Do you think all men would cheat, given the opportunity?

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Just curious really?

I'm single but have had a few long term relationships and all ended in cheating.

Since being single I'm shocked at the amount of times a married man has made a pass at me. A guy at work for example, puts on a facade of being happily married with a baby and toddler but has sent explicit messages to me on company email. Talking to friends I'm not the only one who has experienced this.

Looking through the relationship boards here they are full of similar stories.

It's got me thinking. Do you think that all men would cheat given the opportunity? Are some programmed this way? Or is it always symptomatic of the state of their relationship?

Do you mean physically or emotionally or both?

I think some men who wouldn't cheat physically don't see telling things to a friendly female ear that maybe their wife wouldn't like them to as cheating, so maybe that makes a difference?

It also depends what you define as 'cheating', for some women it's a kiss, for others it's a lap dance and others are all right with a ONS but not an extended affair.

I honestly think that most men would cheat if given the opportunity. Sad but true.
However, I personally know quite a few women who have cheated on their partners.
They don’t get found out because men don’t believe that their wives or girlfriends would cheat.

Not sure. I think men think it's in their genes to cheat, so they go along with it making the biology excuse.

I never cheated on my ex, but he did me. I think most men may cheat and the faithful ones are rare. I would cheat on my spouse knowing that most men will cheat. Make things even

Very easy to get away with cheating as a woman. And very easy access to a pool of good looking men

I think statistics and research bear out that most would and that many have. Some wouldn't, of course. That applies to women as well, though.

Anecdotally, I know a lot of men who just don't really think one-off sex with somebody else is a big deal, which perhaps explains why they might find cheating easy and not feel especially guilty about it.

I would define cheating as anything physical you feel you have to hide from your partner, but probably not a lap dance or watching porn.

Anything from kissing I would class as cheating.

Not all. But lots.

In my experience, generally women need to form a connection with someone else to stray outside their marriage. Men just need the opportunity.

Monogamy is a social concept, you and have a one on one emotional relationship and sexual relationship(s) apart form or with the former

I’ve had plenty of opportunity and even when in an extremely unhappy relationship, which was emotionally and then physically abusive, I didn’t cheat.

On the other hand, my exW (different person) chose to bump uglies with her ex boss before binning off our marriage.

I'd be very interested to know the ages of posters as I suspect it's younger ones saying "no" and older ones with more life experience saying "yes"

In my 20's I would have said no and never would have thought my ex would cheat - guess what! And since then (we were 30/31) loads of my friends relationships have broken down - mainly due to guy cheating, a few woman cheating. Only 1 has not been due to infidelity.

I've also been on quite a few old and hook up sites - lot of married men on them too. Plus as op been hit on a lot by married men since I split from ex.

Monogamy is a social construct

So is polygamy/polamory

Graphista I'm 25

I think their poster was talking about evolution/biological imperative.

The belief that men are programmed to spread their seed far and wide whereas women are programmed to be able to prove paternity to ensure support for survival of both her and child created.

I think some men who wouldn't cheat physically don't see telling things to a friendly female ear that maybe their wife wouldn't like them to as cheating, so maybe that makes a difference?

This concept of an emotional affair is new to me. I don't really understand why someone should feel guilty about having feelings for someone else. It would indeed be upsetting for me if my partner had feelings for another woman, but if he didn't act on them I wouldn't count that as cheating.

I'm the opposite I think emotional infidelity is almost worse. A ons/quickie I can understand/forgive to a point - confiding in, opening up to, falling in love with someone else - no far more hurtful.

I think a lot would, some wouldn’t and unfortunately there’s no real way of knowing which one you've got until they find themselves in that particular situation.

The belief that men are programmed to spread their seed far and wide whereas women are programmed to be able to prove paternity to ensure support for survival of both her and child created

I would agree with this bollocks if it was physically impossible for women to get pregnant by another man's sperm after one has impregnated her. Also sex is pleasurable. Some men have small penises. Not really the best for orgasm.

Men urges don't disappear just because I'm pregnant or a mother.

Only if it was with Jessica Alba and what are the chances of that happening?

About the same chances as me being able to shag Danny Dyer... I still pray though

Seriously, no I don't believe all men would cheat. There are many decent men out there and I'm lucky enough to have one.

MN often portrays the shitty side of relationships and it's easy to forget that many people are in very happy marriages/partnerships.

My urges* I mean

It's not so much the 'having feelings' Coyoacan, it's the spilling of secrets and sharing of emotions. If a man tells a 'woman friend' all about his wife's problems breast feeding and how she's devoting all her time to the new baby, and how he's feeling about that, and how much she spends on new clothes...etc etc. It might be seen as just 'venting' to one person, but his wife might not be so keen on her personal business being told to someone else.

A lot would. I don't think people who are in love in a new relationship do though.
As a PP mentioned some work places including police.. police officers I worked with mostly saw cheating as acceptable, mostly men but women too, they call it going "over the side"

I had this conversation with one of my best friends.
He is married with young children and says he adores his wife and family life. He has a great career and very comfortable standard of living.
He travels a lot for work and told me if he could guarantee his wife wouldn't find out he would cheat every time he's away on business.
I think this means he already has. Which is really sad.
I don't understand it myself.

I class anything that you can't tell your partner as cheating/lying.
I don't think all men do this if they have the opportunity.

I believe you can tell, it obvious. What are they like in general, do they try to get away with things, dishonest, cover things up, or lie to others.
If they are straight down the line, doubtful they will cheat.