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NC Dignity Club part 7: always wear your invisible crown

999 replies

Belonger · 23/02/2018 15:09

A thread for anyone wanting support with going or staying in No Contact. No judgement, just lots of support. Warning: this thread can seriously increase your willpower and self esteem!

Recommend also visiting website from Natalie Lue, Baggage Reclaim, or reading her book The No Contact Rule.

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Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 25/02/2018 09:57

Big walk for me today and yes house cleaning .

gettingthereshopefully · 25/02/2018 10:02

Good on you Bloodyuseless!

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 25/02/2018 10:20

FB is spying on me

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gettingthereshopefully · 25/02/2018 10:25

Ooh, yes, Blooduseless; learn to sit on your impulses. I like that. I'm learning slowly and surely to do that. Not an easy job.

gettingthereshopefully · 25/02/2018 10:26

Whilst I'm resolute about the biologist I'm thinking about him so bloody much. It's normal, I know. Like a craving. The drug has to work its way out of my system.

Oldbrook · 25/02/2018 10:31

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gettingthereshopefully · 25/02/2018 10:32

Yes, I do believe they have some kind of radar, OldBrook otherwise why would mine have reached out at exactly the time I was out having drinks with the biologist last Friday?

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 25/02/2018 10:33

It's rough Getting. I'm resolute as well and still find myself thinking about him an awful lot.

I've no regrets messaging last night. I had decided I would message over the weekend and I did. Thanks for the advice over the photo I'm glad I didn't send it

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 25/02/2018 10:35

Yes Oldbrook I definitely think that. Otherwise how would it explain my NC reaching out to me on Day 30.

Haven't heard anything back from NC today. Would expect to get something later on today when he's on his own but we'll see. Maybe he's going NC on me!!!

Oldbrook · 25/02/2018 12:07

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Rhubarbginn · 25/02/2018 12:10

oldbrook he misses you as a friend because of the time and attention you gave him when it suited him. Nothing has changed.
Think of all the commitment you’ve put into going nc over the 10 days. And if you replied he would think ‘it only took a smiley emoji and she came running back’.
Keep going. It’s never going to be easy.

gettingthereshopefully · 25/02/2018 12:10

He's not going to throw you away so easily NK! It's your fear talking.

Rhubarbginn · 25/02/2018 12:11

nk how do you feel about things?

gettingthereshopefully · 25/02/2018 12:11

Bloody good advice to OldBrook, Rhubarb!

I would be tempted to add that no man is worth all this mental anguish and heartache.

Rhubarbginn · 25/02/2018 12:11

Day 2 for me. Yesterday was tough in that I felt low. But today seems better.

gettingthereshopefully · 25/02/2018 12:13

Day 4 of not instigating contact for me with the biologist and Day 2 of NC.

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 25/02/2018 12:23

Great advice to Oldbrook Rhubarb. And well done on Day 2. Glad today is going well. How are things with your H?

Oldbrook you are doing smashing. Don't let him ruin on you. He is going to have to learn that he can't just click his fingers and you go running to him.

Getting well done on not instigating and NC. I wonder what the biologist will say when he does make contact.

I'm alright. Going to try and keep busy today. I'm confident I'm on the right path with or without him

Basseting · 25/02/2018 13:05

How are you all today my darlings?
Crowns on? slipped? heavy? forgotten they are on?
(I am putting off my tattoo, my back is still sore from 3 goes at the spinal! but my foot is improving so that is good).
I have just had the first peaceful cup of tea since Tues (sent exH out for an hours walk with very reluctant kids - if he tries to 'help' any more I will put him under the patio). The tea was so nice I accompanied it with 3 homemade Rose macaron, a gift from a friend.
I have spares, if anyone fancies a Sunday afternoon treat?
(fills tea pot, brews coffee, puts macron (lemon too) and fruit cake on tray)

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 25/02/2018 13:12

Oh I'd love a brew with you Basseting. You're hilarious! You've just reminded me of Trevor Jordache on Brookside Grin

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 25/02/2018 13:13

Just got a message from NC. I was right that he was waiting until he was on his own.

Solly76 · 25/02/2018 13:18

I'm back on. I kept failing. He would dangle hope and then withdraw emotionally again.

I need to keep to it this time

Solly76 · 25/02/2018 13:21

My NC is a biologist too Gettingthere. I really hope it's not the same one.

Solly76 · 25/02/2018 13:23

My NC is a biologist too Gettingthere. I really hope it's not the same one. Knowing him I would not be too surprised. Though I'm sure there's loads of biologists out there and it's just a coincidence Smile

seshi · 25/02/2018 13:29

@basseting can I come for a brew...? @nk what did the message say?

My Crown is slipping Hmm

Basseting · 25/02/2018 13:31

seshi you are most welcome! more the merrier!

nk I've never seen Brookside (wot you on about then?)