Met a guy, do I message him or not?

[paleontologist22]

Early last week I had an overnight stay at a hotel in town due to a works event. In the residents bar at night, I got chatting to a guy who was also there on work. We hit it off and got on like a house on fire. Around 4am he said he had to get some sleep as had to be up early. I said bye to him but he said he would see me at breakfast and maybe we could swap phone numbers then and keep in touch. I ended up sleeping straight through breakfast and therefore never saw him again.

Now I know his full name, and I've found him on social media (yes I googled him!). Would it be really stalkerish of me to send him a quick message? Just to say something like oh thanks for keeping us company, let me know if you're ever in this part of the country again?

Or do I just leave it and forget about him? I mean he was just a guy. And he actually lives in another country so I don't think anything would ever really happen but I just haven't been able to stop thinking about him and how well we got on or even how attracted I was to him!

How exciting!

I remember this thread 👍. Just embrace the nice warm fuzzy feeling and live in the moment. Brilliant update.

Great uplifting update on this quiet(as in no DGC's for a change) Sunday morning.

Ah . I love a good love (ish) story 😊

@Milomonster yes I got divorced late last / early this year. I got married quite young and found myself divorced at 28. Having been in a relationship for nearly 11 years I'm finding being single an amazing change! I enjoyed marriage but for one reason or another it just wasn't to be.. hence why I'm not putting massive amounts of pressure on myself at the moment. Enjoying many girlie nights out, and just generally living life. I've met a few people over the summer but no one I really wanted to let in to my life on a longer basis to be honest.

Will update again once I meet him but just looking forward to spending time with him over the weekend!

Thanks for your reply - I don’t get excited by too many posts but I’m really looking forward to your update! Roll in next weekend!!

I would message!

Oh lord, I should have rtft. Hurray!

This is exciting OP

Aw great !

Thanks for the update 😁

Lovely

Thanks for the lovely update

I hope you update this in two years on the morning of your wedding -hopeless romantic-

Balls strike through fail!

You definitely should absolutely message him! Apologise for standing him up at breakfast and that you want to thank him for his company!
You've nothing to lose, he doesn't even live in the same country as you so whets the harm?
I think it would be rude not to message him and as others have said.... Life's too short, just go for it!

Ignore my reply lol..... I somehow missed a page or two!

Oh I remember this one! So glad he wasn't a married sleaze!

Lovely update and it's great to read about you living life and loving it! That's what it's all about and I wish you well with everything xx

Thanks everybody! Not sure where life is going to take me or him.. his job is obviously is another country and mine is here but like I've said I'm just going to spend, what will hopefully be, a lovely weekend together.

We've been talking a lot more, just made easier by being in the same country and no time difference etc.

God this feels like it's going to be the longest week ever!

This is such a lovely story!! I feel really invested in it now having read through the whole thing, I hope the weekend goes amazingly!!

Any updates?

Good timing @Milomonster I've literally just stepped in the house after two nights away! We met halfway to where we both live so had made plans to explore that city. We ate, went to a few bars, had a dance or two, stayed up to watch the UFC fight and just had a really good weekend!

He's now back at work from today, so contact is slightly reduced again and we're trying to fit a time in our diary for when we can both do this again. It's so tough with his job however, he's literally been home for 3 hours in the last 6 months, and his home is 4 hours away from me

But a really fun weekend nevertheless!

Ahhhh how lovely! Is there chemistry? Can you see it going somewhere beautiful??

@Milomonster chemistry there for sure! Obviously we've met before but it was really night to finally meet again after talking through the summer.

We did talk about the future (as in the general future, not our future), his job is still very much USA and mine is here. He's contracted to be in this country for at least 3 months of the year but broken up in to smaller chunks of weeks.

I was never up for a long distance relationship, especially it being the first one since my divorce but now I'm rethinking that stance!