Support and Wisdom at the Crown Cafe (NC Part 10)

[Basseting]

welcome to all going / maintaining No Contact
for whatever reason. Support, advice, wisdom and fun available here.
(and virtual coffee and cake too).

i recognise your situation Old.

my NC and i talked about sex not sexting per se that happened once or twice--

He was jealous if i ever mentioned another man, yet he could maintain his life pretty much as he wanted? Fuck that.

I THINK that my boundaries are stronger now... i wouldnt entertain that kind of treatment from anyone. that encourages me.

sorry rubbish capitalisation and sentence structure. been a really really completely shitty couple of weeks and i think i need a rest .....

Sorry to hear that Soso.

Clearly my boundaries need to be worked on as well. And what I am prepared to put up with.

I think my lesson is well and truly learnt now though

I'm trying my best Oldbrook. I've gone offline everytime he's gone online today. I can't even bear to see his name pop up it disgusts me so much.

Something to bear in mind ladies: www.google.ie/amp/s/www.elitedaily.com/p/will-mercury-retrograde-2018-affect-relationships-heres-how-to-get-through-the-drama-8569234/amp

Week 1 done. Been sitting on my hands a bit.
nk I’m working towards thinking my nc is a waste of space too.

Do you think he’ll message you? Will you reply? Does he know you’re annoyed with him?

@Basseting well done on nearly 50 days. I'm in awe x

Well done rhubarb a week is an achievement!

I've no idea if he'll message me Rhubarb. I'm sure he'll get the hint soon enough when I'm not online. No he doesn't know I'm annoyed with him. I don't know if I'll reply.

How are you?

You sound really down @NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 x

Hi lovelies
Everyone seems to have remained or started NC today well done!
Problems enforcing or recognising healthy boundaries does sound a theme. Teens your approach sounds a good one to follow.
Really tired so will post tomorrow. Love bingo.
Night xx

I’m ok nk. Up and down. Just riding through it. But sick of feeling like this.
I want my nc to miss me. I know it shouldn’t matter, but it does
You seem to have broken the barrier with nc. I hate the feeling of being used.

Thanks ravens. Encouragement is needed.

Well done oldbrook sounds like you have some clarity. Good luck with reengagong with your H.

Day 29 NC today. I was crying my eyes out yesterday. Just felt so down and lonely and sorry for myself. I’ve started OLD and have a few dates to sort. But it fills me with dread and I don’t have skin thick enough right now, and it’s depressing being back here single again. There’s a cheery start to the day.

It feels about time to contact my NC. Middle of next week after my DD’s birthday. I go through periods of thinking I’ll be stronger but I know I’m not over him, so it’s probably too soon. But he wanted space and a month feels about right. Much longer and I think he’ll be back in his old routine. Think I’ll text something like this - comments welcome:
Hi [. ], I think having some time out has been very good for me and I hope it has for you. Just wondered how you were?

I think you are right. What a mess I am. I know it’s ok to be sad after a relationship ends. But I don’t seem to be moving on too well.

ravens please don't give yourself a hard time - it's been less than a month! It's very very early days to be getting over a relationship - don't expect too much of yourself.

We do seem to expect ourselves to just move on super quickly these days. I wonder if it's a reflection of this world we live in where everything happens in an instant and we're supposed to be like machines really - always on, always ready to work/shop/party, straight back to work after illness (whatever happened to the idea of convalescence?) - there's a culture of fast fast faster and I don't think it's healthy.