Good luck with the date @UnapologeticallyUnhinged. Of course someone really cute wanted to go out with you - your sense of confidence comes through here, so it must be even better in person.
@shitwithsugaron I agree that it doesn’t matter what you look like. But I also think your confidence is low at the moment so you feel unattractive regardless of the reality. Getting out into your new place will really help.
Your ex might be out having a great social life (or he may be doing his best to make it appear that way) but think of everything he’s missing out on. My ex is also priding himself on his brilliant social life, but I don’t care. It’s all superficial - he’ll start to really struggle with anyone that has to put up with him did more than a couple of hours at a time.
Sorry to hear you’re in the same situation @Turnedovernewleaf. Have you got any idea when you’re going to put the house on the market?
DS2 has his swim team trial today. He did really well and he’s got a place on a higher squad than I thought he was trying out for. He was the only one that’s not already part of the team trying out for the squad, so he was very nervous. It’s great for him, and I can totally see that his swimming will come on even further in the squad. But it does involve 4 hours of training a week! Eek. That’s a lot of sitting around in swimming pools.
Ex came to the trial too (which seemed fair, since it was a big deal for DS2). He suggested we go for lunch afterwards to celebrate with DS2 (he paid!). And weirdly kept trying to offer to share his chocolate cake with me. I didn’t want any, but wouldn’t have wanted to share anyway.
DS2 has his normal swimming club session tonight too (so he’ll have done 2 hours of swimming today).