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The Fabulous Crown wearing cafe. No contact thread part 9...

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seshi · 12/03/2018 21:01

Hello ladies for anyone attempting, going through or wanted to try No Contact. We don't judge on here... Just lots of lovely support and advice... Come join us

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anxiousnow · 13/03/2018 23:04

You do deserve better Basseting! Also agree with Seshi about sending in NC crown troups

Seshi hope your DS is feeling better

Teens hope your DS isn't too sore and healing up well

One of my NC's has started messaging again. Not playing games but have been playing it cool and he has been the one chasing to meet up. This is lookalike not trueNC there would be no playing cool with true, a simple wave emoji would have been on the train to him

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anxiousnow · 13/03/2018 23:26

Sex on beach etc I think

anxiousnow · 13/03/2018 23:28

Maybe that's a bit vanilla for nowadays.

I'll guess - sugar rimmer Shock

MrsGryllsTheSecond · 13/03/2018 23:36

Just popped back before bed. Porno cocktail is the pornstar martini I think mentioned upthread Grin

MrsGryllsTheSecond · 13/03/2018 23:37

Anxious yours sounds more interesting (but not my cup of teaGrin) Wink

anxiousnow · 13/03/2018 23:45

Not mine either Mrs but was recently asked to do it by a man I met for one date only just before Xmas. That was one of the reasons there wasn't a second.

anxiousnow · 13/03/2018 23:45

Please don't chuck me out of the cafe Blush

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 13/03/2018 23:50

anxious I know what you mean about wishing your DCs were enough. I feel like I’m letting mine down by being so depressed, they aren’t getting the best of me Sad

I feel guilty because I thought I was showing them that a healthy relationship means saying no, I won’t accept that. And sticking to it. But all I’m showing them is that I’m weak and crying over a man who thinks it’s ok to speak to me like a bit of crap sometimes. Sad

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 14/03/2018 00:09

Yes oldbrook

He will miss you for being his biggest fan ! Yup here it is again . I read it frequently as most are so true !

The Fabulous Crown wearing cafe. No contact thread part 9...
The Fabulous Crown wearing cafe. No contact thread part 9...
Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 14/03/2018 00:20

anxious re my date - on paper he is a good match /my level but not sure if he has any sense of humour as that is essential and he hasn't shown that yet . He could be a bit boring ...He is however very polite in exchanges . Not sure if I like the look of him plus you need to see someone in real life ( My NC is short ( in height Wink Blush ), skinny, aged before his time and would never have classified him as "my type" but it was just a real mental and physical attraction ). I would have swiped left . He was definitely batting above his average with me. Mr Boring's photos are hard to gauge - but thought it was worth a go as he is local ( very ) showing at 1/2 a mile from me . Shock He could of course evaporate like many OLD people do

anxiousnow · 14/03/2018 00:27

bloody you know tinder only shows distance in terms of full miles so if it says half a mile he is your neighbour...

anxiousnow · 14/03/2018 00:29

I totally get the would have swiped left thing too so worth a try. Hopefully he is saving his huge sense of humour for the actual date.

Myrelationship but you are showing them that you don't put up with it despite it being such a hard upsetting decision. Brilliant lesson to your DC's. Hope it starts to feel easier soon

anxiousnow · 14/03/2018 00:30

bloody sorry I was only joking about neighbour part.

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 14/03/2018 00:52

Grin anxious re my neighbour ...

No I would have swiped left on my NC !!!! Never in a million years would have chosen him based on his photos.

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Ravenscloak · 14/03/2018 05:59

Morning, Day 20 NC here I come!
Hope you all have a good day

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Ravenscloak · 14/03/2018 06:38

oliking Sorry so you are sitting on the sofa hurting and crying because of his treatment of you and you are worried about him????? You know you deserve more than this - he is now feeling a fraction of the pain you’ve been through! It’s not your problem anymore. You are responsible ONLY for your happiness. Let him sort himself out. I seem to remember that there is no chance of this relationship going anywhere, so it’s time to look forward and not back. NC of 60 days is amazing, and even if you don’t feel it, you are doing better, you are stronger so keep it up! Flowers

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 14/03/2018 06:43

Wow 60 days Oliking. As the others always say, is there new info? Don't respond just to make him feel better. Would it make you feel better?

Anxious is your lookalike texting you now? What is he saying? My H is in complete denial and after all the work hassle over the last while I've no energy to talk to him about it.

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 14/03/2018 06:44

Well done on Day 20 Ravens. How are you feeling?

Ravenscloak · 14/03/2018 06:57

Very up and down. I love him and I miss him, but I try not to think about him. I get angry and constantly rehearse what I’d say to him about how he’s disappointed me.
I tried to write a letter to him (not to send but to set out my thoughts) but it just said how much I loved him but then how he’s let me down and had ruined what we had. So just schizophrenic - did I want him back or not? I clearly do, so why say all the nasty stuff, if I just want to tell him what I think of him then never to contact me again then that was the second half.

Truth is, if he’s not willing to try to make it work then there’s no point and that’s got to come from him. That’s why I’m finding NC up to 30 days ok, he’s not in contact and won’t be (he will be sure he is right) and I’m doing what you’re supposed to with NC. Thanks for asking NK

gingergenius · 14/03/2018 06:57

Morning all!

@MyRelationshipIsWeird don't fret about dc seeing you cry. I feel exactly the same as you and it sucks but you ARE doing right by them. Don't feel guilty.

@Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname the thing about why they miss you is spot on. My NC only likes me when I'm soft and compliant. Much easier for him. I will reread that when he inevitably comes back to tell me he's pointing out my faults for my own good.

@anxiousnow Wtf is a sugar rimmer? Blush

gingergenius · 14/03/2018 06:59

@Ravenscloak yes. The effort has to come from them. Sorry it still hurts

gingergenius · 14/03/2018 06:59

@NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 you sound really down about your H 😞

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