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The Fabulous Crown wearing cafe. No contact thread part 9...

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seshi · 12/03/2018 21:01

Hello ladies for anyone attempting, going through or wanted to try No Contact. We don't judge on here... Just lots of lovely support and advice... Come join us

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Itsalottery · 13/03/2018 21:13

Evening all, a cocktail over here too please.

Well done ginger on not sending the message. Everytime I sent similar messages I regretted it. The only way to stop myself from doing more was to picture his smug satisfied mocking face as he read it! It eventually stopped me!

bloody love that quote. Sorry to hear of your anger although seshi is right, channel it to do some good. He was so wrong to be so dishonest. So many are and appear to have no conscience.

Child calling. I'll be back to finish my cocktail soon....

gingergenius · 13/03/2018 21:14

@seshi can you imagine how brilliant it would be to meet up?

@bassetting the hospital letter sounds like a standard letter that gets sent out. Don't take it to heart. I have the same prob as I need my knee replacing but there's never a good time to do it because you know, single parentdom!

@Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname No, he's not been fair. But you have. You HAVE. And he knows it.

gingergenius · 13/03/2018 21:14

@Oldbrook I have a bit of a crush on Michele Obama! Blush

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 13/03/2018 21:18

seshi I had a spa thingy yesterday Grin

I know I shouldn't feel like this and my yellow post it top right is sitting looking at me ..sigh....

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 13/03/2018 21:22

ginger you are right - he should know that I have been fair as I could so easily blow him out of the water in various aspects of his life. I was never able to work out if he was just stupid or a smug bastard with all the stuff that he told me and sent me . Even when I found out he was married he was messaging me wanting to see me - I could have told his wife to come and stand outside my house and she would have seen him go in !!

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 13/03/2018 21:27

It is very unfair Bloody. But he is weak and sleazy. You are strong and dignified

gingergenius · 13/03/2018 21:27

@Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname their sense of protected entitlement is astounding. Sadly it's all to common. Mainly because the OW is somehow more vilified than the cheating husband and sadly women know this, which is why we stay quiet. I'm sorry it's been shit for you. You deserve better.

seshi · 13/03/2018 21:47

@ginger it would be brilliant!! We need to establish where everyone is...!

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Oldbrook · 13/03/2018 22:00

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Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 13/03/2018 22:04

Yeah you are all right - thank you .

Teensandfuture · 13/03/2018 22:08

No Oldbrook you automatically unfriend them when block them

You want to block your NC? You are brave 💥

gingergenius · 13/03/2018 22:08

Not sure @Oldbrook but I have blocked mine and I can still see him on messenger so imagine the two are separate

Basseting · 13/03/2018 22:16

ginger I can get to London (after Op if it happens)

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 13/03/2018 22:16

We need to add Dua Lipa to the jukebox

The Fabulous Crown wearing cafe. No contact thread part 9...
Basseting · 13/03/2018 22:17

On Facebook, are friends listed by frequency of contact?

gingergenius · 13/03/2018 22:20

I can get to London too! And YY to DuaLipa

"If you're under him, you ain't getting over him"

NEW RULES!

Basseting · 13/03/2018 22:25

Only on his list (about 300) one of the top ones (on the box on the left hand side) is a girl who looks just like I did 25 yrs ago. (she is about 25, naturally). I have not seen her before (I'd remember, its uncanny) so I assume this is a new friend? is there any way to tell?

(I know I should be zen about this but I am very curious)

Oldbrook · 13/03/2018 22:30

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anxiousnow · 13/03/2018 22:31

Evening ladies,
Ginger - well done on deleting. He would only take it as a reply without really reading It, like how he ignored the lost trust part of your previous message.

Belonger - I know a couple where the man feels so unloveable he is literally his wife's lapdog. It is so unhealthy. She just kept knocking him down so she knew he woukd be so grateful to her for having him. It's very sad to watch.

Bloody - yes he lied to you from the beginning. As others have said, this shows who he is, his wife has been lied to for longer and still doesn't know who she is married too. How are you feeling about your date? Agree with Seshi, but yourself something, and try to enjoy yourself.

When did the cafe open btw? It sounds lovely. I'll have a vanilla latte please. Nikita Gill opening is perfect.

Oldbrook - definitely a bruised ego from your NC. But he deserves that!

Teens - I need to fill the void too. I get annoyed at myself about this as look at my lovely DC's and they should be enough but I too need that bounce. I think try anything that makes you feel better about yourself. So if you hate your bedroom for example, do some decorating so it is the room for for a crown wearing queen. Or if you feel your skin/fitness/a subject you want to learn more about. Does this make sense?

NK - counting with you. 14 weeks till hopefully at least H will be sorted. Do you think he knows you really mean it now?

Seshi - park run/yoga sound so good. I want to do these things but can't handle not knowing anyone in the room. Your NC sounds like he really does want to go, discussing it with his work friend. How's the new car?

Need to go for a bit now and get some jobs done so sorry to not post to everyone individually. Love to you all and please save me a seat at cafe.

Oldbrook · 13/03/2018 22:31

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gingergenius · 13/03/2018 22:31

I think friends are listed alphabetically. It step away from Fb @Basseting. You're only going to make yourself feel worse x

gingergenius · 13/03/2018 22:33

Awww lovely as ever anxious x

Basseting · 13/03/2018 22:39

Hmmm. Mine appear by frequency of recent contact.
There are TWO of them (both v sim to how I was) not a coincidence.
(I realise that he must have 'met' the asian ladies online) Yuk yuk yuk.
Its his FB bday tomorrow. I shall try not to look at what b'day wishes he gets (he sets it a few days out for 'security reasons' - I think he thinks he is POTUS).
Well this is doing me no good. I am off to bed.
Dont stay up toooo late and drink toooo many porno cocktails you lot! x

Teensandfuture · 13/03/2018 22:40

Friends are listed either alphabetically or newest added on top of the list.

Look at me knowing all these little things, too much stalking, vast experience..

gingergenius · 13/03/2018 22:44

He's a knobber bassett and you deserve far better. Sleep well xxx