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Met a guy, do I message him or not?

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paleontologist22 · 25/02/2018 23:00

Early last week I had an overnight stay at a hotel in town due to a works event. In the residents bar at night, I got chatting to a guy who was also there on work. We hit it off and got on like a house on fire. Around 4am he said he had to get some sleep as had to be up early. I said bye to him but he said he would see me at breakfast and maybe we could swap phone numbers then and keep in touch. I ended up sleeping straight through breakfast and therefore never saw him again.

Now I know his full name, and I've found him on social media (yes I googled him!). Would it be really stalkerish of me to send him a quick message? Just to say something like oh thanks for keeping us company, let me know if you're ever in this part of the country again?

Or do I just leave it and forget about him? I mean he was just a guy. And he actually lives in another country so I don't think anything would ever really happen but I just haven't been able to stop thinking about him and how well we got on or even how attracted I was to him!

OP posts:
Milomonster · 07/10/2018 14:02

That’s so wonderful! It gives you a chance to have space but enjoy each other. Right, I need to go hang out in hotel bars...

paleontologist22 · 07/10/2018 15:09

God bless the works do and the hotel bar! And obviously I never would have messaged him in the first place if it wasn't for MN!

I'm still being quite cautious I think, not wanting to put a label on it, or make it serious. Not sure whether that's the right or wrong to go about in this way but I don't want to get in something so serious straightway but also something transatlantic!

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paleontologist22 · 30/08/2019 22:34

I randomly remembered this old thread of mine.

If anyone is still interested in this; we are now officially in a relationship. Long distance so it's not the easiest, and he's currently in America for work, but thank god for FaceTime!

Thanks to MN for pushing me to message him in the first place!

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CursedDiamond · 30/08/2019 22:45

Yay! Love a good love story 😁

Mary1935 · 30/08/2019 23:16

Aww that’s lovely.

CassettesAreCool · 30/08/2019 23:52

Wonderful!

CheerySal · 31/08/2019 00:40

Nothing really to lose in messaging him, other than your dignity if he blocks you. Could be a future husband with keys to long-lasting happiness jangling in his hands – what you waiting for?!?

VixenSixen · 31/08/2019 00:45

This is such an amazing story.....😍😻 Well done for making that leap and getting in touch!! I'll never forget reading this now, might encourage me to go for things more. 🌈

Gemma1971 · 31/08/2019 11:48

I LOVE this post!!!

ChristmasFluff · 31/08/2019 12:08

I remember this! So happy to read your update!

Windmillwhirl · 31/08/2019 12:11

I remember this thread, too. Thanks for the update. What a lovely story!!

Musti · 31/08/2019 12:20

Wow that's brilliant!

Lollieloolaa · 31/08/2019 14:39

I’ve just sat here and read the whole thread. I’m so pleased you took the plunge and messaged him. I’m so very happy that you got to together in the end but that you got to know each other first :) so happy for you!

Ribenaberriesgowoo82 · 31/08/2019 17:53

@CheerySal, think you need to read the full thread lol

paleontologist22 · 31/08/2019 18:32

Thank you guys! Genuinely cannot thank the people who pushed me to message him in the first place!!

It's not a typical relationship with the distance as he lives a little while away from me when he is in the UK and then for half the year works in America but it seems to be working for us so far! 🤞🏽

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Jezebel2104 · 31/08/2019 18:41

Just read the whole of this thread, what a wonderful outcome. Just shows if it's meant to be it will happen ❤️

notreallyacatfish · 31/08/2019 18:51

This is my first time coming across this thread. What a lovely outcome!

@paleontologist22 did you ever find out if he did actually turn up for breakfast that morning? How long he waited?

paleontologist22 · 31/08/2019 19:02

@notreallyacatfish He did wake up for breakfast but he had to as he had to meet the group of people he was looking after. I obviously completely slept through.

His version: he waited forlornly in the restaurant area for as long as he could before he had to leave.. thinking I'd stood him up because I didn't like him 😂

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Limt · 31/08/2019 19:21

Aaaaahhhhh……..what a lovely thread. I remember reading the beginning, it's so nice of you to update OP. You're a Star

Bobbins19 · 31/08/2019 19:55

This really made me smile!!! When I saw it was 9 pages long and originally started in Feb 2018 I was hopeful for a happy ending!!!

AMAM8916 · 31/08/2019 20:45

I've just read this whole thread and can't stop smiling. So lovely 🙂. I'll be looking out for more updates 😉

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 31/08/2019 20:47

Brilliant!

Kevinbaconsrealwife · 31/08/2019 20:51

Oh fabulous !!! Sooooo pleased for you both...xx

LtJudyHopps · 31/08/2019 22:29

What an amazing update! So nice to read a happy ending for once 😊 long may it continue!

NewMe2019 · 31/08/2019 22:40

So much for those non wedding bells then OP 😉.

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