The Fabulous Crown wearing cafe. No contact thread part 9...

[seshi]

Hello ladies for anyone attempting, going through or wanted to try No Contact. We don't judge on here... Just lots of lovely support and advice... Come join us

@Belonger he will just badger me and I end having to talk to him about a work matter anyway.

I was going thru my phone (iPhone SE) and the pics of him are gone?
I have not deleted them!
Help. I need them back.
some were in iphone photo bit and some were in google.
Can i search by date???

iCloud can help restore them I think @Basseting

i dont know if i have that? i think so - I am paying £ monthly.
can you give me an idiots guide pls?

I think you need to connect your iPhone to your laptop and it should give you instructions but if not apple are very helpful. Plug in your phone - ages since I've done it so a bit hazy

I don't mean to make light of it but could the universe be trying to tell you something basseting?

ginger maybe you could experiment with only replying to work issues, and ignoring anything to do with the relationship, your hormones, 'what's wrong with you' etc. Just don't be drawn into his nonsense any more. Resist the badgering!

Hi ladies DS has been off sick today so just pulling up a chair at the cafe... Going to have a proper read through but @ginger just saw your post about using our examples in your counselling session. I think it's a fab idea. Whilst I never reveal what we talk about on here I have told my best friend about this thread and how much I cherish it and what a marvellous bunch of ladies I have met...
@teens I am so pleased that you are coming out of the other side but understand the void. Can you fill it with a new challenge / hobby... Or try a different routine? I really struggle on a Friday night so I have just signed up for a new yoga class. I know it's not everyone's thing and yes I would rather be in the pub early doors like we used to do but I know it's a distraction and that it's positive... Still have wine when I get home though

So NC called me today on his work colleagues phone but I missed the call.. So I texted his colleague a few hours later and said ask him to call me as I need to know about kasabian. So work colleague called back straight away and said that he dropped NC off at the pub an hour ago but that NC has been talking to him about the gig and he wants to go. And work colleague has already made arrangements for what he will do that Fri (they work as a team)... So I am hopeful but also frightened to be hopeful....

Seshi I have enough challenge (probably too much) , life is busy but changing a routine sounds like a great idea..
Any suggestions ladies ? What can I change that will feel life with some novelty,at least short term?

Belonger dont know but I am in tears and shaking so I just need to sort it. Different to if I decided to delete but I am not at that stage yet.

Sorry you're do upset basseting, hope you can retrieve them

Oh @Basseting I'm so sorry. I hope you can sort it. If you can get on to apple they may be able to help x

Sorry you e been poorly @seshi - been off today too but should be cracking on really. Just full of cold and feeling sorry for myself x

Good for you with the yoga seshi, what a great idea. I live writing and learning so I'm looking for an online writing course I can do.

What do you enjoy teens?

@seshi v jealous about kasabian. Is it safe to go with NC? Will that put you in an ok space mentally?

I just had to go near nc's work and in the past would probably have used that as an excuse to text him. I thought about it, then thought of our cafe and not going down the same old street, and I put my phone away.

@Belonger try writer's digest - they have all sorts of things on there (half way through a book but stalled - v good online resources

Proud of you @Belonger x

Thanks ginger!

Yay! Progress Belonger - pop into the cafe on the other street!

@teens is there anything that you have always wanted to do? It's so hard being busy as a mum and fitting things in. I do Park run every sat morning with a couple of single parents and our kids... Then we go out for breakfast after. Or just something easy like having friends round for drinks or cooking a Sunday roast for friends? I know it's not exactly rock and roll but they do say a change is as good as a rest.... I will put my thinking cap on teens...

@ginger rightly or wrongly I want us to go to kasabian together... I am thinking of it as a last chance saloon. The way we finished was so abrupt and unexpected... I need this. It is highly likely that I will be left licking my wounds but I have to try... And I now know that there is a way forward if it really truly is the end. I have you guys and NC and I know that it works...

Put the kettle on someone, I fancy a nice mug of tea. And perhaps a slice of that lemon cake.

Wow 6 pages to read through !! Some strong stuff on here today - go Ladies ! Shout out to you all x

Some real challenges on here though - blimey ! I don't have to leave do I ? (as I am at Day 32 NC ? ) . I am still WhatsApp addicted especially today . It's my prop . I know I can run into him at any time ( small town) and still don't know how I would react .....

PS It's Eggs Benedict for me too !

@Bloody no way are you leaving.... We need you for inspiration! @belonger tea and cake coming right up my lovely

Thanks seshi!

Absolutely bloody no way can you leave! You're my hero. You can do some inspirational talks at the cafe!