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[Dez85]

Evening!!

I am feeling so angry right now!!

Cut a long story short, my boyfriend was on my laptop earlier and it crashed and wouldn't reload so he just left it.... I've just loaded it back up and his Facebook comes up, still logged on!

Anyway, he's on his phone right now at the other end of the sofa, & I'm on my laptop... I can see that he's just 'waved' at 5 women, 3 of which have replied and he's having conversations with!! Every time he sends a message, he deletes it so the convo disappears. But little does he know, I'm watching them pop up and reading every word.

I know I shouldn't be invading his privacy & I have never done this before but bloody hell...

What an absolute C**t. Or am I over reacting?

Is it bad I really wanna play him / catfish him or something?

It's ok to want to but dont do it. Why bother prolonging the agony when right now you never have to see him again.

Morning op,

I’m so sorry, what an absolute dick.

In your shoes I’d want to catfish him and mess with his head too!

No I think it's pretty normal to try and get one over him coz I would as well but he'll just lie and say he knew it was you all the time bla bla.
Personally I'd just dump his shit in the street and never look back. Block, delete, never give him another second of your time or energy.

I have no idea how you kept so calm last night, I wouldn't of been able too, what a knob. This is 100% cheating in my book. Leave leave leave. Thank goodness you found out though, everything happens for a reason an all that

Defiant gonfor dignified. I wish I had. My last ex, a while ago now, cheated on me. I found out on Facebook too. But I kept on going until he dumped me and I had a real break down.

Only later did I realise that I let him do it to me. I gave him all my self respect and he trod all over me.

Dump him via text. Delete and block his number. That’s the best way. And the best revenge. He’ll always wonder what happened.

Luckily you found out now and not years down the line

I can't understand why you are dragging this out.
Sending emojis? (Which meant nothing, to me at least)
Pondering how to 'play' this?

Just get on with it or you're no better than he is.

^ it’s almost like it’s a game of something

I didn't understand the emojis either If I received those from DP I'd just think "oh how nice, he's waving. Oh look! A biscuit! I want a biscuit now"

OP is dragging this out as she is in shock, she's only just found out, new relationship so still strong feelings. Even when you find out it doesn't instantly switch off your feelings.

Early days - get out now . Its shouldn't be this hard so early on . I know the wanting revenge thing but really just move on.

You lost my sympathy when you attempted you refer to the other women as slappers for going home with different men.

You allowed a man who you’re only with 8months and who spent the night chatting up other women sleep in your bed.

The other women are slappers hey?

They may not have known what he was like but you do now. You're not dumping.....

@BulletWithABun yes I think it is Firefox - how do I do that?

Ok i apologise for calling them slappers but I was angry last night!

I've blocked him on WhatsApp, text and Facebook now. I didn't give an explanation as to why.

"Today 10:26 AnimalBrain

You lost my sympathy when you attempted you refer to the other women as slappers for going home with different men.

You allowed a man who you’re only with 8months and who spent the night chatting up other women sleep in your bed."

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I RTFT hoping someone, anyone, would have noticed and challenged that!

I wonder if you was cheating on his ex with you without you knowing?

This may be a thread to some, but presumably it is real life for OP- so I don't think whether posters feel sympathy or pass judgment on choice of words in heat of moment is of particular interest to the OP. I hope not.

It must be awful for her and I wish you the best OP.

Probably best not to get revenge in this case though as, unlike the TV (where we have the facts and get an idea of the goodie and the baddie in a situation) in real life he will just spin it that "you were nuts, stalking him, spying" whatever.

This is one situation where being dignified is the best revenge and will frustrate the hell out of him not knowing back story of his own life - a bit of medicine for how he treats others.

Absolutely, the less he hears from you from now on, the more frustrating it would be for him.

Your best revenge is to make your life fabulous from now on, living your best life without him.

Thanks @BulletWithABun

@louise5754 no, well not that I know of!! They have been split about a year.

Thanks everyone for your replies, appreciate them all.

So we he was cheating on her for at least 4 years 😬

I wonder if this is why they split up.

If your laptop hadn't frozen you would have never known.

I don't i don't understand why these men don't stay single if they need to have so many women on the go. As in not move in / declare they're in a relationship.

@Dez85 I'm actually SO proud of your response to him and I don't even know you! Now that he's gone to work and you've sent that message, have all of his stuff in bin bags and leave them outside the house. Don't answer the door to him if he tries to knock. I really hope you're ok, you're well better being rid of him

So he hadn't been single that long when you met. A few months after a 10 year relationship is not long enough at all.
I'm not making excuses for him he obviously has a history of acting like a twat. Makes you wonder how many times he cheated on the ex.
I don't know why people are so quick to rush into relationships when they've only just finished fucking up the last one.
Anyway good job you found out this soon. At least you can move on and start afresh relatively easily. Onwards and upwards op.

Do you have kids op? He's even more of a wanker if he's got to know your kids knowing he probably won't be around for long x