Bring on the Spring Flings. It's Dating Thread 132!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Just a quick update.
MrWow is now officially my boyfriend, lol. Had a lovely talk today about us being an item rather than just dating.
I have deleted all my OLD accounts.
Still waiting for his test results, which is a bit of a downer but he's assured me whether he has it or not, it will not make a difference to how he feels about me.
Sorry not been following this post for a few days. I will continue to dip in and out if that's ok. x

That’s great news Third he sounds like a keeper, fingers crossed for his resaults.

Toms sounds like he'll be planning your wedding next, creepy! I would block.

Sky I would search up to a 15-20 mile distance, estimate that's about 30 min drive: 55 miles is over an hour away?
Not easy for an hour coffee date let alone regular travel?

love well done. It won't be easy, but out yourself first. There's no need to wait around for any man.

sky for me that would be too far. Someone will always have to drive and it becomes a big thing to plan. Give it a go, maybe you can make it work. Personally I'd go for someone much closer to home.

third that is great news!

Thanks for the advice all. Mr Punk got a long reply from me to his email. He then will be given one more chance. But he is way to keek for my liking. Off to prepare for my date with Mr Academic!

sky 55 miles is a bit of a treck, that's what my ex date was and it used to take a good hour and cost quite a lot over time going there and back.... also not so bad if you can stop over but with kids 100% of the time that'll be tricky

lost I had a similar message to yours, and similar feeling during the relationship. It’s soul destroying, dating should make you feel good I realised I wasn’t a lot of the time. Every time he left or we said goodbye it felt like the next would be on his terms.

Tech it IS soul destroying and so unsettling, like I said to him, it felt like an affair....no plans no expectations... I have wasted far too long on him.

er... this is a dating thread. What has Swansea got to do with dating???

third . YAY! That is great news. Get on the smitten bench.

My date with mr french was really nice, went out and had a few drinks then went home separately. He has asked to take me to dinner next time.
He is quite reserved, or maybe I should say quiet until he gets to know someone well. He has said that. No gaps in conversation though. Handsome, tall, sexy, French. He has lived here 27 years but is still French... with a Scottish twang.

So we have chatted online since we got home. He works long hours, most weekends too. Do I wait for him to arrange the date? Do I prod him to get it sorted out? I need Matthew Hussey on speed dial.

toms it’s just the awful thing about being able to see when the other person is online on WhatsApp. Waiting for a reply, knowing they are online, wondering why there’s only one grey tick!

I realise life is too short but errrks this is painful. If WMLB was updated I’m sure there’d be a chapter on it. Trick is to keep busy I guess!!

Popple turn it off so you can't see their status and if you don't want to see the chat archive it, out of sight out of mind!!

Yes spring you’re so right! I used to archive all the time and now I’m like into this guy I feel I’m going crazy!

Already have last seen off but then if you’re on the chat, you can see if they are online.

Maybe I’m going slowly crazy...

popple just delete the chat. I've been ghosted twice and each time was a teensy bit obsessed with their WhatsApp movements. After a few days I was able to delete them and move on. It's hard but to liberating.

Just in from date 2 with Mr Academic and he's lovely!! Not shy at all, which was what I'd expected after date 1. We didn't stop talking. We did have a few cheeky kisses and held hands in the pub. He's very sweet. And very intelligent. And he said he wants to see me again. It all just seemed so easy.

Since I've been out Mr Punk has spammed me with his take on relationships. I think I'm going to block him.

How do you get rid of someone completely on whatsapp? as in delete contact completely so it doesn't show up at all.

So I'm single again.

Lessons learned ... when someone tells you who they are, listen to them!

Urgh 4 months wasted ...

user you can delete the contact then it wont show up... I think

dancemom . what happened?

Third great news

TomHardy you need to block him and concentrate on Mr Academic

Popple and user in WhatsApp if you press and hold on the chat you want to delete then it should bring up a list of symbols at the top. Choose the "bin" and the chat is gone. May work slightly differently on different phones.

dancemom hope you're ok.

I'm down to one option for my Saturday night date. But he's a bit too young for me. His profile shows an older age but he did confess quickly. He seems keen but probably for the wrong reasons. I'm torn between being sensible and saying no or meeting him to see if he could have the potential for some fun for a while.

Help me stand my ground. Mr a Tinder message this morning saying he has left his door unlocked so I can come over (he’s in bed), after him messing me around yesterday I have told him that I am busy now that I arranged to see a friend as I thought he was busy (I haven’t). I’m trying hard to stop myself going over. The weathers nice and I would rather be outside but I want to see him . Need to stick to what I said and not go over.

love . stand your ground NOW! Do NOT go over there. Go out with friends or anything else but this. He wants you to come over, and has clicked his fingers! Read WMLB or view a MH video on youtube.

Dont be his beck and call girl.

lost sorry for what has happened. It's hard yo understand but there are definitely a few men out there like that. Im sure he had feelings and affection for you, but agree it's so unsettling not to feel any security or know where you stand. Always knowing there may be a week or longer until you see him again, wondering where and how you stand in his life.... I think it's a no win situation - you can end it and feel sad/heartbroken as he's unlikely to change anytime soon. Or you continue but on his terms, which is soul destroying.

I agree with what I've read before which is that the right relationship should be easy. But sadly it's easy to fall for someone before you realise that the relationship is going to be really hard/on their terms.

Jax I am standing my ground, I have loads I can do today to keep me busy, trying to fight the little niggle at the back of my head but I won’t cave in. I’m not wasting my day going over, he’s worked all night so won’t want to do anything other than stay in bed all day, the sun is out so I want to sort my garden and go for a nice walk. Staying strong.

love NO!!!! Do not go. You will be playing into his hands and he will then have control if you give in. Make him wait for you and make him make more of an effort too. He should be taking you out. Not asking you over simply to DTD.

Mr Punk's messages were so full on. All about his feelings for me and how he thinks I'm just scared of my own. Idiot. I'm going to tell him to back off. It's almost intimidating. Hoping I hear from Mr Academic today. Having been ghosted twice recently I'm feeling a bit cautious!

Tom Mr punk sounds like a idiot, I would concentrate on Mr Accademic and block Mr Punk.

Mr Tinder has just messaged to say he’s going to sleep, he seems to have accepted that I’m not going over, didn’t beg me to change my mind. I have tomorrow free but haven’t told him that, I’m waiting to see if he try’s to arrange anything for Sunday. I’m not sure if he is the type to chase or put in much effort, he’s a bit too laid back . I like spending time with him but so far it has involved hanging out at his or taking part in his hobby (shooting), this has left me no time to do the things I like to do, so today I will have some me time.

love you should definitely focus on yourself. He sounds very selfish. Even if he is laidback, surely he could make some effort to see you and actually do something you might both enjoy. Well done for not going over. Hope you have a lovely day.