The Fabulous Crown wearing cafe. No contact thread part 9...

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Hello ladies for anyone attempting, going through or wanted to try No Contact. We don't judge on here... Just lots of lovely support and advice... Come join us

@basseting you can use your mumsnet name or your proper one. Have a look if you can find the app... If you can't direct message me and I will help you x

@wossgoinon "only happy people cheat"???? What fucking planet is he on????

So sorry @wossgoinon another one gaslighting you! Sounds like a wankbadger of the highest order x

Hiya
Had a crap day yesterday but I know why and its my own doing, its not even worth putting it here, just need to shake off and carry on.

Whos organising WhatsApp chat? Can you please private message me and Ill give my number to add to the group..
Thanks ladies

Hi @Teensandfuture sorry you're low. As Taylor Swift said, Shake it off. Hugs x

Gaslighting. That’s not the half of it. Telling me that my kids are thick etc that they don’t wash up properly. Taking pictures if they put too much food in the cat bowl

Afternoon all. I'm so hungover. Went out last night and kissed a friend of a friend. Feel so awful and guilty. I'm so confused. Myself and H are splitting up and waiting on mediation but is that cheating? I just want to fast track this mediation and get out. I've never done anything like that before.

wossgoinon he told you your kids were thick?? you (and they) dont need that sort of rubbish. Kick him to the kerb and stay well away. x

Welcome Woss anyone calling my kids thick would be shown the door

@NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 was this friend of a friend a drunken snog or was there more too it? Personally I wouldn't consider it cheating, especially under the circumstances with your H but I can understand it making you feel a bit shit. Please don't though. But for your own mental well-being it's probably not a great idea to do it again as it will just complicate matters x

NK dont beat yourself up too much? it was just a kiss!

And @wossgoinon my NC was similarly vile to my kids on occasion. I took the kids' side every time which he didn't like. They never improve.

Ginger just a drunken snog, there is nothing more to it than that. I definitely won't be planning on repeating it and have never done anything like that in all the years I've been with H.

Thanks Basseting I feel awful.

It was like he wanted it to be me and him against them

nk please don't feel bad about a drunken snog when you've told your h your separating! Seriously, it's very minor and utterly forgivable.

whispers 'you go girl'

NK there are many folks who have more than a drunken snog whilst telling their partners they are happily married to them.
You have been clear with stbexH and it was only a kiss. go get something nice for your hangover and dont beat yourself up.x

We do excellent hangover brunches in the Different Street Cafe

@NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 trust me many of us have been there at one time or another. You're not a bad person I promise. Only reason I suggested not doing it again was for your own self preservation at the moment. Xxx

Ah! The Different Street Cafe! LOVE it Belonger!!!

@wossgoinon I know what you mean. Mine was the same. All about their fragile egos unfortunately x

Why do I still want him to get in touch

It's crazy isn't it @wossgoinon? We know they're no good and yet we still crave the crumbs they offer. X

Makes me feel sick in myself. Just really upsetting. I need to think that payou there is better out there. Next one will have a brick Nokia. No smart phones. Work of the devil

Thanks so much you lovely ladies for not making me feel like a complete bitch.

Belonger it was so long since I kissed someone properly it was actually lovely. He was a great kisser which was one positive from this whole sorry mess.

I'm so glad it was a good kiss nk! It would be super awful if you felt bad and he was a rubbish snogger.

Is it very wrong for me to be happy for you???