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Met a guy, do I message him or not?

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paleontologist22 · 25/02/2018 23:00

Early last week I had an overnight stay at a hotel in town due to a works event. In the residents bar at night, I got chatting to a guy who was also there on work. We hit it off and got on like a house on fire. Around 4am he said he had to get some sleep as had to be up early. I said bye to him but he said he would see me at breakfast and maybe we could swap phone numbers then and keep in touch. I ended up sleeping straight through breakfast and therefore never saw him again.

Now I know his full name, and I've found him on social media (yes I googled him!). Would it be really stalkerish of me to send him a quick message? Just to say something like oh thanks for keeping us company, let me know if you're ever in this part of the country again?

Or do I just leave it and forget about him? I mean he was just a guy. And he actually lives in another country so I don't think anything would ever really happen but I just haven't been able to stop thinking about him and how well we got on or even how attracted I was to him!

OP posts:
Straycatblue · 01/09/2019 14:35

Aw I remember reading this thread last year, what a lovely update! Grin

Powerplant · 01/09/2019 15:33

Message him you’ve got nothing to lose but everything to gain.

paleontologist22 · 24/01/2020 01:43

Every so often I remember this old thread of mine and think I should update it as I know how much I love to read updates!

We're still very much in a long distance relationship. He's back in the country now but still lives 4 hours away from me so FaceTime and video calling is our best friend. All seems to be going well (touch wood), we've told each other we love each other etc. Discussed the future and if one of us would move across the country for the other sometime in the future and all those details. But for now we're both enjoying each other and each other's company. Don't want to jinx anything!

I still to this day have MN to thank for pushing me to message him Grin

OP posts:
Livandme · 24/01/2020 03:07

😊😊

ArranUpsideDown · 24/01/2020 04:45

I still to this day have MN to thank for pushing me to message him

Seeing some lovely updates at present (you and Basil of Baker Street ).

I'm so pleased for you.

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 24/01/2020 06:05

I remember this thread. Great update thanks!!

Notcoolmum · 24/01/2020 08:04

Aw. What a lovely update.

3rdchristmaslucky · 24/01/2020 09:27

Living for this update. What a lovely story!

bluehairandheartbroken · 24/01/2020 10:30

Ahh I love this! I'm glad you messaged him Grin

Sickofrain · 24/01/2020 12:15

Thank you for updating, that's lovely! Good luck!

yellowallpaper · 24/01/2020 12:20

If he lives in another country I just would bother. It would exhaust me keeping up a long distance relationship

PinkMonkeyBird · 24/01/2020 12:47

Ok I met my OH by accident via friends and it was a brief meeting (an hour) but we hit it off. I had to rush off, thought he was quite sweet but didn't think to actually ask for his number. I went home. Little did I know he was very taken with me and via the network of friends, that night had sent me his number. He hadn't even asked if I was single (said it didn't occur to him at all). I sent my number back through the chain of friends. I was actually intending on messaging him first, but he did it before me.

So the moral of the story is...if you swapped numbers and he was keen on you, he'd have contacted you by now. He might have thought you weren't interested because you didn't turn up for breakfast! I'd message him!!

PinkMonkeyBird · 24/01/2020 12:49

Argh just noticed this is an old thread...should have read the last page! Sorry OP....great to see the update and glad it is going well.

PinkMonkeyBird · 24/01/2020 12:50

@yellowallpaper A friend of mine met her bloke online. She was in the UK and he was in New York. They have sustained a relationship for 3 years, long distance, and have just got married. It can work.

crimsonlake · 24/01/2020 13:15

How lovely, very pleased with the update, thank you.

aufaitaccompli · 24/01/2020 15:44

Wow OP...Was really pleased to come across this thread today. Fortune favours the brave...
I know because I'm not!!

My good friend is in transatlantic ldr and it works for them Flowers

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 24/01/2020 17:41

Aw. Lovely update

ChristmasFluff · 24/01/2020 20:59

I remember this thread and love it. Glad to hear all is going well - fortune favours the brave!

paleontologist22 · 24/01/2020 23:03

It's definitely not easy when he is America, with the time difference and work etc and at the beginning our times just wouldn't match but now we've got a whole routine going which seems to work for us.

He's meant to be in the UK for a good chunk of this year so that's definitely much easier as we're in the same time zone at least! I went down to see him and spent the weekend with him and he's coming up to see me next week.

I also have a very good group of friends who keep me company when he's not around. It is hard always being the 'single but not actually single' person at dinner parties, events etc but that's a choice we've both made I guess.

Somewhere somehow we seem to have made it work!

OP posts:
paleontologist22 · 14/02/2021 03:57

I very randomly once again remembered this old thread of mine as I genuine believe I have the people of Mumsnet to thank for pushing me to go for it in the first place.

We are very much in a committed relationship now, have discussed marriage, children, a whole future together.

We actually lived together for 5 months or so at the beginning of the first lockdown (made sense as we were both living by ourselves separately) before he had to go back to work in America partway though the year. Lockdown and restrictions means he is still there but we have now been looking for places to buy together for when he finally can come back safely.

Thanks so much Mumsnet, without guys I might still have been wondering 'what if?!'

OP posts:
Einsteinsings · 14/02/2021 07:56

What a lovely story. So pleased it worked out for you

Nacreous · 14/02/2021 07:56

Just caught up on the whole thread - this is so lovely!

I'm glad you risked it and messaged him - nothing ventured, nothing gained! Must be hard for you guys with him stuck in the USA, especially after you'd both had an unusual amount of time together because of Covid!

PeriM · 14/02/2021 10:13

Wow!!! Amazing 💚

Isolatedizzy · 14/02/2021 10:18

Oh wow I remember this thread! Thank you for updating , lovely happy ending!

TheCrowening · 14/02/2021 10:59

This is the most fantastic thread ❤️

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