Cheating husband? Help with WhatsApp please!

[betrayedorcrazy]

I recently downloaded WhatsApp to my phone to talk to a particular friend who is not on Facebook. I knew my husband had it so wasn't surprised when he popped up in my contacts. I mentioned it to him and he said he hadn't used it since messaging a friend a few months ago.
I saw the last seen thing when I sent my friend a message and, being nosy, clicked on my husbands. I was out at the time and it said last seen about 10 mins after I went out. This was about a week ago and he seems to go on it once a day when I'm not about. He has an iPhone and leaves all his apps open but always swipes this one away. He has 3 old chats on WhatsApp but when I looked in the data and storage bit there were 3 more numbers - 2 saying 2 messages and one saying 1 photo, he has deleted them since I told him I have the app.
I then looked in network usage, and the status media bytes received is showing MB rather than KB as everything else does. That's a lot right?
I googled WhatsApp status and see that you can post a status that lasts 24 hours. Now I'm wondering if that's why he only goes on it once a day, to look for a status update from someone. There were none in there this morning when I looked, but if I do find one and open it will he know?
He seems perfectly normal and I have no reason to suspect anything is wrong apart from him lying about not going on this app. I have no idea what I'm doing with WhatsApp so would appreciate any info people can offer.

Sorry for such a long post.

What a dickwad. OP, you're doing well although I'm sure you feel like shit. Play the long game of dignity and you will triumph.

Get copies of all his assets/savings etc NOW.

My poor MIL blindly agreed to a trial separation. She hoped for a reconciliation, so didn’t get her ducks in a row at the time. Now FIL lives elsewhere and she has no knowledge of his finances, nor can she snoop through his paperwork.

I am so sorry OP. what a first rate arse. It didn't look good to me in the first place by saying he didn't use WhatsApp when he clearly did and it was when you were not around. To anyone else in this position and with a gut feeling like this, I do suggest using whats detective as I suggested before (no i don't work for them-)! but it does work and is useful to see if Whatsapp is being used when someone is saying they do not etc or deleting messages, so it looks as if they are not. I am not suggesting everyone just uses it for sheer noseiness but when your gut is saying something isn't right it can be a useful tool. Can also put your mind at rest too to be honest if indeed they aren't using it (well not on 'that' phone anyway)! The OP is proof here that lying arses don't always go around being 'obvious' , nor in many cases does the relationship have any really obvious issues/arguments etc.

So sorry you are going through this what a total cunt he has been

Just goes to show how strong your gut feelings can be and to always believe in your intuition.

I wish you well op so so sorry x

Shit, so sorry ((())))

So sorry but at least you know. Why did he need money? was he also seeing sex workers recently or did he pay her? Just a horrible thought.
Been in the same position but it was the tip of an iceberg. he had been doing it for years.
Glad you have kicked him out and he has no chance.
You don't have to listen to the bullshit excuses........it makes it harder to get over.
I would go as NC as you can.

Hope you're ok, OP xx

I'm so sorry OP.. I'm sickened for you .. utterly sickened... a fucking Dog Walker... you couldn't make this up.... please stay strong

The free half hour/hour consultations are a thing. I went to one recently for similar and it proved invaluable to me. I just rang round until I found one that provided that service.

I suppose it doesn't really matter if he was actually scared that she would tell you if he stopped. He still did it in the first place so that's no defence at all.

I'm really sorry you were right, even if it wasn't the way you expected.

OP's gut was her guide and it's interesting. When I first read OP 's first post, I thought that there's not a whole not to go on there really. But she knew something was off

Hope you're ok OP

I wonder if the woman he's been seeing for dog walks might be a hooker.

Don't feel sorry for him OP. He probably went straight round to OW house to be comforted after you were so unreasonable you threw him out. You will be the psycho ex soon

You will get through this and be so much stronger on the other side. He will probably get nasty when he realised you aren't falling for his bullshit.

Hope u are ok op

I've been following your thread OP and so sorry for what's happened .
Hope you have a good friend with you in RL . Can you take a bit of time off to sort things ?
I booted my ex out after 25 years and honestly MN was a godsend for actual practical direction.
Be kind to yourself , sleep lots, eat well and take baby steps x

Jeez. So sorry op. Had no idea this is how this would end when I started reading.

Jesus. So sorry OP that this happened to you. I read your OP and thought that, for once, this thread would end with 'it was nothing' but again the gut feeling is one to take strong heed of.

Take care xx

Yes I thought she might be a hooker too.

Wonder if the op lives near me having similar issue with my dh WhatsApping and meeting up with a dog walking hooker of course dh claims it’s all innocent

OP, so so sorry to hear this. Please listen to the advice from previous posters about your finances. I agree you have a window of opportunity to sort this while he is feeling remorseful. Best of luck.

Thinking about you, OP. Are you coping?

Thinking of you op

@betrayedorcrazy hi Op, I thought of you today and really hope that you are holding things together. We are all here if you need us.

Sending you hugs xxx

So sorry to read your updates. That is so awful!

OP I’ve just read this thread and wanted to let you know I was thinking of you and hope you are doing ok.