have no one to tell and im feeling very bad also newley wed last week,and need some advice

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well first i wanna say im very ashamed and angry with myself,my husband is from dominica i met him over a year ago in england but his visa run out feb so he went home,we was going to get married but at a later date but what with his visa running out i flew over there and married him a lot sooner then we planed. i married him on the 24 april and came home having to leave him in dominica till a later date hopefully only 2 weeks till he comes home.well the bad bit is and i feel very upset about it i got very very drunk on friday and a friend of mine that i have know for over five years came to watch the wed video with a glass of wine,well i ended up haveing sex with him and now i feel so so bad i cant tell my husband coz it will mess everything up but it was a very big mistake and i cant belive it happened i just cant get what i did so wrong off my head and i love my husband very much i just need a chat as im alone and have noone else to talk too please help??

v, sorry I have no concrete advice for you, I just want to send you good wishes, I hope you can make a decision whether to tell your husband or not and be happy with it.

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I think it must be hard being newly married and being in different countries, but its only been over a week since you got married and you've already slept with someone else, That speaks volumes. i really feel you need to think about what it is you want/need.
Noticed you are on the pregnancy/conception boards a lot and i think you need to worry more about your relationship before even thinking about bringing a baby into it. Sorry if that is harsh, but you need to get your priorties right, and that at the moment should be your relationship.

I don't really think anyone can give you any advice as such, you need to decide if you can live with this on your conscience.

oh god Fio i never even thought about that, i hope so considering you are trying to get pregnant!!!

but you were posting on saturday about wanting to be pregnant and no mention of this
sat thread and didnt you post a lot of threads on same subject last year under slightly different name

LOOK AT THE END OF THE DAY I NEVER CAME ON HEAR TO TELL EVERBODY TO GET TOLD EXCTLAY WHAT I KNOW I CDAME ON HEAR FOR A LITTLE COMFORT IF YOU LIKE, I DONT KNOW IF YOU LOT HAVE EVER BEEN DRUNK AND NOT REMEMBERED A THING BUT HEY THATS ME I HAD A BIT TO MUCH AND THINGS GOT OUT OF HAND I LOVE MY HUSBAND AND I NEVER WOULD OF DONE A TIHNG LIKE THIS NEATHER HAVE I BEFORE IT WAS A BIG MASTAKE AND I FEEL BAD AS IT IS. AND YES CONDOMS WAS USED

UNDER A DIF NAME???? I DONT UNDERSTAND NO I NEVER??? I HAVE BEEN TRYING FOR Q BABY FOR OVER A YEAR SO YES I HAVE BEEN ON HERE BEFORE?

I THOUGHT MUMS NET WAS FOR ADVICE NOT TO JUDGE OWELL MAYBE YOU ALL HAVENT MADE MISTAKES BEFORE????? BEING ONLY 22 I THINK THATS NOT BAD MAKING ONE AS IM ONLY HUMAN

I got married when I was 20 and yet have managed to never cheat on DH ... but thats just me

Vvvv,absolutely understandable to shag someone else while watchnig your wedding video. I'd go and do it again with a new chap in order to extinguish any lingering feelings of guilt.

Shag away!!!

fio.

vvv, that's the problem with posting on an internet forum. you get brickbats with the roses. if it was a big mistake, contraception was used and you love your husband then don't tell him. but i've never had so much to drink that i've slept with someone i didn't want to, so you might need to have a think about that too, to work out what's going on with you.

as mistakes go shagging someone else when watching your wedding video is as bad as it gets and if you don't think MN can be judgmental where have you been posting?!

MOONDOG THAT SAYS IT ALL FOR YOUR NAME GET A LIFE YOU SAD ????? DOG

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fio

so true about the wedding video... what was that about vvvvvvvv?

I don't think anyone here was judging you.

Being 22 is no excuse, you are old enough to have married and decided to commit yourself to someone for life. Of course people make mistakes but as someone has already said, to have been married for only a week and to already have been unfaithful does not bode well for the future of your marriage.

If it was a mistake then learn from it and make sure nothing like that happens ever again. Focus on your husband and trying for a baby if that's what you want, and spend the rest of your life being the best wife and mum you can.

Don't get stressed out. You came here for support so I am giving you some. Put the past in the past and move on.

WELL THATS a good job i dont live on the comp like some sad ooos just that i new i had done very wrong and its not something i would like to tell anyone thats why i came on here to at least get help not to be slaged offff i know i9 had done wrong and thats why i will never drink again/first and last time that will ever happen and boy im paying for it now so no i didnt enjoy it at all so you all can find something else to laught at in your borning pc time lololol big joke over? not to the people who havent said any thing judgemental?