Bring on the Spring Flings. It's Dating Thread 132!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Not much to report here - chatting, possible meeting on Sunday, not definite from me though as I am out on Saturday night.

Hope you feel better soon everyone not feeling great.

I've just deleted all my OLD profiles. Just feeling meh and sick of all the crap. Anyone else ever feel like this?

esk1mo if someone I was chatting with a lot disappeared for a long time, I maybe would send them a "hi, how are you message" but not the whole "what did I do wrong" "I get the hint". The "whats up" one is ok. I think maybe you were feeling ill and a bit sensitive and a bit hassled maybe. Hope you are feeling better.

Tom get you all busy ;)

techgirl take a breather, then get back on the horse if it suits.

Ironclasp least he was honest, my ex FWB called me up recently, I told him I was loosely seeing someone and would contact him if I was free and up for it. It is a good , he told you while dating someone else.

So Mr A continues to mess with my head. I have backed way off, his work for me is almost done. Today he called me to give me keys back, so I asked if he could drop them with my friend who lives a few doors away form him. He insisted he would bring them to me to my house but didn't confirm a time. Huge local football match tonight, basically if the towns team I live near wins, they are in the final of the equivalent FA Cup. I am not a massive football fan, but my kids play for the club. We couldn't get tickets, but he has, so I said "have fun tonight at the match" and he said "wanna join me"!. I can't because I have the kids and I don't have a ticket......but WTF!?? Hmmm.

Mr French, still in contact, it has slowed for sure, but that is ok. I hope still to see him next week. I am still off tinder. If it goes tits up with the Frenchie, I will call ex FWB again. I know what I am getting with him :)

chocolate I feel like that a lot. Mine have all been deleted, I am dating Mr Tinder but not getting too excited about that, if it doesn’t work out then I think I will be taking a break for quite a while, tired of it all

Sounds like lots of us are feeling pretty "meh" about things at the moment. I think mine is a self fulfilling prophecy as I've given in to the wayward one again and am now left hanging again (should have learnt this by now.) I'm im not in the right frame of mind to give anyone else a real chance and so have turned down date offers with likely half decent guys irl because it's not them I want.

I need to set myself the challenge of deleting and blocking him as I know nothing will ever come of it and I'm just hurting myself in playing his games.

So I've deleted all of my profiles. I'm also "meh" about it, despite the dates. If none of these work out I'm giving up for a while and just reading this thread instead.

I've cancelled Mr Punk tomorrow as he was a bit needy. He was understanding but said he'd bought me a present for agreeing to meet him. So I felt he was guilt tripping me a bit. He also talked about getting very drunk tomorrow, which I wasn't keen on. My friends knows him and had told me he's a drinker. I don't want that. He said he felt we had connection but we've never even met!!
Just had coffee with Mr Academic. Surprisingly pleasant. Loads in common. He wants to see me again and is understanding about my lack of time/childcare. He has gorgeous eyes.
Mr French continues to amuse me all day with funny WhatsApp messages. We are meeting Saturday and he has asked if he can call me tonight.

I feel meh but also on a mission, surely OLD can work? too optimistic?

I have Mr Cute, seems interested in terms of regular texts, but they are barely a sentence. Less stable.

Mr Samejob, seems lovely but lots going on with his children at the moment. No time to meet.

New iron Mr Keen. Lives 45 min bike ride away. I have pointed out the distance, but he has friends near me and a bike so said he would travel (in car would be just over an hour for me). Is the best messenger I have come across.

Also Mr Friend. He's offered friendship first, but wants more. I like the way he messages too. Don't think I will fancy him.

Plus strangely lots of offers from topless men asking if I want to be their princess and one asking for a whipping!
If any lucky Mnetter wants to do that I can share details...

So lunch date with MrPolice was surprisingly good fun. And after last nights boring one very welcome.

So this is my first successful face to face date. He asked me out for a second date which we booked in for a week away.

So any advice on second date etiquette? Or just any advice that will help keep it going!

Costa I am still in the same position as you.
Letting myself be strung along by Mr headfuck when I kind of know it will probably go nowhere and I should never have got back involved....however, he does seem to be making more effort this time. I did go NC and he took the hint and asked what he needed to do to convince me he had no intentions of making me unhappy.
I said what you (or someone else on here told me to say) about,
" I will put in as much effort as you do" and I said that I did the chasing last time and wasn't going to do it again.
Since then, he has been more attentive and even suggested we go away this weekend at the moment that is the plan, but I can't help thinking something will happen and it wont go ahead....time will tell!

I am not bothering with any other OLD at the moment, can't be bothered to even re open my profiles...not interested in looking at the same faces and stupid messages

Morning all. The sunny weather (til tomorrow, apparently 🙄) is cheering me up no end. I’m almost tempted to get back online, although I might make a list of pros (get laid while there’s still a 4 in my age/opportunities to bitch with you lovely people) and cons (become even more cynical and jaded/have to look at photos of toothless men holding carp). And I’d be sorely tempted to lie about my age, which is something I swore I would never do.

I’ll think on. Meantimes chin up everyone. And the new my overall dating etiquette is have fun, trust your gut and be polite. And refer to the thread “rules”; wise words.

Glad to see I'm not the only one feeling meh. I was beginning to think it there was something wrong with me!! Best of luck to all those going on dates.. no doubt I'll be back online after a much need break away from the madness.

Question - I get lots of emails from POF saying xxxx wants to meet me. If so, why don't they send a message? Even if they don't have meet me - am I missing something? Or are they just swiping yes to everyone.

Morning all. Lots of people not feeling it on here at the moment. I had my mum on earlier (her and my dad separated 18 months ago although they still spend a lot of time with each other). Anyway, she'd been on tinder, chatting to a nice guy. Had a half hour phone conversation to which he said he would like to meet up. But when she went back on tinder he had unmatched her. WHY???????? I understand he might not be feeling it, but be bloody honest. I think that is what I hate most about OLD, is that people forget there is a real person at the other end. i mean Jesus, I even left a message for "watersports guy" to explain.

Mr French and I are bubbling along slowly, he left me a nice message last night, I was worried I was messaging him too much so backed off a little bit. Last night he asked me to leave him messages cos he likes my accent and he likes to hear me laugh

Smeaton Thought so - sigh - I have taken time to read some of their profiles, and messaged a couple (both replied) but won't bother in the future.

Pud do you think his mum was there to chaperone him

ValMc I have no idea, I knew his car was running but I didn't know his mum was in the car. I would have introduced myself as her future daughter in law: mwahahaha! I just don't know why he insisted on coming over, if he could have dropped them a few doors down with my friend (for context its a 10 minute or so drive).

Maybe I am overthinking it ;)

Pud is that the end of your professional involvement now? Would have liked to have seen his face if you had!

val well he finally delivered the drawings, but he should oversee some of the work still and liaise with the builders so not quite. maybe in 1-2 months it will all be done.

Because he has taken so long and I feel he used my "friendliness" as an excuse to be a bit shit with his time management I am probably not going to use him for the annexe like planned. In fact he hasn't even mentioned it.

I actually don't even really fancy him that much anymore (hahaha who am I kidding), but i am still curious. Maybe he is shit in bed, that is what I like to tell myself ;)

Advice please, feeling a bit fed up. I’m not sure if I am over reacting, wether we have got wires crossed or if I just have really bad PMT.

When I saw Mr Tinder on Sunday he asked when he could see me again, I suggested today as he gave me the option of Wed or Thur, he agreed that he would come to mine as I have already been to his. We have been messaging on and off all week, he’s been working a lot and so have I so not loads of texting. Today comes and I’m guessing he’s worked last night (he works nights) so knew he wouldn’t be out of bed until late morning so I went out for a couple hours. Eventually messages me at 11.30am asking me what I’m doing, I tell him I’m sat in the garden, not doing much etc..etc.., I ask him what his plans are for today and he says he’s spending a bit longer in bed and then doing some gardening (no mention of coming over), a couple hints about me joining him in bed but it’s not worth me driving to him as I need to be back at 3.15pm. So now I’m pissed of as I could have gone out for the whole day, too late to go now as I have been hanging around waiting for him. I even cleaned the house. I’m annoyed as he was the one that said he didn’t just want sex and that he wants a relationship but I’m the one that drives to him, I have DTD with him and we did spend most of Sunday in bed but the fucking suns out today, there’s lots of things we could have done, we could have met up for lunch or gone for a walk.

So what do I do? I’m thinking I just back off and let him do the chasing (though I haven’t chased him I am the one driving to him). Is it ever going to work out dating someone who works night when I am a morning person? I can’t think of anything worse than being in bed when the suns out.

I think I’m going to sit on the ‘can’t be bothered anymore’ bench and sulk.

love I used to work night shifts and they mess with your head and body clock. You really cannot underestimate what nights shifts can do to a person they are so depressing! He probably hasn't even realised the weather was nice. Go back to him and say that as its such a nice day you are going out, tell him where you will be and invite him to join you if he wants, but you want to make the most of the nice weather.

Then leave it with him, balls in his court to contact you when he is free again. And don't ever wait around for anyone, just plan things and if it comes up then go with it.

Put your shoes on, head out and go for lunch. Call a friend or just take a book and do something nice ;)

It’s too nice a day to sulk, love; I’d put him to the back of your mind and enjoy the sun while we’ve got it. Sod him and his biorhythms.

Val your Question post made me immediately think of this. So thanks

Cover that has just had me laugh out loud with the headphones on in an open plan office - they are all wondering why! Love Don't waste this lovely weather - enjoy your garden and let him drive to you next time.

I am seeing MrG this weekend at his place - have been too busy at work to fit anything else in and am too busy next week so it's back to weekend dating rather than anything else

btw I go through very long periods of meh with OLD. In fact, I've been single (post divorce) for 7 years now and have only had 2 periods of OLD. Rest of the time I took the 'really can't be arsed' line and had a wonderful time being single! So i totally get why you get to that point!

if MrG doesn't work out, I will come off it probably for the rest of the year, get to Xmas, realise I am on my own again and start all over again. It's a perpetual circle!