Meow welcome. You're doing well already, NC is a tough path but when you absolutely know it's the right one it makes it slightly easier.
Ravens sorry things are hard for you at the moment. Try not to contact him on day 30 if you possibly can, you can do it.
Oldbrook with sm I have the same problem. I really don't want to unfriend/block as I know it'd be noticed. We have more than 40 mutual friends. My NC never posts, but I'm scared of others tagging him in things that would upset me. It hasn't happened yet, but I'm sure it will. Originally my aim was that we would be friends of sorts at some point in the future when I had achieved indifference but I now think, because of belongers quote we never will be. Why have people in your life who make you feel you are hard to love? It's so true. Crying writing this, it's horrible to contemplate but so true.
Regarding old flame who I mentioned earlier, I am going to leave it a month and if he hasn't contacted me by then I may contact him. He mentioned a song, and I said I love that song, and the singer is at a venue near us in June. He said he had tickets and I should go with him. I made a jokey reply at the time but at the end of the conversation i said I would go with him to it if we were both still single then! He said oh we'll definitely be in touch before then! But I'm not holding my breath... we normally have a longish phone call about every 6 months or once a year and that's it ... but then again we've never found ourselves both single at the same time since then.
I do need to tread carefully... this man did hurt me, he was very newly single, head all over the place. Tbh since we split I've always thought of him as the one that got away. Closure for me at that time was learning to live with that reality. But as I told him the other night, it wasn't as bad as this time. I only lost half a stone when me and him split, this time, with NC, ive lost 1 and three quarters stone and it's still coming off. Also I'd found someone else slightly less than 2 months after that split, which lessened the pain considerably. This time, it's around 2 months since NC told me he had found someone else, and I haven't got anyone really on the horizon.
In a nutshell, part of me thinks it's the lesser of 2 evils. If I did get hurt by old flame at least that would mean I'd be over NC, who is so nearby that grieving for him is a nightmare, so many places I could bump into him etc. Old flame lives about 40 mins away so at least no chance meetings if it went pear-shaped.
Old flame was a very good shag as well 😂!