The Fabulous Crown wearing cafe. No contact thread part 9...

[seshi]

Hello ladies for anyone attempting, going through or wanted to try No Contact. We don't judge on here... Just lots of lovely support and advice... Come join us

I miss snogging.

Never mind NK put it down to experience. All these things are learning opportunities.

Snogging rules ok

Just testing the posting on this thread

Testing testing one two three to see if I can actually post on here.....

I am on day 5 and pleased by how ok I'm feeling. I'd better not start thinking about snogging though or I'll lose my determination!

You know I really think we should write an ebook about what we've learned /are learning through all this. Like what red flags we will notice in future, what advice we would give our younger selves etc. What helps and hinders the NC process, that sort of thing.

Who is this mysterious new name person??

Hurrah!
Hello! New to MN and recently dumped my waste of space boyfriend and doing a lot of back and forth as to going NC currently he is deleted and blocked from all things and lives an hour away so not likely to pop round thankfully. Don't hate him but pissed with him as sulky, manipulative and probably emotionally abusive. Otherwise probably one of the nicest, kindest, most affectionate guys I've ever met. Which is fucking with my head.

Otherwise probably one of the nicest, kindest, most affectionate guys I've ever met. Which is fucking with my head.
You forgot to add ' when he's getting his own way'!

Gilead yes to some extent. Mainly though he just made me organise everything because otherwise he'd be "wrong" and get on his self pity horse. Please note he's never been wrong at organising things but that's because he's never done it! Together nearly a year and he managed to organise a total of 3 dates. Today I am mainly sad that his children will be upset as although their behaviour was a challenge they were lovely and his little girl said she loved me. He probably hasn't even told them I'm out of their lives. Feel like messaging his ex-wife and telling her we've split and to say goodbye to the kids.

All I can think of is snogging now! my NC. Has studiously avoided me all day. I suspect he's waiting for me to crack.

You ladies have kept me strong today.

I've been lazy and self indulgent and useless this week because the realisation that I really do have to take the plunge and go it alone has hit me like a brick this week and that's scary.

Not least because I stand to lose a lot financially. But I think that's what he's been banking on all this time - that I'm scared of the financial fallout and therefore I won't fully disengage?

I'm at the point where I don't care. Almost.

@Bookangel dont. It will be used against you x

Hi everyone! Hope you're all ok xxx

I generally barely think about my NC guy anymore, especially as I'm now dating someone I met OD... Some of you might remember me mentioning him before I lost the threads, but I've just found you again on the recent threads list!

I'm a bit nervous because I'm going to be seeing NC at an event this weekend and I really don't know how it will go, especially as my new guy can't come, so I might need a little hand holding.

How are you all?

Hey NK it doesn't matter about the snog . Forget about it ( if you can )

Pleased to report that I am feeling a bit more "with it" this evening - was out most of the day , did a really tough boxing class and have not broken Day 2 of not looking at NC's WhatsApp despite having to use it on various occasions today . Still want to but what is the point ? I get dogged like that - don't want to break my record.

@belonger I am definitely thinking of a book too... The advice on here is the best I have had...

@Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname can I have some of your dogged determination please? X

OK ginger sending it telepathically now

Yes oldbrook below makes perfect sense and resonates with me too. Makes it easier in some ways .

"It struck me yesterday that while he was in my mind so much he was never really in the fabric of my life if that makes sense? Never really met my DCs, doesn't understand what my mum life is like etc. It was a nice feeling."

Bloody well done with your steely willpower on WhatsApp!

I know I should delete and block my NC (and his gf) on fb ... what upsets me is them adding friends of each other. I happen to be friends with a guy who knows her, (in fact we went out for dinner together in the very early days of NC and he wanted to progress things but I was weirded out that he was such close friends with her) and I've noticed my NC is now friends with him. And she has added someone who I was friends with through him. It hurts. And it will keep on happening more and more, I know that. The only thing stopping me is that I know it will be noticed, we have SO many mutual friends. And I don't want people to know I care.i need your steely will and NOT PEEK.

@oldbrook hell yes x

Sorry I haven't posted much. Hi Bookangel and Push

I've been reading all your posts, but haven't posted much as I'm still wallowing. Reading this post really helped, hope it helps some of you too. Similar to the one which said you need to remember why you love him to let go.

to fully heal your broken heart

Yes Oldbrook sounds great.

I was just getting over the trauma of last night and the kisser messaged me to say did I take advantage of him. Eh that would be a no. Not sure what to reply. Want to tread carefully as I don't want him to say anything to my friend and he is a genuinely lovely guy.

Am so pissed off at myself for getting into this situation.

Sorry I know I'm me me me tonight