Met a guy, do I message him or not?

[paleontologist22]

Early last week I had an overnight stay at a hotel in town due to a works event. In the residents bar at night, I got chatting to a guy who was also there on work. We hit it off and got on like a house on fire. Around 4am he said he had to get some sleep as had to be up early. I said bye to him but he said he would see me at breakfast and maybe we could swap phone numbers then and keep in touch. I ended up sleeping straight through breakfast and therefore never saw him again.

Now I know his full name, and I've found him on social media (yes I googled him!). Would it be really stalkerish of me to send him a quick message? Just to say something like oh thanks for keeping us company, let me know if you're ever in this part of the country again?

Or do I just leave it and forget about him? I mean he was just a guy. And he actually lives in another country so I don't think anything would ever really happen but I just haven't been able to stop thinking about him and how well we got on or even how attracted I was to him!

"Well he said he really needed sleep and hadn't planned to be awake till that late as he was working the Friday"

Ime this actually means "whoops I've just remembered I'm married and supposed to be monogamous"

I think with the extra details you've added it would be completely fine to message him. What's the worst thing that could happen? If you never hear, just write it off as an exercise in learning to be more gutsy!

If you only take 50% of chances in life your luck goes to 50% too. Do it be casual and if he doesn't reply that's cool too but you would of never know else

I'd message him, I don't think it's stalkerish at all. It's what happens in this day and age. He won't message you because you missed the breakfast, he'll think you're not interested.

Go for it, nothing ventured nothing gained

These type of connections with others are rare imho, so I wouldn't hesitate to message. If nothing comes of it what have you lost. You may even gain by having more confidence next time.

I think in this day and age it's not weird to fb someone and putting myself in his shoes I wouldn't be creeped out if someone found me on fb after failing to turn up for breakfast as agreed. As many others have said it would probably be nice to message and apologise and strike up a conversation that way.

I think you should go for it. You've nothing to lose and an extra friend to gain.

Just message him it's no biggie. It seems crazy not to!

LIfe is too short to have regrets.

Message him & see what happens.

Do it. He will either respond or not. What have you got to lose?

What's the worst that can happen? Do it!

What have you got to lose?

And I agree wit others. It's not stalkerish.

Do it........ now

I reckon it's worth a go. In this day and age looking someone up on Facebook really doesn't make you a stalker.

You'll never know unless you try. Message him yes! If you don't you could always be thinking what if...life is too short for that

I'd probably message.
Just apologising for missing breakfast and why.

Now you've given the whole story absolutely send him a message!! If it back fires who cares - you aren't going to see him again

SEND SEND SEND

Life is too short. If it backfires, so bloody what!

One of two things will happen if you message him. He'll either think you’re a stalker (and I guarantee you he won’t) or he won’t think you’re a stalker.

One of two things will happen from there. He'll either message you back or not. You can take it from there.

There is one cold stone certainty. If you don’t message him, you’ll never know.

And lastly, even if he thinks you’re a bit weird and stalkerish, who bloody cares? The sun will rise tomorrow. You’ll still pay taxes. You’ll still get paid.

Nothing to lose!

Life is too short. Just don't be upset if he doesn't reply

Just send a short message apologising for missing him at breakfast OP, you have nothing to lose by doing so. I met a guy in a bar abroad on holiday who also lived in London and we swapped numbers, it took me two weeks to build up the courage to text him as I worried he wouldn't remember me as he hadn't made the first move to message. He did remember me, but had lost his phone and my number later on the night we met so couldn't contact me, we dated for about 6 months and I was head over heels, we weren't compatible long term but I had a lot of fun with him. If you message him and he doesn't reply it's no loss, but you could be missing out on something wonderful if you don't. It's not creepy at all to message him on Facebook given the circumstances, go for it OP!!

I would just message and apologise for missing breakfast. See if anything flows from that initial contact. I would imagine he thinks you're not interested as you were a no show at breakfast

I once met a soldier in a bar when I was married, he asked for my number but told him I was married. Few months later I threw my dh out. I decided to find the soldier!! I knew the place he had been on a course so emailed them his name and would they pass on my number? The sergeant rang me!! I was mortified but he was intrigued!! The man I had met did text me and we had a brilliant few months before he was posted off!! Def no regrets!! And he was hugely impressed I had tracked him down!! Didn't feel like a stalker at all, had a great time and helped me get over twat exh!!

do it. what have you got to lose?