GLAM & FAB TOUR - MEMBERS MEETING POINT!!!

[Ifonlyhewould]

Hi Ladies

Hope you don't mind, ive started this thread to save hijacking the thread of others.

I thought we could use it to attract attention of the other members if needed or whatever

Morning all,

What to say - really don't know where to start. Can't believe these men.

MacD what a truly horrible situation.

MLS - glad to see you've finally got really . 'bout time too imo! You have been so amazingly patient, loving and forgiving it's about time he was made to face up to the reality of what's he's actually done to his family.

OSJ -

Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you all and sending good cyber vibes your way! Onwards and upwards ladies don't let these twunts grind you down! Sorry not a lot of help I know but honestly reading your posts really do leave me

Let's hope the sun shines today and we can all manage a at some point.

'what'

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lol dior - 'no shit'!!

blueskynsunshine thanks for your comments. I can see that I've been far too patient for too long and he has taken the piss out of me for the last time. Needs to live alone. Needs space. He's in the priviledged position of having a wife who adores him and who he gets on great with and fancies to bits, a beautiful baby, a good income, has travelled the world by the age of 30, and literally has never wanted for a thing in his life. But has broken the heart of his wife and child because of some pathetic excuse about something in him needing to understand what it's like 'living alone'.

In other words, he wants to be a selfish twunt for as long as possible... and then probably hopes my love for him will mean I'll have him back when he's ready. he needs to grow up - fast. He will be so sorry he made this decision. I can guarantee that

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macdoodle I've been considering writing a book too! I think people would think it was fiction though as it's all that unreal!

I saw on another thread where you said dh looked into your eyes many times and lied straight to your face. I too never thought dh was capable of that and it breaks my heart.

I think perhaps you may need to accept that you may probably never forgive him. For me, the question was whether I could learn to live with what he had done and whether a life with him, would be better than one without him?

Even after everything he'd done, I did believe that me and ds would be happier with him in our lives. So I decided to give it everything I had. But sadly, after giving him the chance to prove himself and make it up to me, he has once again let me down.

Whether or not you can live with the ow and child in your lives forever is a difficult one. But then again, you'll always remember that it has happened anyway. Having the child as a constant reminder will be the hard part.
But remember - it wasnt the child's fault. And the child deserves a happy life surrounded by love. (Sadly I bet neither of its parents are the best people for providing that given their immorral selfish attitudes!! )

Anyway, do you think you would prefer to be a single parent and cut him out forever?
Or do you think you could find it in your heart to give him one chance to come back and prove himself. If he bends over backwards to make this up to you and does everything in his power to be a great husband and father - could you learn to live with the mistakes he made?
Or could he be the best husband in the world but you could just never respect him ever again?

Sorry I'm rambling. But these are all questions I've had to ask myself and come to terms with. My dh's ow was also pregnant (although she then had an abortion - which I thoroughly disagreed with ) but I had decided I would want that baby to have the upbringing it deserved, and I would want my husband by my side to bring up my child with me.
But he has taken that decision out of my hands now

CAT me if you want to chat more away from here. Or just post away and I'll do what I can to help.

I hope you're ok xx

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Thanks Dior. I gave my heart and soul to this marriage and you're right, I will be happy again one day. I hope the day comes when he realises just what he put me through and just how much I did for him. All for it to be thrown back in my face so he can have 'space'.

I will find someone who loves me. He will enjoy his pathetic single life sleeping around. The only loser in this will be my poor baby who didn't deserve to be brought into this world by a selfish t0sser that could not cope with the responsibility. More fool me for chosing the wrong person to be my babies dad.
I'll never forgive him for that

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mls im so so for you and ds but your dh you have the patience of abloody saint. But you are right he loses and in a few months he will see that. I hope by then you have moved on into amuch happier place possibly with someone who treats you like a princess for you deserve no less than that.

Pc reply! dont know what to advise you to say start with hi who are you???

Osj how are you today?

How is everyone else holding up?

dh has sulked off to his dads in isle of whight till monday and i am fuming to say the least. he is behaving like a spoilt friggin child im not even speaking to him he has tried calling but i know i will say something so nasty i'd regret it. Any advice ladies?

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gone to help his dad do work on his hotel and new house he said. But plenty to do here like fix out marriage and see dc ffs! I fuming and might actually go to me mums in ramsgate for weekend before she goes off to dublin.

Maybe weekend might be a turnaround for you and he wont go?

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osj im ok apart from the murder of dh thats going through my mind its like what mls said they expect you to just sit and wait for them. dont think so!!

I have 6 in total 3 boys 3 girls. Just whizzing through house tidying so im ready to go tomorrow if i decide. But also just sold a pram on ebay and they are paying cash on collection so im sure they will want it sooner ratherthan later but guess i could always drive it over there?

i know why his gone its because he hates his mum and she wont be making him feel that welcome. so dads for weekend in hope i will beg him back before monday so he doesnt have to go back to mil. No way this time he can suffer the witch for a while.

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will contact them cash will be good to £300. mum said its ok. and aready babysitter should i decide to hit the town!

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a night on the town sounds good

grrr indeed!

can I put him on EBay?! Show me where... He's probably worth a tenner...

well we've finally started to tell everyone so this is really happening

it's little consolation, but all of our friends and family are furious with him and cannot believe he's going to give up on the person who obviously loves him so much. they have all commented today on how happy we are together and how compatible we are. but he's the only one who can't see it because the desire to live alone is outweighing everything.

just had a big chat with my mum and got all upset about how i'll cope as a single parent when i still love him so much. and how i'll cope seeing him and another woman with my baby. she said i'm to stop worrying about the 'what if's' and to take one day at a time. because half the things i'm worrying about may not even be an issue.
and if that day ever comes where he is with someone else, i'll be so happy i'm not the one having to put up with his sh*t anymore and glad i'm walking back into the arms of someone who treats me right!
she said the man who ends up getting me will be very lucky indeed!

i'm just so bloody angry. and as you can imagine i'm finding it hard to work. so off to pick up my beautiful baby in a minute.

there's a band he really wanted to see tonight and i bought us tickets as a surprise. i have decided to still go... alone and enjoy myself! bit sad i guess... but i'm sure i'll get chatting to people at the bar and have a good time. i wouldn't want to chat all through the gig anyway!!

so i may not get on much this weekend as i can feel a complete meltdown on the cards... but i will pop back when i can.

hope you're all ok xx

your mum sounds like she knows what she is talking about

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