Met a guy, do I message him or not?

[paleontologist22]

Early last week I had an overnight stay at a hotel in town due to a works event. In the residents bar at night, I got chatting to a guy who was also there on work. We hit it off and got on like a house on fire. Around 4am he said he had to get some sleep as had to be up early. I said bye to him but he said he would see me at breakfast and maybe we could swap phone numbers then and keep in touch. I ended up sleeping straight through breakfast and therefore never saw him again.

Now I know his full name, and I've found him on social media (yes I googled him!). Would it be really stalkerish of me to send him a quick message? Just to say something like oh thanks for keeping us company, let me know if you're ever in this part of the country again?

Or do I just leave it and forget about him? I mean he was just a guy. And he actually lives in another country so I don't think anything would ever really happen but I just haven't been able to stop thinking about him and how well we got on or even how attracted I was to him!

No not weird at all, I'm unsure if he'd even be able to tell that you didn't do it at the same time. It just gives a better notification of messages un-opened. I recently found about 3-4 messages I'd never read in my inbox, so I don't think fb always sends a notification.

Please wave or add him.on messenger as others have suggested. Otherwise I don't think he will see the message.

Do it!

Right so I've just added him on messenger. You lot are bad influences, that's as far as I'm going with this now!

Ahhh, you did completely the right thing!! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by this...it isn't weird and if it was me I would be flattered...good luck!! ❤️

Good going op I love these types of threads!

Well done!

Meh, you'll both be married soon 😊 Be sure to invite us to the wedding! It's exciting! Who knows where it will lead to?!

So....did he reply yet??

One tick on messenger means it's been read. It's not like Whatsapp which is two ticks.

Googled...

Facebook Messenger lets you know when a message has been sent, delivered, and read. ... If that circle shows the recipient's profile photo, it means that person has seen your message. A blue circle with a white check mark indicates your note has been delivered, but not read yet.4 May 2016

It's one tick in a white circle.. I have other messages I have sent and received and there is a profile pic of the person once they have read. I'm assuming he hasn't read it.

So sorry guys, no idea if/when he ever will!

Does he have LinkedIn? Just thinking cause you met him on professional grounds

One tick in a white circle means not delivered. Probably because you are not friends.

if you're not friends on fb it will go to his other inbox (called message requests) that no one ever looks at. it might be better just to send a friend request?

I agree that linkedin would be a good idea Lexie. Looks professional rather than personal.

Well.. he messaged back. He's still around my neck of the woods, so dependent on the snowstorm near me (currently can't get my car out the cul de sac) we may be meeting up this weekend!

There is no "other" box. Hasn't been for ages. As has been mentioned here several times.

Although he does leave the country in a few weeks but I can have fun until then!

Yay paleontologist22! So cool he replied positively - have fun til he leaves the UK and maybe beyond ...

Brilliant op, but.. leaves the country for good?

Not for good but leaves the country for a looong time! Which is fine by me, I don't know him well enough to be heartbroken and I'm not up for a long term relationship, even though I doubt this will even lead to that. I'm just seeing it as 2 people who got along and having a fun night out together.

Yay, brilliant! So glad we didn’t allow you to talk yourself out of it!

What fantastic news! Enjoy!

Lovely OP! Hope you both have lots of fun.