. Hahahaha!

Do you even own a Lizard?

Smeaton that sounds like a lot of hard work!

Is it wrong that I want to start dating again just so I can get out and stop dwelling on things? It's only been a few days and I did really like my Ex, but I feel like there is no point in waiting around. He isn't going to want to get back together, I want to get out and about and meet people even if it only results in friendships.

Or maybe I should focus on getting out and just making friends? I don't know what to do at the moment but the more time I spend wondering what he is doing the worse I am going to feel.

molly use it as distraction and fun. If something crops up in the mean time whom you like then go for it. Or do something else, like go get your hair done, go meet friends etc.

I use it as a distraction as it helps me cope in a way. Maybe it isn't healthy but I think I would have gone insane in the last year since I left my ex without male company.

Hi all, been a bit quiet but enjoy reading the thread.

Smeaton that sounds literally torturous...it's great to find out about the other person but it's not an FBI interview...

Pudding it's interesting you say about being busy and explain this to dates. I've been seeing a lovely guy a couple of months or so, but as we're both busy, particularly him, we only manage to see each other once a week or so. We're an hour from each other, have children and busy jobs. It does feel like we can't enjoy a faster momentum sometimes but I would be interested to hear others experiences of this? FWIW he and I both seem to be very keen on each other so I'm hoping it'll continue.

oh wow smeaton that was a proper interrogation. I wouldnt even class that as a date! Go drown your sorrows in the bar.

Smeat - how long had you been interrogated before you went on this coffee 'date'?

Smeaton - you make me crack up. Don't change.
Molly and Pud - that's what I did when I finished with MM.
Not a lot to report here.

Thank you pudding I wasn't sure if I was being to quick about these things. But I need to do something to fill the horrible, crushing loneliness I feel without him.

And thanks to you too, Third

I'm glad i'm not the only one who feels the need to do this.

Checking in to the new thread (will read later), hope some of you have moved over to the smitten bench and I hope there has been good dates.

Back from my week away, I need to re vamp my profile. Do people find writing less gets more messages? My profile isn’t really long but probably says too much so I have reduced it down to hardly nothing. There’s still not many new faces in my area so I’m not holding out much hope.

Molly I have a long event I will be at in three dsys with exB, knowing I am on Bumble will distract me from the "what ifs" thoughts.

Saying that I now have two on What's app that are useless. One is telling me his life's woes the other seems bored. Two more could still be possible dates.

newyear I dated someone last year and we had busy lives ( I still do!). We saw each other once a week maximum, sometimes it was once every two weeks. We WhatsApped every day though and always said goodnight. That was enough for me. I had no time to see him any more. It made it fun (at first) when we did see each other.

love my profile is long-ish. I add some specific things I like, for conversation starters. And I try and make it funny and not generic. For a while I'd written that I can parallel park. They got a few comments! Happy to proof read yours if you want me to.

Tom that's interesting, did you find the lack of time to meet up impacted the potential of a relationship? How did it end if you don't mind me asking?

I've done it. I've set up on POF again, where I met my ex.

I filled out my profile using the blog anitt posted a link to as a guide. Hopefully making it clear that ambition, drive and effort are important to me will filter out anyone who can't get up for work in the morning!

Wish me luck!

Oh god - I give up - a 34 year old wants to meet up - FFS - both my children are older than him - back to watching Schindler's List for me

Smeaton - are you sure that she wasn't part of MI5 with the endless questions and interrogation....... 🙈 don't go removing parts of your anatomy..... she sounds completely mental. Swerve and be thankful you made it out alive 🙈

Just as I had got him out my head, ex FWB pops up and asks me what I am doing tonight. I replied "not you". Is that a bit cruel? Hahahaha? If I wasn't meeting Mr French tomorrow I would have said yes. I've missed him but he drives me insane with his horizontal (total) attitude to everything, communication being one.

Geez swiping^ when you get over the empty shallowness or leftying a potential 'soulmate' - is terribly^ boring 🙄

Italic fail 😬

Glad to hear it Smeaton. I have my latest, MrWow here but he has fallen asleep. I know everyone said don't see him but he really is lovely. I shouldn't really share this but I have had to go to the "clinic" today.
Long story short, I feel everything has caught up with me. I feel like shite. I could wait upto 2 weeks for results. Has anyone any history of this, testing I mean?

not sure what you mean third? have you
had unprotected sex and are worried?