Bring on the Spring Flings. It's Dating Thread 132!

[VetOnCall]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Evening all!
steel Hands up here to another one that's been had in similar circumstances. I think these kind of men become very skilled at seeking out the naive newly single women. Don't be surprised if he reappears in a few weeks offering something of sorts....

Think I'll join those on the can't be arse bench. Momentary at least! I still like to believe there's got to be some decent mem out there - law of averages etc x

Best Tinder profile of the day:

"Windoholic. Attention ladies, married guy. Just looking around.

FFS. Honestly? What a card. Makes me want to vomit.

pudding Well bang goes the theory

His poor wife. Hope someone spots him and bubbles him.

Date was better than expected, but only 5 minutes where I felt I wanted to kiss him. Rest of the time was ok to pleasant. We said we will meet again, if only to chat as we got on well.

I work part-time and DS has extra help. If anyone runs because of that I'm happy to shut the door waving as they go.

If anyone remembers... Friend B who I mentioned in an earlier post in the end wasn't worried that I had a date with friend A (same sports club) Turns out Friend B is happily married (cyber stalked him through his job details).

Feel quite sad as wedding photos from last year are on FB. What a loser!

I have been dating too long... Cyber stalked today's date, unusual surname, and he is friends with someone I dated for a short period. Not a good ending. I need to look further than 40 min away!

Glad your date went ok Choc

Mr Tinder messaged me back, no mention of me explaining why I work part time. He keeps going on about how hard he works working 2 jobs to be able to live, not sure if it’s a dig at me or if he just wants sympathy. I haven’t mentioned arranging another date, will leave the ball in his court, he knows I’m free on Sunday.

Date went well. But there will not be a second!

Breathe and we move on!

love maybe he doesn't think anything of it and it isn't an issue for him. I think we often project what we think onto others. i might be wrong, he might be a dick. I think texting is hard as its so open to interpretation.

thenew why no second date??

I had a lovely message from Mr French, he is busy tonight as he has a team building event (he did mention it but I forgot) anyway i feel like shit today so probably for the best. Not sure when i will see him again though and I really want too. He did say he would rather see me than go bowling with the team though :)

Pudding your right, I think I worry too much about what people might think, I worry people think I sit on my bum all day whilst claiming beniffits (I don’t, just done a hour at the gym, I keep myself busy). I need to stop worrying as much. He obviously doesn’t care what anyone thinks about him, he’s not perfect but doesn’t hide it, I’m hoping he doesn’t turn out to be a complete dick.

Thenew we need more details

thenew we need to know why.

MrOil is back on terra firma so thats good and tonight I am out out, may or may not see MrSnog when out, but not bothered if I dont.

Thats it for me, not really been on Pof, nobody new has caught my eye there or in RL.

I still haven't heard from Mr Ski but I'm not sure what to do if/when he does contact me. As I said in my last post, on Monday he asked me when I'm free to meet this weekend, I replied pretty much straight away saying Sunday was good for me and have heard nothing since. He may have changed his mind and not bother contacting me again but if he does, what should I do? My instinct is to tell him that I've made other plans now (I haven't, but I could). I don't really appreciate being left waiting all week for a response, especially given that he asked me in the first place, but my default setting is zero bullshit tolerance and I don't know if maybe I'm a bit too harsh?? What would you guys do?

Vet I would send a brief message asap, "What's happening Sunday?" and leave it with him. He either arranges something or I wouldn't spend any further time on the lazy arse him.

Ok people - the details are as follows!!

He was very lovely and sexy. Apart from dodgy shoes. We got on well and he made me feel safe so he came back to mine. I do realise that the advice is not to do this but I feel safer in my own home than in someone else's.

We had a good time and I have broken the mental hurdle of sleeping with someone after 25 years of one man.

But it went weird at the end! I think because I was not sure if he had a good time. So he texted this morning. Thank but no thanks, which I understand.

I think I'm so used to exH's preferences and likes I've forgotten how to discover someone new's and to figure out if they are happy bar the obvious.

It's a journey!!!!!

Vet, if you have waited a week for a response id say his interest level is not high

Sorry, pressed post by mistake.

I was going to say his interest level doesnt seem high enough for you to worry about it. Id say I am now busy this Sunday and maybe meet another time. If he then takes ages to follow that up then is just leave it.
He may be a very busy person and this is just the time frame in which he responds. For me though, it would make me feel very low on his list.

Vet I wouldn’t text him and if he got back to me I’d say I’d made plans. Might give him the option of another date (if he asked), might not; would depend how well the first date had gone.

TheNew sorry it’s a non-starter, although dodgy shoes is a red flag
When you say “went weird”....? And did you have a good time? That’s the most important thing.

Still meh re OLD. Still gagging. Still veering between “fuck it, go on Bumble” and “CBA with the overwhelmingly slim odds the next Mr Cover is on Bumble. Or POF. Or Match”

Though I do miss the whole posting on here side of dating. Is that wrong?

Good luck to those out on dates tonight. (I’ll read back after work)

ooft... when you login to pof and have some messages, 1 from a guy from your local town who you know of from YEARS ago. This is why I dont really want to date too local!

Cover. I totally agree on the shoes! Yes I did have a good time so I'm ok! Weird in awkward, not sure what to say to each other not in any drastic write in the sex board way!

Can imagine after a while OLD is a drain. I was thinking there must be a service where someone else does all the hardwork. Like those eBay shops that sell stuff on your behalf.

Thenew sorry it didn’t work out but at least you had a good time and you now know you can have fun with other people, the first is always awkward and maybe it’s best it was with someone your not going to be in a relationship with.

I have date 2 with Mr Tinder on Sunday, I made the mistake of letting him chose what we do, I am now going to be taking part in a country persuite, I’m excited but petrified, it involves shooting (no animals involved). What does one wear to such a thing? . Do you think this means he’s not just looking for a FWB? We have a few hobbies in common which he could have suggested doing but he chose something I have never done, maybe it’s a test? To see if I’m happy trying anything?

Love something green. Or tweed. Or green tweed.
I’m guessing it’s probably because he enjoys it and wants to show off to you or stand behind you to “steady” you when you aim.
That was a plan Mr Yowzer and I had (which sadly never happened) but I can still use my imagination.....

I think your right Cover ,he owns a few guns and obviously wants to show them off , I just hope I’m not rubbish at it, though it would do his ego good if I wasn’t better than him. I do own a bit of tweed and some nice wellies.

I'm looking forward to my date tonight - the first time that has happened this time around. We've been texting nicely for a few days - not ott - just right for me and they have been jokey and fun. Hope his humour is the same in the flesh - the last two were good texters but a bit boring in RL - we know very little about one another so should have something to talk about if nothing else. Weirdly we are meeting in sane car park where I met my exH - I've told him I have history in that car park but not why - could be a good opening line!

Good luck Val hope all goes well, I had a date once in the pub I had my wedding reception in, felt a bit odd.

Yes it does seem a bit odd - I've not been there for many years - I'm more concerned that my exH lives quite close by but it's a perfect half way pub for us. Think I'll call my date Mr Saint.