Do you think all men would cheat, given the opportunity?

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Just curious really?

I'm single but have had a few long term relationships and all ended in cheating.

Since being single I'm shocked at the amount of times a married man has made a pass at me. A guy at work for example, puts on a facade of being happily married with a baby and toddler but has sent explicit messages to me on company email. Talking to friends I'm not the only one who has experienced this.

Looking through the relationship boards here they are full of similar stories.

It's got me thinking. Do you think that all men would cheat given the opportunity? Are some programmed this way? Or is it always symptomatic of the state of their relationship?

I think most men would. But not all. It is a breath of fresh air to have men on here saying that they wouldn’t cheat. I wouldn’t. I would like to find one that wouldn’t cheat. Unfortunately my judgment of men is not great.

I find it very sad that so many women on here seem to think that men would cheat so readily.
I will happily chat to women but with NO expectation of anything untoward.
A bit like the thread about 'not' on a date. If I am hungry and someone else is hungry it can be pleasant to get something to eat simultaneously and chat, that is not a date.

Depends on the guy, his attractiveness to women, and not necessarily having an "attractive" woman around etc etc

It's mildly insulting to imply that men are so blinded by the opportunity of putting their penis in a woman for a few minutes that they would drop their plans and valuable free time for it, let alone risk losing what they have. Quite frankly I think people who would cheat just because they can don't have much of any meaning going on in their lives. In any case it's rare I meet a woman who is sexually appealing to me anyway.

I'm a 46 year old female. I've never cheated. My partner, I honestly don't think he would. My previous partners however one I know definitely did and I couldn't have said the others wouldn't had they had the chance...

@LinoVentura if you read my reply to that comment you will understand. No, we are just overly honest! If I get chatted up in a bar I will tell him, why? Because I know some idiot out there may tell him and exaggerate the situation, same goes for him!
LTB? Erm, nope, I have no reason to, he is open and honest! He has no reason to cheat, we laugh, we flirt, we make each other feel sexy, we chat and we have a serious side. Why LTB? Because many people cant deal with someone who is honest. Being honest means covering tracks? What happened to being open? Oh also we have trackers on phone! Why? Because I set it up so I could see where he was shopping for my as presents (as a laugh) he never removed that tracker. I never use it! Why LTB? Honest men are not to be trusted! That is a new one on me!

Definitely...if they knew they wouldn't get caught.

I am very at women who say their husband would never cheat on them. It's incredibly naive.

Yes I think most would.

I've never cheated although (as far as I'm aware) no one's tried to get me to. To be honest, it sounds like more trouble than it's worth.

I do know men who've cheated. Their relationships were under strain beforehand, of they were away from their wives for extended periods of time.

Yes.

Pathetic but true.

"I do know men who've cheated. Their relationships were under strain beforehand, of they were away from their wives for extended periods of time" and? That's no excuse

DH would not cheat. And neither would I. Moral compass, nothing to do with opportunity.

Nah, my DH couldn't be bothered
Ha this describes my DH too, he always says God one woman is enough! Flattering 

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These comments both made me laugh, mine is exactly the same. He would much rather be fiddling around & rabbiting on about his hobby. He's is also incredibly thick when it comes to realising that someone is hitting on him. Witnessed it many a time, to the point where it's hilarious. We were also friends for nearly 20 years before we got together. I've never known him cheat on any of his exes & he once fell out with a friend to the point of almost coming to blows, when tried to set him up with a hooker when away on a business trip & he was single then too.

I think the majority of men would if they knew they wouldn't get caught.

Saying that though, I think the majority of people would cheat if they knew they wouldn't get caught. Not just men.

I didn't originally, now I'm positive most would, given the chance. Our relationship wasn't 'strained' beforehand either. He had an opportunity presented to him, and he made plans to take advantage of it.

That said, I have been told that in certain industries everyone is at it. Especially police, fire service, military, off shore oil and gas. I don't know if that's true or not but I've heard it from several sources and I do seem to know a disproportionate number of cheaters from those industries.

And he's in one of these industries. Suits him down to the ground.

Yes. Of all the men I have known, only about three didn't and seemed devoted to wife and family. The rest were all at it to varying degrees.

Most definitely! This really only came apparent to me when I left my husband. Seemingly happy married male friends started hitting on me, now I don't just mean on a drunken night out, but full on messaging and ringing etc to build up conversation etc.

It actually really shocked me. These "solid marriages" they showed on the outside were an absolute pile of shite!

My partner and I have both had previous marriages break up because of spousal infidelity. His break up devastated him at the time. For both of us it is a red line, and a line neither of us would be willing to cross.

Been with DH for well over 30 years, it would surprise me if he did. However, working in offices, albeit a few years ago, quite a few married men spoke in a way I doubt they would if their wives were listening.

Great post wind chimes

I think the majority of men would cheat if given the opportunity. They probably wouldn't see it as cheating though. Most of them would still love their wives and want to keep the stability of the union.

Some from this group may well fall in love with someone else and go off to be with them, but I believe this is because of a crisis within themselves and they want to be 'saved'. The person they go with is their saviour. Would it stop them from cheating later? Probably not.

skippykips My comment was purely in jest. I find it amazing how quick some posters on MN can be to state confidently that someone is cheating.

No.

I'm not niave. I make no great claim that most men wouldn't cheat but insisting that all men would is a myth to soothe bruised egos.

@LinoVentura sorry! I thought you were genuinely telling me to LTB.
Yes, it is funny how some just have a really sad perspective on relationships! We are doomed to fail!
He is downstairs now playing with the kids whilst I am still in bed with a hangover. He is hanging too, however he has managed to get up, feed, was and clothe the children, I can hear the washing machine is on...yet some cynics out there would say 'he is trying to manipulate me somehow'
No no, he is just being a normal human being looking after his very silly lady who drank far too much vodka!