Bring on the Spring Flings. It's Dating Thread 132!

[VetOnCall]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Personally I’d say that your tastes weren’t suited and you felt a bit uncomfortable talking about fetishes on a first date. And it’s really not a common request when first meeting someone and maybe he should get to know someone better before asking if bumplay was acceptable. And good luck and goodbye.

Then block

Think I'm just going to say we are not suited sexually and never will be and then block.
We are meant to be meeting face to face to discuss this when he comes back from a work trip but after reading the advice on here there's no point.

I'm getting on better with my exB now than when we were together. After the relief of spending a pre-planned event together with little awkwardness, we have chatted had a relaxed coffee and I think I would genuinely like him as a friend.

Is it strange to be friends with an exB, or fairly normal? I have never done it before

DaffoDeffo "I'd rather know if someone's definition of naughty is tame or hanging from the rafters with an orange in their mouth!"

I actually properly laughed out loud at that...... so much so the cat leapt off the sofa.

User - I think mentioning that on a very first date us pretty full on, not suprised you were a bit taken aback by it! Whatever happened to talking about interests, hobbies and things you like to do in your spare time 🙈

I guess you have to admire his honesty but I think perhaps he seems a little weird and I'm not sure how far it can go if you feel uncomfortable about it all. Thank you but no thank you will do, you don't have to be unkind....... just honest. !

Quick question about Male profiles on PoF...
Can they only sends pictures if they are upgraded members?
Or are they at it when they say they can't send any (face) pics as I know we women can hit the little + button.

Chocmallows, I've remained genuine friends with an ex or two in the past, they've been the 'decent but not compatible with me' types though and I'd be wary, are they hoping to try again?

Have decided to leave Mr Flaky to it, he's not been in touch so clearly not a priority for me to worry about hurting non existent feelings. Am full of cold so would've knocked him back today anyway.

Mr Decent called again, think we may have trouble scheduling our next date judging by the failure to find mutual time in the next fortnight so far. Says he'll call me tomorrow and appears to have hidden/deleted his POF profile! Am intrigued to see where this goes next, trying to just relax and see but realise I've not dated in this kind of chaste way since my teens. Whatever comes of it, the experience will teach me something.

Is it acceptable to go on a date with 2 irons in one weekend, no sex intended, fact finding missions, just out of a horrible 11yr relationship and finding my feet in OLD 😁😁😁😁. I feel I've been reborn!!!! Ghosting 'J' is a distant memory!!!!! Xxx

haha potatoes13
It is a bit like being reborn at first, but it soon wears off once you've had a few knock backs

Go for the dates, enjoy yourself, you are not in a relationship with either and one or both might turn out to be a disaster

Potatoes I had 2 first dates in one day a few weeks back. I didn’t fancy either of them and was majorly wired on coffee by the end of it, but I felt pretty accomplished, all told

Oh and thanks Daffo, the good wishes are much appreciated.

Why is it always an orange, I wonder? Is a lemon or lime too tart? Too small and thus a choking hazard? I’ll have to look into this.....

Married this was my thought, was exB hoping for FWB more and could friendship be real? I guess time will tell. It is probably a bit of a strange question, but I don't have any close male friends so no experience to drawn upon. I went to a girl's school, education and work surrounded by women and newer friends from having children (mums).

Mr Decent sounds like he's worth investing time in, but you could still have coffee dates with other singles in the meantime? Not keep all your eggs in one basket?

I'm seeing an iron later (the stable iron, writes a lot), the cute iron (seems less interested) is still on my mind a lot. He just seems very laid back or unsure, I can't tell!

Potatoes I have left a coffee date and driven straight to another coffee date before. It's just coffee and fun when single. Enjoy the early buzz!

Cover I wondered that too, oranges aren't the only fruit...

potatoes perfectly fine to go on 2 dates in one weekend, I have seen people on here go on 2 the same day

user hope you have messaged your iron. He sounds a bit full on talking about sex on a first date, different if you had met on a hook up site but you don’t expect it from a normal date. I had talked about sex with Mr Tinder before meeting, we had been messaging for a very long time before meeting and I think it was me that started the sex chat.

I’m having mixed feelings about Mr Tinder, mainly because I am petrified about getting into a relationship, I am seeing him Thursday as we both have a day off but I’m used to doing my own thing on my day off and I’m now worrying that I will have less time to do my own thing. I’m petrified that he’s going to turn out to be some kind of phycho like my ex (who I met online), a small part of me just wants to forget it and stay single.

Morning everyone! Ive had 2 dates in 1 weekend - just coffee, its meeting, seeing if there is any spark, chatting and finding out about them. Both were bombs - nice but not for me.

Mroil not been in touch, so he can jog on.
I have a couple of new irons but Mrsnog been on my mind. I just think he is my distraction for now.

Smeaton don't worry, I take no nonsense from men without pictures but I just wanted to check I wasn't being overly harsh on them. I shall continue kicking their butts.

Morning all, Pud is feeling better :) but tinder remains deleted.

So after 24 hours of no contact from Mr French, he left me a lovely 5 minute voice message and then some texts after wards. I was a little bit cooler than usual (didn't reply straight away etc) but he is keen to meet again and has (seemingly) just been busy. I think the fact I found him on tinder and he was open about how he has been in the past using tinder that I assumed if he wasn't replying he lost interest or was with someone else (which might be the case but I don't know how he'd find the time, but maybe that is me being totally niave). Anyway, hopefully I will see him next week, before I fly to India.

Mr Police (aka likes to piss himself), I had blocked on whatts app but he text me this morning to say "I take it from your no reply I should leave it now". I thought I would give him an explanation (not because I feel he deserves it) but to make him think. Anyway i explained that sex talk, particularly weird fetishes should be left until you develop a bond atleast and how I have boundaries and it was a big red flag and I had no intention of meeting him at all now. I don't at ALL, but I feel better for speaking out and telling him what I think.

Have a good day y'all.

chocmallows cover I used to go out with a medical student when I was at university. They had to do loads of studying so I used to go and meet him in the library. By the door of the library they had a fascinating journal on American pathology which examined unusual causes of death. They had about 4 articles on auto erotic asphyxiation. Oranges did appear to be the only fruit involved mainly because you can grip them in your mouth without totally suffocating yourself (I suspect a lemon may well get wedged accidentally or anything smaller!). Apples probably too hard. Mangoes not round enough. I did over think this at the time but I now look back and realise I obviously had a lot of time on my hands in my 20s

oh and we left out vegetables. I think there were more of those but oranges were the only fruit!

Anyway each to their own I think!

This seemed appropriate for me at the moment...

Deffo that's great research. Next time I have a potential first night of passion I'm getting a bag of oranges first to see how my iron reacts. Too excited and the door shuts, I just can't be doing with threesomes with fruit.

Mr Stable has told me lots about himself, which matches what I'm looking for. If I fancy him later and he's free on my next evening off I may cancel Mr Cute. His messages suggest he is not that interested in me.

I think a potato would work too, but these days people are worried about carbs...

Anyone on here been to a match night -one of the events they run. Is it horribly awkward or actually fun?

Bant I've wondered about those events, also group singles evenings / days out. Be good to know what people have experienced. Tips!

Any one here - help please
I have had my results and it's not good.
Am in pieces.
Told my b/f that I would be getting a call today and I'd let him know. Don't want to just msg him at work tho! What the feck do I do.
Got to go back and see a Dr. tomorrow as things aren't as they should be down there.
How do I tell everyone else. How do I tell STBX. We've slept together since separating. He has a g/f overseas.
Feel like my life is over.