Break Out The Red Flag Bunting, It's Dating Thread 131

[VetOnCall]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Not heard anything from MRC since I said we could talk on the phone so will see. Im in no rush to go 2 hours away for a date!

MrBelfast is lovely, not flirty but just nice, got lovely eyes. An iron in the fire, he makes me laugh.

Got a new one MrEast closer to me but about an hour away, been chatting away and I like him. Not pushy, but will have to see if there is any chemistry when we do meet up. Seems quite romantic without being drippy.

I want someone to flick that switch back ON! Its not about looks, they have to make me laugh, make me think, or not think!

esk1mo I said I expected exclusivity and deletion of profiles after DTD. He replied far enough but we don't really know each other very well yet.
It's difficult because I don't expect to sleep with him just yet and I've got date 2 with Mr Hat on Sunday so there's no reason why he can't chat to or date others. But initially he seemed to be against dating more than one at a time.
I'll see how tonight's date goes and if I want to see him again then I think a talk about expectations is needed.

So today I went on a last minute (not really planned) date with Mr Camera, we had lunch and went for a walk, I really like him
Trying not to get to excited, waiting to see if he messages me and hoping for date number 2 when he returns from his holiday next weekend. Going to try and keep busy.

Place marking .... And trying desperately to catch up with the thread after a frantic couple of days, so ...

Runs All sounds very promising!
Vet Mr DM: name change to Mr Inadequate
Love Fingers crossed for Mr Camera!

Love that sounds great

I have sent him a message even though he’s driving to London and won’t see it, said thank you for lunch and said hope we can do it again when he gets back. He was a bit shy but in a sweet kind of way, I hope I didn’t talk too much. I wasn’t dressed for a date, I was out somewhere and he happened to be near by so we met up. A bird pooped on my before we were meeting up, luckily I had a stair hoodie in my car, maybe the bird poo was lucky .

Hi all!

runs wow you're getting all the dates, looks like a short break was a good idea!

kin shame about Miss Keen, good that you've got her sussed though

Smeaton gosh that date doesn't sound good, hope you get some better ones soon

Bloody I don't think it's worth lying about age.

Afm I've been chatting to and dating a guy for two months now. He lives an hour away so not loads of dates but we have a great chemistry and it's romantic and feels loving. I'm just not sure whether to dtd yet though. There's no pressure from him but I'm worried I might get too attached and I'm out of practice. Also he seems to find me 'sweet' and he feels quite a protective man (lots of hand holding, arm round me etc) so I'm not sure he finds me sexy haha. Do you reckon dtd would spoil the romance?

newyear surely DTD is part of the romance? 2 months is a perfect amount of time to date before having sex IMO, because you can see he hasnt done a runner because you havent slept with him yet. DTD could be your opportunity to show him you are sexy, and not just sweet.

newyear I have no idea on your last question, but why should it? Surely DTD would make you closer? (Well, in my mind it would, but then Im new to this)

Wonder how the date is going this afternoon?

New don’t be worried about being out of practice, it’s like riding a bike. You never know, he might be out of practice too?

Ginny it was Mr Medic who said I made him feel ignorant/inadequate. Mr DiamondMine is lovely*. Thanks though Any responses to your profile yet? Did you get the photos sorted?

New I think 2 months is time enough to suss someone out, he sounds like a good bloke and dtd at this stage isn't going to change that. Plus you don't want to leave it too long, get really attached and then find out he can only get it up if he calls you Mummy or something.

Love sounds like a good start with Mr Camera!

*via WhatsApp, which means feck all really.

I can’t keep up with this thread! Good luck to all with dates this weekend, hope you all enjoy them.

So I’m seeing the iron I’ll call Mr Normal tomorrow, quite excited about this one, and the other one we’ll call Mr Local is taking me out for dinner tonight, a bit nervous but it will be nice to have some good company and not have to cook and we will see how it goes!

I had a message back from Mr Camera, it was a short boring message so I’m not getting my hopes up, it will probably annoy me for the next week when he’s away .

love chances are he has just stopped off at services to pop to the loo or grab a coffee, so dont lose hope just yet.

Good luck to all those on dates tonight. I'm on my way to meet Mr French and am really nervous. I'm not usually so not sure what's going on...

good luck alison

Alison good luck, I hope it all goes well! I am finding the more dates I put myself on the less nervous I get. But I am a real goof ball when I really really like someone! Have fun, i hope he has that certain " je ne sais quoi" (or however it is spelt!

lovemusic he probably sent the text in a hurry, don't worry and leave him to contact you now!

Mr Italian has been in touch asking how I feel about everything: I told him I would like to see him again while he is here but I am not looking for a serious relationship nor a long distance one, but lets see how it goes. He said he was feeling the same but hadn't stopped thinking about me all day and that I was awesome (awwwww!).

Now if I could meet someone who looks and has a manner of Mr A, the skills of ex FWB, Mr Italians desire and sweetness. i think i might be on to a winner

Sod it, sorry Vet, I was rushing through the messages (I felt I'd been away from the thread sooooo long all of two days ) trying to get gists and I clearly misread which iron we were discussing. So what's the next move with Mr DM?

New I agree with Vet

Alison Have a good evening!

Love He messaged. That's a step in the right direction. Perhaps he didn't want to leave it too long, without maintaining contact, but was in a rush? Who knows. But rule no 3 applies. I'm writing all this stuff, but would I be feeling it? Would I fuck As does rule no 7.

A few messages each day on POF, which is, I guess, good, given that there are no photos up, but no-one I'm remotely interested in, and all missives contain a marmite theme (I mentioned it in my profile). Am going to ramp up my profile over the w/e ... Wish there was a 'jazz hands' emoticon

Pud Should you meet such a bloke, ask if he has a brother and I'll move to Portugal not really joking

can i ask you all for some input?

how “affectionate” are you with your irons? do you give compliments, say nice things, act a little lovey dovey?

after being lulled into a false sense of security last year with MrLovebomb, im feeling quite closed off.

i dont know if its my age group (they have a tendency to refer to women as “psychos” if they show any attachment) but i cant bring myself to say how i feel, even in a jokey or lighthearted way.

i just text MrF saying i wish he lived closer, and now im already feeling anxious that hes gonna be like oh shit, bail.

Remind me what age group that is, Esk.....

20s...

not saying its right, but its fairly common
for men to be sleeping with a girl and as
soon as she displays any feelings or attachments shes a psycho or a bunny boiler

I have had a couple texts from Mr camera, all short and sweet but he’s obviously busy with friends before he catches his flight tomorrow (staying with friends near the airport). I will try and relax now, he’s back home Saturday so I shall see what happens then.

Dumped. Ugh. Stings. What is wrong with me.

esk1mo I think the answer lies in how much you like them and vice versa. There is some degree of sizing each other up, nerves don't help either. I haven't got passed a second date yet, so I am not fully qualified to give my opinion but if a guy thinks of you something, that is his perception. Those willing to give each other a chance might have something. I get what your saying, my guard is quite far up. I don't like to put myself out there too much if I sense a hint of the guy isn't sure. If you know what I mean? If he bails after you suggesting you'd like to see him more, then you have your answer. Be cool baby, be cool ;)

Disclaimer: I don't follow my own advice