Support and Wisdom at the Crown Cafe (NC Part 10)

[Basseting]

welcome to all going / maintaining No Contact
for whatever reason. Support, advice, wisdom and fun available here.
(and virtual coffee and cake too).

So sorry he treated you so horrendously seshi, what an absolute creep. Take today an hour at a time, you must be feeling so bruised, it's like you've been beaten up really, emotionally.

I think it would be self-harming for you to try and ever be friends with someone who has done that to you.

Bang lots of dudes??? You didn't tell us he's 14 oldbrook!

I agree with the others. Friends don't treat you like that. He doesn't deserve you at all. Time to cut him loose and find someone worthy of your love.

Day 7 here. Feeling fine today. Have a busy day ahead which is always good.

oldbrook he is a cheeky bastard ! Have heard similar myself from NC that I needed to go on OLD etc but at least he didn't phrase it like that .

I have a busy day today too but sometimes I find all the "couples" when I am out and about a bit too much . Mind you , look at my NC - walking out in town with his wife at times and then messaging me the instant she was out of the house to come and see me ! You just never know.

Exactly this oldbrook and I was just reminded of the fact that most of these men are weak and what usually what attracts them is a strong woman with a good attitude . My NC admitted that he is a mess and will never be happy .

Me today

seshi you don’t want to be his friend, you want to be his girlfriend. Friends will not work. If my NC isn’t interested that’s it, he doesn’t get me as a friend.

'Bang lots of dudes' Makes mine saying I need to 'get myself out there' (codewords 'have sex') positively grown up

Lol @ Tinderella! Saying bang loads of dudes is so disrespectful

Seshi I'm so sorry you went through this, he sounds like a total dick and you deserve much better.
Bloody I know the whole feeling of constantly being around couples - everyone I know is married or partner-ed up. So lonely sometimes.

@user thank you xx God the train journey was horrendous... @teens kept messaging which helped. At least I am home now and I can't feel any worse than I do already

Seshi
Sorry, am in middle of horrible wkend) but I wanted to say I have been thinking of you and came on now esp to see how you are / how it went.

To say her does not deserve someone like you to even remember who he is is an understatement.

How dare he treat you like that? Leaving you in the street upset?

Old re the 'banging lots of dudes' comment. DOM told me I'd 'have a better choice of boyfriends if I lost some weight'. (directly after I told him I am getting dirvorced as a direct result of our affair last year).

WHAT IS IT WITH THESE WANKBADGERS?

@basseting thank you so much... Your message has actually made me cry xxxx

Hope you're okay Basseting

Seshi can you do some thing nice for yourself today. Be kind to yourself

I am sorry, not hogging, just meant reasons for fairly short post.
Re ExH just usual wankbadger stuff ;)

Heck, Seshi didnt mean to make you cry sorry.
I wish we could meet soon and demolish large cake/poison of choice and put world to rights? ([ll pm you.x.x.x.x

I am so sorry to hear this 'seshi'. I am sure you are hurting so much. Sometimes though I think we need a horrible ending like this in order to cement the fact that it's over. Now you must grieve and accept it is over. It will be very raw but it will slowly get better. Your holiday will help, what kind of holiday? Hopefully one with good friends or family that will show you warmth and love.

I hope everyone else is doing ok. I am having the odd fleeting moment of sadness but try to make them short. New old guy is going well. I don't have the same feelings as I had for nc but early days!

@basseting its OK... It's that thing we said right at the beginning that a total stranger is more bothered about me than he is. @itsa me and my DS are going to maderia for a week to a really nice hotel... We fly Easter Monday so I just have to get through to thenx

That sounds like a fabulous holiday seshi and I hope you get some well deserved R and R.

Itsa glad to hear all is going well with the new old guy.

Oh Madeira sounds fab Seshi

So sorry to hear what happened seshi. You didn’t deserve that. Let this be the chance to finally walk away from him. Don’t even try to be his friend.
I am on day 10 nc. Picked myself up after feeling down the other day. Next target is day 12 and then day 15. It does get easier. I need some reward or star chart
How is everyone?

There you go rhubarb - for day 10!

Evening Rhubarb and well done on Day 10. I am on Day 7. I had a busy day with the kids so all good.