Support and Wisdom at the Crown Cafe (NC Part 10)

[Basseting]

welcome to all going / maintaining No Contact
for whatever reason. Support, advice, wisdom and fun available here.
(and virtual coffee and cake too).

How are things nk. How do you feel about your nc? He been in touch?
belonget. you heard from yours?

I'm okay Rhubarb. My anger has been replaced by sadness but there is not much I can do. Haven't heard from him and don't expect to. How are you?

Sometimes though I think we need a horrible ending like this in order to cement the fact that it's over. itsa

Yes sadly we need sometimes to jut be like that puppy and get our nose rubbed in the shit !

Hi @rhubarb... Well done on fab progress...

My lovely work colleague has just shared a quote with me... 'there is always darkness before dawn'.... My head knows that I will get over this but my heart tells me it will be a long journey

I wanted to thank you all for your help today... I feel like I have been in the A and E equivalent of NC....! On a plus note at least I will lose some weight for my holiday x!!!

@ravens have you decided whether to reach out?

nk I’m doing ok. Move between anger, sadness, missing him to not caring.
He knows something is up as we haven’t messaged each other. No fall out though.

I'm ok thanks rhubarb, haven't heard from my guy and don't really expect to.

Rhubarb snap. We've had no falling out either. It's nearly worse in a way.

Well done rhubarb, make sure you have a treat for yourself once you get so many stars too

I hope you have a restful night seshi

Successfully navigated the weekend. Phew! I did catch myself today reading through the messages he's sent nodding to all not being as good as planned in relationship island. Trying to read his tone. Spoke to a friend and he told me not to overthink.. like hello, do you even know me at all, like asking me not to breathe. I'm sort of hoping when I see him for the first time in months I'll wonder what the hell was I thinking? Possible right?

@marling thank you... God that must be the ultimate goal of going NC.... Seeing them again and feeling completely indifferent!

Feeling indifferent would be an amazing feeling

Just popping in to say HI.
Day 50 (51?) since I saw or spoke to DOM and 14 days since I sent his B'day text/card. Dont think it is getting easier but dont suppose it would do me any good to get reset to day 1 either.
MF has sent 6 emails over last 3 days after I pulled back.
(surely its not that straightforward?)
I still plan to waft past DOM sometime this summer a bit thinnertanned/pretty dress.

OldBrook
I know I have made DOM sound like a horror (and in many ways he is) but I miss my friend too. SO much.

@basseting day 50 is fab... Don't reach out.... Get online and start searching for that fab summer dress!!

I miss the banter and the compliments

Evening all, have been very busy lately so less time to sit and overthink until night time comes of course.

I don't think it is a negative thing that we take so long to get over NC's. I woukd be more worried if I could just move on. Our feelings are real and justified. We don't need to beat ourselves up for them.

I miss that too NK. The way he looked at me and didn't care who was watching as was so proud to be with me. I miss the cheeky little one liners as much as the deeper messages.

Basseting you will waft past him... his jaw will drop... and out will fall a few decrepid teeth

I miss the way he had to grab me as I approached him even if we were in the middle of the road

Seshi

I have the dress (just need to diet into it). A silk wrap dress.
(I also have, in a box at the bottom of the wardrobe, the cream jacket and skirt I would have worn if we'd got married :( That's okay though.

ps I pm'd you about meet up date if you are still up for it?

Oh that sounds wonderful Anxious. I had no physical contact with mine, not due to lack of him trying. I'm glad in a way but ugh....

Lol at the decrepit old teeth!

Soo good to be indifferent rather than wanting to jump them

Sorry you're feeling so rough Oldbrook. What is it with the persuing? Wanting what they don't have/thrill of the chase or what?

Love it Basseting, I have already planned a dress for our coffee meetup. I'm justifying it by the fact I mainly wear dresses in work anyway and we are meeting after. Might be a bit odd to him since he's used to seeing me in jeans and boots/sneakers

I'm debating which way to play it if I'm asked for relationship advice. I baulk at the thought of being there there it'll be ok while stroking his brow but I suppose that's what friends do. Would really love to channel my inner Pretty Woman instead 'Big mistake.. Huuugee mistake', made your bed Mr so lie in it

anxious OldBrook thank you.x NK yes, i do too. Ah well.
I am about to watch a movie he told me he went to last summer. No doubt not alone). I still remember what he said about it. I remembered his favourite M&S cake for 25 yrs. I wish I could get him out of my head.