Do you think all men would cheat, given the opportunity?

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Just curious really?

I'm single but have had a few long term relationships and all ended in cheating.

Since being single I'm shocked at the amount of times a married man has made a pass at me. A guy at work for example, puts on a facade of being happily married with a baby and toddler but has sent explicit messages to me on company email. Talking to friends I'm not the only one who has experienced this.

Looking through the relationship boards here they are full of similar stories.

It's got me thinking. Do you think that all men would cheat given the opportunity? Are some programmed this way? Or is it always symptomatic of the state of their relationship?

Judging by the fact that most men that have tried it on since I became single have been supposedly 'happily married', some 'soulmates with their wife' then yep, I definately think most men would. Makes me glad not to have that disrespect in my life and mostly feel sorry for the unsuspecting wives married to utter arseholes.

I’ve lost count of the number of married men who’ve propositioned me, too. Some with babies or more than one child, one was even a vicar. It’s so prevalent that it makes me think none of them can be trusted (even though I know logically that’s not true).

This man wouldn't. Loyalty is important to my own personal self respect. Its a moral boundary.

@pinkyredrose cos when we got together we had people trying to split us up. Many people were unhappy that we found happiness and were majorly jealous! We decided years ago that we would be 'overly' honest with each other, so people can not say 'oh I saw them in a bar talking to whoever or S/he was chatting up so and so' so now it is just habit. No covering tracks! Gotta love a cynic!
3 kids, very happy, no trust issues, not indestructible however pretty solid!

I think most would. Not all but most.

A lot of women seem to learn this the hard way. Every time I read a post saying "But I'd have ever imagined he'd cheat, he just wasn't the type." Or a variation of that, I think poor woman.

skippy oh i see where you're coming from now, gossipy people can cause an awful lot of damage.

I guess i am quite cynical tho! Never used to be but seen so much bad stuff happen in relationships it's hard sometimes to believe the good stuff really is good.

No I don't and I think that's quite a sad outlook to have. Also, a lot of women cheat, shouldn't it be do you think everyone would cheat given the opportunity? And to that I still think the answer is no. I have cheated (young & stupid) and been cheated on (by same partner) also.

I think we hear of women cheating less often because it tends to be covered up. Especially if young children are involved and the husband doesn't want to end up an eow dad to his kids because of what she's done. The move toward more 50/50 arrangements might make that less the case.

There's also the (variable) stats on how many men are raising children they don't know aren't theirs - so unwittingly cuckolded.

Not all cheats are caught.

I was one of those people "my OH would never cheat - he's not that type of person etc etc." - until he thought he'd fallen in love with a work colleague...
I think until you're in a situation where you meet someone you get on with, find attractive, and sit next to nearly every single day... no one could truly say they wouldn't.

Since becoming single though I have had my eyes opened! I was quite naive before. Now I know a huge number of men who cheat or have cheated (don't actually know many women who have). It's actually made me feel quite disheartened at ever meeting anyone because I actually don't trust men now. I'd rather stay single now.

It doesn't stop me wanting a relationship but I don't still believe I will find someone who will be faithful to me forever. I'm more accepting that infidelity does happen and that in relationships perhaps we should enjoy them for what they are and the good that we get from the other person, rather than the constant pressure to be faithful at all times.

That's not to say I find being faithful a pressure - but I think that commitment rarely happens - perhaps it's better to accept it rather than never date again.

Not all would.

Women are just as likely to cheat as men given the opportunity.

In fact one man I spoke to said after 2 wives and a girlfriend cheated, he had given up on women and was getting a dog instead.

I wouldn't because I feel it is wrong and I would know and feel guilty about it even if it were 'minor' encounter and forgiven.
I was cheated on by a girl in my early teens, but that was before sex was invented.

No. I never have and it's not for lack of opportunity.

Next misandrist question please.

No. Definitely not.

Would you chest if you had the chance?

*cheat

I don't think all men would do it - but probably a majority would. I think a majority of women would also if they could get away with it. Sexual monogamy is not what we're programmed for, it's a societal construct for the greater good. And learning to follow that and keep our fantasies as just that is what separates us from the animals.

I used to think yes, and it’s certainly been my experience in that I’ve been cheated on and so have most of the women I know.

I genuinely don’t believe DP would though. I didn’t expect to ever trust anyone so implicitly again (and to be fair I’m not sure I really did trust my ex like this) but I do. In my cynical days I’d have laughed at myself insisting he’s just not like that, but what do you know? He’s just not like that.

why would your partner go to the trouble of showing you proof that he was faithful? No offence but that's the kind of thing someone covering their tracks would do.

Yes it's definite proof. Ltb.

I think dp would be very flattered but wouldn't do it. I honestly don't think he would, and not just because he would be worried about getting caught, he wouldn't want to do that to me.

My OH would, and possibly is. I'm keeping a closer eye than I hope he realises.

I'm a man and had a career in nursing , social care and earlier in retail ..very female dominated professions . Quite a lot of women cheated but were much better at hiding it than men I knew , and almost all are still married to their husbands from that time . Also a myth that women needed emotional connection for sex to happen , plenty were as, if not more, capable of conpartmentalising their affairs as men .

Yes I think the majority would if they were certain to get away with it. I'm early 30s and in the last few years I've heard of many, many men I know cheating in some respect, a couple of women too but it's mostly the family men. I'd say at least half of the married men I know have had some kind of 'indiscretion' at some point, including my own. I've reached a point where there's a total lack of faith in men. To all those with 'a good, loyal one' I wish you luck and a different outcome to the one I had with mine of the same description!

All men and women in a relationship have the opportunity to cheat. If it doesn't come up naturally they can create it.

So the number of men who would cheat given the oppportunity are the ones who do.

I’m a man, I’ve never cheated and I never will. There are some trustworthy men out there but plenty of snakes too. I’ve been in love twice, married to one, both women cheated. I am a shadow of the person I was because of being cheated on but it’s never stopped me being trustworthy. I know as many women as men who’ve cheated. Part of me thinks I’ll most likely be cheated on again in the future, but I can’t guarantee that. I can guarantee I’ll never cheat though.