NC Dignity Club part 7: always wear your invisible crown

[Belonger]

A thread for anyone wanting support with going or staying in No Contact. No judgement, just lots of support. Warning: this thread can seriously increase your willpower and self esteem!

Recommend also visiting website from Natalie Lue, Baggage Reclaim, or reading her book The No Contact Rule.

Tbh I am ill feeling really rough and I think that's contributing to my current state of mind

Belonger do you think he'll contact you on exactly the 1st March or wait a few days into March? How will you know if he's tried if he's blocked on every thing

quite a lot of snow so schools shut and i am on my own in a remote cottage (15m from shops/petrol). I was meant to be on an ASD course this am (re kids) but thats cancelled too.
Just feel so fed up. 3 men in the last year have 'cared so much about me' but i bet none will text today to see if i am ok

@basseting I want to know that you are OK...! I am the same... Poorly, snowed in and feeling fed up... This thread is a lifeline

Getting I'm with you on not being afraid to rock the boat. Prior to my 30 NC my messages were full of questions to try and prolong the conversation and I was terrified everything would stop abruptly. Even though I've strong feelings now still I'm not afraid anymore of saying certain things. If he goes so be it. I'll be myself 100%

Basseting I hear ya. I feel my NC won't text to say stay safe today either. Unsure whether it's because he doesn't know what to say or genuinely doesn't care

sorry to hear that, Seshi what variety of poorly do you have? x

seshi you will totally get to this place of detachment if you keep going, I promise you. I never thought I could, I have been tangled up obsessively with this guy on and off for literally years. It's taken me lots of reading about love addiction, attachment styles and lots of talking about it in counselling to work out why he triggered so much desperation in me. And it's helped so much to have the wonderful women of this thread to discuss it all with, and to come to when I'm having a wobble.

Staying out of contact with him is the only thing that has enabled me to detach, and it's sooooooooo liberating! Keep going, you can do it. It's super hard when you're poorly and fed up though, I know how that feels. But we care about you loads, and are sending and a

nk there's something he's blocked me on that I can't work out how to block him on (god I feel like a bloody teenager!) - because I'm blocked I can't get his profile up to block him I think. So he could contact me that way. Otherwise, I won't know if he tries to text or anything because my phone doesn't store blocked texts.

So I'm truly going for it this time, no sneaky checking to see if he's trying to make contact.

I finally want to be free of him more that I want him to want me.

Thats the thing isnt it NK
various people 'wont text' today = totally fine, people have their own lives and dramas. And I dont want to be some 'elderly poorly aunt' type but I DO care that DOM wont text 'stay in / drive safely' (his last text to me after I came home 3 weeks ago)

My dd is on the trampoline having great fun. LIke the Cat in The Hat: 'Look at me look at me look at me now!'

Counts blessings.

getting so glad you're in such a detached and calm place - brilliant!

I'd love to have a go on a trampoline in the snow!!

@belonger thank you so much... Your message has lifted me... As do everyones comments. @basseting just got a rotten cold and generally knackered from work... I am OK just being a wuss... But ordinarily when I wobble I hit the gum or run and I can't atm...

Have a feeling this thread will be busy today... Let's get the kettle on

Lovely ladies

I'm sorry your old guy is such a git, basseting. Someone who doesn't even thank you for SENDING ACTUAL CASH is surely never going to manage to send a 'hope you're OK' text. He gives you a lot of reasons to be angry.

How did your event go seshi? Well done for getting through it when you're under the weather.

Yes please to a cuppa. I'm working at home today and will be chain drinking tea I think. Have got a hot water bottle on my feet!

Seshi sorry have been scrolling thru re your 'poorly' but cant find.
will not get a minutes peace today from my Blessings.
(they really are btw I just get so tired sometimes and wish for help or even company. I think I'd not get on well in OLD = too needy!)

Ah, x posts Seshi - hard if you cant do your usual 'go to' fix i agree.

Belonger well i chose to send it. I will have embarrassed him (he is very Old School) and made him feel pressured I expect. But yes he is also a thoughtless tosser too!

I wish you could see Dd. She is 10 and a real tomboy. She is SO exicited about the snow. We have about 4 inches but its drifting so up against doors/windows Christmas card style. I am worrying about lack of petrol in tank / how to drive the 40miles to get stitches out (might be a diy job?)/ what food is in cupboards and her big brother 12 is terrified t'internet might go down because then he would actually, like, you know, DIE or something ..... but Dd is like a happy spaniel so I am trying to focus on that :)

OldBrook God, so sorry I'd missed that completely!
I am sorry for your loss.

I agree that at times like that it is often those we dont expect who are great and those who perhaps 'should' who can be a bit rubbish.

Sorry again.x

Wow Belonger you totally rock

Seshi get well soon

I definitely think we'll be busy bees today on here.

What did you send Basseting?

Am tempted to send a stay safe message. Because I mean it and I am a caring person. But stubbornness won't allow me