Do you think all men would cheat, given the opportunity?

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Just curious really?

I'm single but have had a few long term relationships and all ended in cheating.

Since being single I'm shocked at the amount of times a married man has made a pass at me. A guy at work for example, puts on a facade of being happily married with a baby and toddler but has sent explicit messages to me on company email. Talking to friends I'm not the only one who has experienced this.

Looking through the relationship boards here they are full of similar stories.

It's got me thinking. Do you think that all men would cheat given the opportunity? Are some programmed this way? Or is it always symptomatic of the state of their relationship?

No, I don’t. But cheating is one area where MN does not align with my real world experience! I don’t know anyone who’s cheated or been cheated on once they were past the age of about 23. I know of one of DH’s acquaintances, and DH thought he was an idiot for throwing away a happy family life for a sordid affair.

I reckon most people would. Including me. Thankfully, I have the emotional maturity not to blow my carefully constructed world wide apart for the sake of a different dick which would probably be inferior to the one I sleep next to every night anyway 😊

I don't think anyone could say their partner would never cheat though - you just don't know.

It's really hard to recreate that excitement at the start of a relationship. I reckon that's what a lot of people crave and get from cheating.

My first husband cheated but denied it. My fiancé however would never cheat. Even when his ex didn’t want sex for years he didn’t seek it elsewhere! Some will cheat some won’t same for women!

Many would (most even)

But not ALL men, no.

I class anything that you can't tell your partner as cheating/lying

Well, I've never been knowingly cheated on but I do agree with this. I've always felt that what I would really hate is that every else knew more about my partner than I did.

I'd hope my dh wouldn't. He's very honest and has always said if he felt unhappy he would always sit eoth me and talk it through rather than go off with someone else.

However it doesn't help me that every man (apart from dh) in my life has cheated. Both my Grandad's, my dad, my uncle, my ex (dc's dad) chested more than once. I felt pretty surrounded by it at one point so now I feel I can't trust anyone 100%, even my dh. It was my dads affair that affected me the most.

My dad was one who I would never have thought would of done it.

I'd still say no though, I don't think ALL men would. However I do think a high percentage would unfortunately. I 100% agree that women are just as bad though. It wasn't too long ago I had to persuade my best friend to NOT cheat on her dh.

I haven’t, I travel overseas a lot for work and have been approached countless countless times. That said they were almosy certainly all prostitutes and that would a no go, even I was single.

But if Thandie Newton or Salma Hayek asked me to take them to bed............. well it would be rude to say no!!!!!

I am a male and married. No I wouldn't cheat. No matter how beautiful or hot or desperate the woman was. I think the guilt and confusion would totally make me unable to get an erection.

No. I can't actually think of any man that I know who has been known to have cheated. I know a few women who have though.

If you went by these boards you'd think most men would but I don't think that's reflective of anything other than women may be more likely to talk about it/turn to support forums when it happens.

The men I know who were cheated on all stayed as they didn't want to leave their families/kids and didn't want to talk about it. Burying their heads in the sand because they have a lot to lose if they address it? I don't know. Can't imagine them taking it to a forum.

There's just some cheaters in life but many many trustworthy people - maybe we just hear more about the cheating men so we'd be forgiven for being cold, hard cynics.

If I was unhappy, I would just muster up the courage and leave. Take my half of the equity in the house and move on. I wouldn't cheat on my spouse.

Oh. Forgot. I know one man who cheated. My dad. Durr. Tbf I haven't seen him for 20+ years so think I can be forgiven for forgetting him.

God no. My husband wouldn't want the hassle of another woman. 😂

Not if they are moral and religious.

I took a long time to choose my DH and I chose well. We share values including that neither of us would cheat. That being said I would know if he was trying to hide anything (cheeky kebab usually).

Yes I do 100%. I don't know any women who have cheated but I know lots of men that have.

I think both men and women equally would cheat if they thought they wouldnt get caught. I do think men are less likely to believe they will be found out though.

For me, humans are not meant to be monogamous. Its difficult to go against nature hence the large number of affairs/one night stands etc.

I think the majority of people would. But then I think the majority of people are cunts out for whatever they can get!

I think most would given the opportunity, and depending on their frame of mind at the time. Not all though, there must be some decent, honest men out there!

I disagree that you can tell which ones will cheat. I used to think it would be men who were ‘players’, a bit laddish and flirtatious, etc but I now know a few men (including my h ) who I would have bet money would never cheat, as they were good, honest people with morals and integrity, who adored their partners, but they did cheat.

I used to firmly believe that all men would cheat if given the opportunity but it would be rare that a woman would.

Now I'm older and wiser, I think women are just as likely to cheat as men, that the majority of people would cheat if the circumstances were right and they could guarantee they wouldn't get caught, but that there are many men who would be horrified at the thought of cheating.

If you work in a large office with lots of men for several years you get a very good idea about cheating. There are the ones who wouldn't, who are totally above board. There are the ones who would happily shag anything with a pulse and then there's the slightly grey area in the middle, the men who might surprise you if you aren't careful.

On the whole I think the majority would cheat if the circumstances were right.

Rubbish, not all men would cheat, the survey says 74% - maybe that feels about right. When I was married I certainly wouldnt, despite opportunities, and being in the army, and working abroad, unfortunately my STBXW didnt have the same strength of conviction.....

No. I don't. My ex dp, dcs dad's family (I'm talking about the men in the family aside from his dad) are incredibly loyal. His uncles partner was vile to him and he left her only because she cheated on him.
Ex dp hasn't ever cheated on me and it never worried me.

I think you have to drop lucky in all honesty with someone like that. I left my dp cause he can't support me and doesn't want to. But I definitely think you can't have it all in a relationship. Like everyone, everyone has their downfall

I think in the right circumstances (someone they really fancy, NSA, no chance of being caught out) most people would, but not absolutely all.

No, of course not.

I'd be very interested to know the ages of posters as I suspect it's younger ones saying "no" and older ones with more life experience saying "yes"

Wel,, in MN terms, I'm "old" (being mid 50s) and this definitely isn't my experience.