The Fabulous Crown wearing cafe. No contact thread part 9...

[seshi]

Hello ladies for anyone attempting, going through or wanted to try No Contact. We don't judge on here... Just lots of lovely support and advice... Come join us

Don't let him make you feel shit Ginger. He's shit.

Theparting if your old flame wouldn't hurt you then I'd totally go there. One night in heaven and all that!

Mine would be in the cafe having the craic and getting a sing song Going!

at Mr Golden Penis!

Mine would be seeing if anyone was looking at him and trying to grope me!

@ginger sending you lots of love and hope the doc is a help. I have suffered all my life with anxiety, depression and mood swings and my ex h used to constantly tell me what a mental case I was.. Still does. We are not... We get up every day and we function despite the shit that life throws at us!! You know what we all need... A bloody retreat!!

I honestly don't give a toss about what mine would be doing. I don't like thinking of him as mine or anything to do with me!

ginger I'm so glad we are able to help you not get drawn back into the cycle. It seems really obvious when it's someone else, how he belittles you, makes you the problem, you then understandably feel shit about yourself and are therefore really vulnerable to falling for him being nice again. Wow, what a toxic thing to do. Here, let me totally destroy your self esteem so that you think no one else will put up with you and I can then rescue you and you'll think you're lucky to have me

That's exactly what it feels like @Belonger. Right now I feel defective and broken.

What kind of person goes out of their way to make someone else feel like that?

He'd tell me it was some kind of 'tough love' or something. In all honesty I'm ashamed to say it's probably the sex that kept me hooked.

Not that I feel remotely sexy or attractive any more. God what a mess. I wish I'd never met him.

Ps I'm bringing my pooch to the cafe too because she loves me just the way I am!

My NC wouldn’t be there in the cafe - too busy to fit in with his work, travel, kids etc. He might have said he’d look into it and let me know but then would have forgotten

She's gorgeous, and she's right to love you just as you are. All pets welcome in the Different Street Cafe!

He's a shit ginger, pure and simple. And sex is a really powerful force so don't feel bad about that. Being desired and feeling overwhelmed by desire myself is pretty much the only reason I have kept going back to my NC!

Why the fuck do we put up with it? I'm no shrinking violet and yet when it comes to him all common sense goes out of the window. It's the cognitive dissonance I can't cope with. The 'knowing' that it's not all in your head, or not all you, vs the persistent insistence that it IS you. It plays havoc with my sense of self.

All I know is that I feel safer alone.

He's still bloody messaging me. By email now! Can't block that as it's work contact! Not sure you can block emails anyway? Am not replying. In his mind is he pursuing me, as the gallant hero, trying to save me from myself and show me the error of my ways or something?

In fairness Oldbrook my guy is great fun. We are so alike in that we are both very sociable and chatty and love a good get together.

@ginger you can actually block emails.... If you really need to. You can pretty much block anything these days!

My NC would be in the cafe being the life and soul of the party laughing and joking totally pissed wanting everyone to like him and think what a great guy he is !

NK he sounds good fun.

@Olikingcharles what a party pooper!!!

Awwwwww @Olikingcharles

LOL my NC would look at trip advisor first to see if café is posh enough, worthy of his visit lol but if found out it is, he'd pay for him ,me and all our friends and leave generous tip,but only if café was in substantial distance from home-God forbid someone he knows would see him there in the company of other woman...

Oh forgot to mention that my NC would agree to come along but plead poverty so I'd end up paying for everything all night!

Ginger yes he is.!!! Also a bit like Ravens he'd have to make sure it didn't interfere with work as can't miss that...