Met a guy, do I message him or not?

[paleontologist22]

Early last week I had an overnight stay at a hotel in town due to a works event. In the residents bar at night, I got chatting to a guy who was also there on work. We hit it off and got on like a house on fire. Around 4am he said he had to get some sleep as had to be up early. I said bye to him but he said he would see me at breakfast and maybe we could swap phone numbers then and keep in touch. I ended up sleeping straight through breakfast and therefore never saw him again.

Now I know his full name, and I've found him on social media (yes I googled him!). Would it be really stalkerish of me to send him a quick message? Just to say something like oh thanks for keeping us company, let me know if you're ever in this part of the country again?

Or do I just leave it and forget about him? I mean he was just a guy. And he actually lives in another country so I don't think anything would ever really happen but I just haven't been able to stop thinking about him and how well we got on or even how attracted I was to him!

Enjoy op

Yay! Please for you OP. Enjoy.

Message him! He was expecting to see you at breakfast, so it would have seemed like you weren't interested. Give it a go. Nothing to lose, but possibly something gain

Yay!! Let us know how it goes . 🤗🤗

Yay!

Hope it goes well! My now dh and I decided to have 3 months of fun before I left the country... We're now 12 years in and counting....
You never know

Yay! Love this update!

Yay!!! Great update!

Back in the non digital age, I went through a long sleuthing process to contact a man I had met on holiday. He walked away from me at the airport without swapping addresses or telephone numbers, leaving me so upset as I thought we had had a spark. That was 28 years ago. We have been together ever since, married for 24 years. It isn't always true to say that if they had wanted to maintain contact they would have taken your contact details.

I'm glad you messaged him OP. Hope you have some fun with him.

Great story Dumbledoresgirl

Well the snow is so bad near where I am, I've had to turn back home on my way in to work. At this rate, think it will be snow days on both sides rather than a date night! Aah well, if it's meant to be it will be, if not, he's a nice memory to have!

Invite him over - you may get snowed in together and live happily ever after!

@Dumbledoresgirl wow how did you ever manage to get hold of him?!

OM!!!! He messaged back ...... I am so pleased . Weekend meet . What did he write ? I bet he was really flattered that you messaged him !!! You must of made an impression . The snow ❄️ (sigh) ...... things can change weather wise and the roads will be up and running . I am very impressed you messaged home and left your comfort zone . Well done to you !!!! The rest is yet to be written ...... IF you don’t meet ..... you did make an impression , you left your comfort zone and from where I am sitting in this cold grey snowy day !!!! That is a positive . Well done you . I am very excited for you xx

@donerwillbehere haha I think he was slightly flattered 🙈 we've just been messaging back and forth about general stuff, our day, weekend plans, work etc. I'm trying not to get my hopes up but I am looking forward to seeing him on the weekend!

Thanks. The most romantic thing about dh and I is how we met and how I got the relationship off the ground after he left me at the airport. I have told this story on MN before, but here goes:

What I did was, in the last few seconds before he walked away, and when it was obvious he wasn't going to give me his contact details, I quickly memorized the beginning of his address from his address label. I wasnt totally sure i had read it right so I rang up directory inquiries and asked if dh's name and the address I had memorized matched. His number was X directory and the woman told me she couldn't give me his number. I said I didn t want it - I would have been too shy to ring him - but I just needed confirmation of the address, which she gave me. I then wrote him a letter, keeping it casual, basically saying what your message on Facebook said, and giving him my phone number. He rang me straightaway!

As I said, we have been together ever since. Dh claims now that he was always going to contact me, but that is a downright lie as I know he did not have my address or number. The truth is, he was a really callow 23 year old at the time and he was simply too shy to ask me for my details. Normally, I would have been too scared of rejection to make the first move, but, as I said before, we really clicked and something just told me he was worth risking rejection for.

Now, no pressure on you! Just have fun and enjoy whatever you get from this moment.

Amazing story Dumbledoresgirl. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

My DP and I got together after we sparked when our paths crossed briefly and I searched for him online to find his name (I knew where he worked so started my search from there 🙈) and then sent him a message. Been together ten years soon

ooh following this:)

This is really exciting :)

Haha oh the pressure!

In all honesty, I don't want a relationship. I've just come out of a pretty serious relationship not long ago and he obviously lives in a different country. But I am up for drinks out with a new potential friend!

How exciting! Good luck OP

Yay. I look forward to hearing about your wedding

But really like you said it's nice to meet new people and hopefully this has been a confidence boost and you now know Facebook stalking can work

Oh deffo no wedding bells that's for sure 🙈

God I've never had to message a guy first, no idea how it all works! Although he's very pleased that I did message. Our date this week has been cancelled, i have to work one day and he has to work the next unfortunately. But we're trying to get something else in for this coming week.

Just back for a little update...!

We've now met up twice. One for a nice meal and drinks and second, it just so happened we were travelling in the same place for work so we had a coffee, something to eat and walked around that city. We message and talk back and forth more or less every day since I sent that initial message. He leaves the country in 3 weeks exactly which I guess is a little sad but I'm just going to enjoy all the time I have left with him, which is quite difficult seeing as we both travel for work and rarely in the same place at the same time!