hi mls, sorry to hear you've also had bad night.
H been a grumpy arse all weekend.
I feel like I can't win. We need to spend more time together, do 'couple' things. I organise a baby sitter for Friday night. We goi out in Zurich and the whole night is for me overshadowed by ow. This feeling of powerlessness (I don't know what she looks like, I could walk right past her) it's the city where they worked to gether, had their morning meetings, hotel sex sessions etc, but I was surprised how hard I flt it.
H is terrible when it comes to tiredness, he is miserable, alsmot depressed etc etc, so on Saturday I let him lie in til 10 (partly concern for him, but also partly self preservation as I know what he's like). I also give him the 'afternoon off' so he can buy a new suit and a bike, so basically he has a free day, lying in, then shopping.
Yesterday was mothers day. Did I get a lie in??? Ds3 woke up at 6.50, no sign of life from h. Have no choice but to get up. H finally gets up about 8 so I go back to bed, not wanting to be sulky martyr, but am pissed off. Finally get to sleep and he comes up at 9.30, so I got what, and hour sleep, and considering I was up before 7, not much of a mothers day lie in. Was mega but my beatiful boys bouncing on my bed, kissing me and bringing me breakfast and cards and flowers made me happy and non-murdrous.
Anyway, he's a grumpy arse all day (including hitting ds3 - well he hit me, so I hit him back [angry )
Was supposed to be going on boat trip but I said I didn't want to be with him following him hitting ds3. He aplogised and I conceded to having a pic nic somewhere as it would be less stressful so grumpy arse should be able to manage to be civil at least.
AT one point yesterday, he asks me if dishwasher clean, i say yes, as I put it on before we went out.
Come downstairs this morning. Dishwasher unemptied, still cleam and full, with their dirty things all on side (I didn't eat last night so just found it this am) his dirty socks on kitchen floor, his empty coke bottle on settee.
I just told him the old way (me being skivvy, silent long-suffering, waiting on him hand and foot housewife) didn't work, and that we'd agreed we needed to change, so being a miserable bad tempered bastard all weekend, being lazy and messy and not helping round the house wasn't on.
I'm extra pissed off, because this is how he was for the last few months, while he was having the affair. Miserable every weekend. So it made me wonder again if it was on again, and it also made me piseed off that he's stopped making an effort. And finally I'm pissed off he's such a messy pig and mde no effort for mothers day, on a day more than any where he should have been treating me like a bloody queen.
It's my birthday this week,a nd if he doesn't pull out all the stops he's in TROUBLE:
Also problem is, I take him out, we suffer from his triedness all fucking weekend. So what, we never bloody go out again????????
Rant over.